Canceling Thanksgiving Dinner due to bad mood -- really really need to vent
 

Hi,

I am feeling hugely overwhelmed with stuff due to work, friend, work friend, parents, sis, hubby, my own medical and teeth issues, hubby's new four day rotation diet, . . . .

And I can't stand the smell or taste of Chinese food. We are canceling my stupid idea to go out to Chinese food for Thanksgiving.

I don't care if hubby goes out. I will be staying home.


My Friend is being needy and rude and I am not in the mood.

I had to visit a very sick colleague in the hospital today. The hospital was far away and the traffic freaked me out. But of course I am at a loss about how to feel about colleague's sickness. I can't process it. And maybe I won't even try.
I'll send her good energy and hope for the best for her and try to keep that separate from my issues -- but it is hard.

Work is piling up. I'm tired.
The apt needs cleaning.
I need more money.

Hubby and I are still paying bills the stupid way. We each pay certain bills instead of letting him pay all the bills -- the way I have been talking about here for a while now.

I last washed / showered on Thursday, Nov. 20.
Maybe I should go take a shower and get clothes ready for work tomorrow.


Mari

Mari, go take a shower, then hop in bed. Get some good zzzzzz's.

I hope you feel better in the morning. Your problems will still be there, but perhaps you'll be better able to cope with them. :hug:

i am sorry you made yourself go to the hospital.............that seems like the proverbial straw...sounds like you are bending too much and just snapped.
Do whatever you want to do on thanksgiving...even if it is sleeping through it...don't push yourself through any more hoops...you will take a shower when you feel like it.
Bobby

Thank you.
 

Yes, about the hospital.
I knew that she had been sick, but it was a different thing to see her in her hospital bed and hear her talk a bit about what was happening.
Ordinarily I would not have gone to the hospital -- might have sent a card and telephoned.
But another colleague needed me to drive her -- that made it complicated because I had to pick her up and drop her off and so forth.
Then I sort of got weirded out on the way home in the dark with the other cars on the highway and I was unfamiliar with the roads.

Hubby just woke up from his nighttime nap (he has an odd sleep schedule too). He is fine with doing nothing on Thanksgiving.
And I just sent an email to needy friend canceling Thanksgiving.
I told her to apologize to her brother for me.
I need to stay inside for the upcoming 4 day weekend and try to regain my sense of equilibrium.


I am starting to feel better already. The Thanksgiving meet up was bothering me.

Regarding the shower: I just took one a few minutes ago. Now I am clean and wide awake because it is stimulating to go through that.

(Yes, I sound a bit grumpy. ;) )


Mari

Mari
 

It's good to vent. Don't hold it inside. It sounds like you are having many worries. I understand the frustration. Things will be OK.

People in traffic on the road are crazy,and impatient to often. Sometimes they try to make you accelerate beyond the speed limit,through tailgating techniques. I hate that.

I'm sorry that your night guard,and dentist have caused you problems.

I was angry over the weekend myself. I feel better now.

I also think that it's the changing of seasonal things that make us frustrated,angry,and depressed this time of year. BF:hug::hug::hug:

Dear Friend,
Thank you.

I'm sorry that you had an angry weekend.

And people really should be nicer on the roads.

Tonight I think that I was a bad driver because I did not know where I was going and some people really did give me some consideration and that was a good thing.

Regarding the weather: the tv news keeps saying we are going to have a cold spell. They announce it like it is a big deal the way that they do hurricanes. Then I check the weather and it is 3-5 degress difference -- I wear the same sweater I wore the day before.
I wonder why they think that they have to generate anxiety about weather. I wish that they would take a break.

Mari

Mari
 

I get that way to if Im driving in a unfamiliar area,and I don't know where to turn. I've made some really bad mistakes in unfamiliar areas.

Yes. The weather hype. They profit from the ratings,hype,and things. I don't like that either. I don't like those commercials that worry you about health concerns late at night.

I have a hard time jumping in the shower if I'm troubled also. You are not alone on that. BF:hug::hug::hug:

Mymorgy
 

Hi Bobby. I hope you are doing OK. BF:hug::hug::hug:

Mari
 

I saw that Craig Ferguson silly late night show. Humor seems to help. BF:hug::hug::hug:

'Glad that you got to see the show.
 

Right now Craig Ferguson is my favorite tv personality.

My sis and I even make jokes and then say, "I knooooow" in that whiny kind of voice he does.

I like how he talks to he guests too.
I missed him tonight but last night he had on Simon Baker from the Mentalist.

Thanks for being here tonight. :)


Mari

Mari
 

"I know!",as Craig would say. I caught the end of it tonight. He is just as funny is they can get. They didn't give him a band. Know respect. lol I think that he is funny with his eye's. His jokes are so silly,and he makes them likeable.

I've been trying to watch more Letterman. I'm tired of Leno,but he's still funny. "I Know!!!!" lol BF:hug::hug::hug:

Mari
 

How about when Craig is Aquaman,and he grabs the fish,and gets the message,and says what happened to the other fish. I forgot the fishes name. I Knoooow!!!!! BF:grin:

We know a married couple (no kids) that we've been friends with for years that refuse to celebrate thanksgiving. I invitethem every year, but this is their day to crack open a beer and make chili dogs and chips and watch the football game. As Dave puts it "we love kids - and chose not to have any. We love food - especially without the hassle. And we love football, and Thanksgiving is the one day we are guaranteed to have off to enjoy our team and I'll be damned if we ruin it for the sake of tradition and over indulgence" lol.

(and im with you. chinese food + thanksgiving = heartburn and crappy mood. stay home and just enjoy the day relaxing!)

Bdix
 

I hope that you enjoy your day off,and relax. BF:hug:

I hope you're feeling better Mari, it stinks to feel like you're being pulled in all kinds of directions at once. I am glad you took a shower, I need to but can't because JAckie is home, so it will have to wait until he's in bed or back to school. I Hate vacation from school. It's just too dmn much. :( GOnna post a thread, don't feel you have to reply if you're not up to it okay? :D Take care! :hug:

I am sorry you are feeling down and having so much stress. Do only what you feel like doing.

I am not doing anything for Thanksgiving either, yes it is depressing, but it will pass, as everything does.

Enjoy the time you have to yourself, hope today you are feeling better.

Thinking of you, please take care.

Hugs, Nikko:hug:

Dear Mari,
It sounds like you took some of your stress away by canceling the thanksgiving outing.
I am glad that you did this,
You were able to say no and hopefully not feel guilty about that.
I am sorry that your friend is ill, that is something that is out of your control, you can just send her a card or call if you want to or not.
You are allowed to change your mind about things that is your right.
I hate driving at night too. The lights reflect off the road and it makes me a little disoriented even in familiar places, I'm a mess in unfamiliar places I have saftey issues as well, and get afraid.
Next time you could just say that you don't like to drive at night or that your vision is poor at night or that you can't go because you have other plans, (they don't need to know those plans that you want/need to read or do yoga to unwind or what ever).
You did well and survived the stress of the driving and such....
I hope that you have a less hecktic day today...the semester is winding up and down.
thinking of you and sending good thoughts your way.
Grateful for your friendship
bizi

Friend,
Ferguson sings the opening theme song (It's recorded, but it is his voice.)
But I can't remember -- I think that some nights they don't use it. now

Mari

Hello,
Needy friend emailed me back and asked how I could possibly be so tense that I can't handle one outing.
I could tell her that she has been a PIA lately and I really really need a break from her.

For years, I used to order a cooked turkey for hubby, but last year he said we didn't have to do it anymore. He saw that I was not up to it and he was not all that interested anyway.

Bobi -- I like your friends' version of Thanksgiving.

Mari

Mari
 

Cast all of the burdens off,and lets watch Craig Ferguson tonight. " I KNOOOW!!!" Maybe a dash of Letterman might help. BF:hug::hug::)

I fell asleep in front of the tv for an hour.
I'm still out of sorts.
I need some sorts.

Maybe a few days of sleeping and being as calm as possible will help.

Mari

I am sending you some magic pixie dust to take away all of the stress you are feeling and give you a rest for the next few days.
bizi:hug:

Mari
 

I'm sending the "Sand Man" your way to help you sleep. LOL BF:hug::hug:

Dear Friend,
 

Thank you.
I'm on my way to bed now.
Did you get good sleep tonight?
M.

Mari
 

I'm sleeping better these days. My NP is increasing the dose of seroquel.:Yawn::Zzzz:

I hope that you get enough sleep,and rest over Thanksgiving. Sometimes we sort of burn out,and get tired physically,and emotionally,at the same time. That's a good time to get some shut eye. BF:hug::hug::hug:

Dear Mari
 

I'm sorry you have been going through all of this stress.

I do hope the 4 days off help/are helping. Thanksgiving itself is now over thankfully ;)

i was physically exhausted and achey last night and slept a lot. i too needed the sleep. i just woke up after many hours and after popping in and seeing your thread title, i decided i wanted to leave you a note here as i have been absent through your trials. i am glad you have had good support here. i am still not be able to be very present here.

Hats off to you for handling everything thus far, and for cancelling your Thanksgiving plans. I hope you had a soothing evening. I am glad you have your hubby's support.

As for your recently-PIA-needy friend's reply to you, well, that is a very PIA-needy type reply she sent, isn't it. I'm glad you are seeing her neediness and choosing to give yourself the space YOU need. That is hard to do sometimes.

~ waves ~ wishing you a soothing and restful 4 day weekend

Dear Waves,
 

I had promised friend that I would help her pack her apt. this weekend --
but for crying out loud she is not moving into her house until the end of December. !!!!!!
She does not need help "packing" . . . she actually wants me to hang out with her and fret with her.
Hello?
I do not want to add someone else's NON-issues to my list of things to fret over.
I spent 1.5 years "helping" her buy her house. I'm thinking she can fret this moving bit without my help.

Plus, her apt is full of cat hair and it always gets on my clothes.
I dislike having to come home and have to deal with cat hair.


My sis in Texas has been calling me every night to update me on the family reunion of my father's brothers and sister.
I am very happy that I did not have to spend any time with that group at my parent's house.

Sometimes the universe is very good.
Hubby and I had a good Thanksgiving.


Mari

Mari

I'm so glad you had a great day. And I think you did the perfect thing for
you.

I did a selfish thing for me this year too. I hadn't planned to do anything.
But my mom invited Derrick and I to her house. And we went.

I went later than Derrick thanks to his schools water problem. And I had
two nights to myself before. But the thing that I did that was really
selfish was I let others do the cooking and cleaning. I haven't felt so
good. And this time I decided I was just going to rest and enjoy the
time.

donna

good for you donna,
I hope you can rest this weekend as well.
((((HUGS))))
bizi

Between getting ready for my very busy week and maybe doing
some shopping. That is the goal.

I am spending the week in Indianapolis. I need to remake my

board. And I'm procrastinating.

Donna