Dejibo resigned from other space
 

I dont wish to rehash this or discuss it, but wanted to include you in my choice to resign.

It was a very difficult choice, and after a great deal of reflection, and recentering it was decided that I was simply not able to do what was asked of me.

Please know that I found a great deal of love, support, and kindness in the other space, but I am simply not able to continue as staff.

Thanks for all of the kind letters of support, and cheerleading. I do not wish to bring the business of another place here, just wanted you to know that I did indeed resign.

If they close the game room, I'm outa there. Most of the people are here anyway.

Ummm.... DocJohn, can you give us a game room? http://dl7.glitter-graphics.net/pub/...nij4o38tnc.gif http://dl7.glitter-graphics.net/pub/...nij4o38tnc.gif http://dl7.glitter-graphics.net/pub/...nij4o38tnc.gif

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Dejibo :hug:

Dejibo, I almost forgot your hug.... :hug: :hug: :hug:

We have "Games an Such"

http://neurotalk.psychcentral.com/forum104.html

like this? or something different?

There's actually an arcade at da udder place that has some fun games. They have the capability of hosting a tournament, but I've never seen one.

Deji, you hung in there a long time. Bravo for you and the good job you did!

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I know you well enough to know you made the right choice, and that it wasn't an easy one.

But commitments are like clothes. You have to pitch the ones that no longer fit you right. You can't hang onto them for sentimental reasons.

Gotta tell you, I got a chuckle reading your title. I thought it said Outer Space. Come to think of it, they do have their similarities.

:D

Thank you thank you thank you for the message box, and email box full of warm wishes, and support. It was an incredibly hard thing to do. I really wanted to make a difference, and I really wanted to be helpful, but found myself becoming more frustrated than helpful, and more worn out than filled up. As someone said the clothes no longer fit, and I kept pins in the waist band, and hiking them up, and trying. I knocked several things off my plate, all in one fell swoop. I did alot of alternative health and healing stuff, game stuff, I own the local freecycle, and I repair computers for the elderly, and low income families in town. To say I was busy is an understatement.

After this latest flair, which includes double ear infections, ON, and a trip to a bed other than my own for a while, the hubby snapped and asked for his wife back. I have been so busy giving to others, and covering for others, and helping others, and supportive of others, that I began to wander farther and farther away from my own nest. I was not able to simply go and enjoy places, and look up information for me, or shop for my own computer, it was always about something else, someone else, or caring for others instead of caring for me me me me me.

I also had several students that were in residence here, and all but one had gone through the course, and were very happy. I had one straggler that no matter how many times I explained it, or how many times I tried to repair it, she wasnt going to be happy. She stayed longer than anyone else, and became quite difficult to deal with. She was provided a partial refund and her unhappy butt was put on a bus. Even after I was admitted elsewhere, she thought she could stay at MY house, and "take care" of MY husband. God, I love that man. He called a female neighbor to escort her to her next stop, and told her to "GO AWAY!" He is so sweet! All mine!

The love and support that I have received here has been tremendous, and I am simply verklempt at all of the cheerleading, and support that has been directed AT ME! there has been no one standing in line saying "gimme, gimme" I know that you are sick, but "i need this" or "i need that" so,

MUCH LOVE TO ALL OF YOU! I have found so much love here. Thanks for helping me through such a difficult skip in my life. My choices to leave so many activities behind was shocking to say the least, but I need to focus on me and mine.

you guys rock! :hug:

:hug: Dejibo :hug:

I am proud of you for making a choice for yourself! :hug:

I thought the same thing....had to read it a couple of times to get it right. :eek:

I feel like I have been in outter space. dealing with aliens, and weirdos for a while. One of my students who wanted to know about shamanism kept talking about her alien friend who came from another planet to help her better understand her lessons. :eek:

Sounds to me like youwere almost addicted to selflessly helping everyone else. You know, you can't be of help to anyone if you don't take care of YOU first.

And part of you is your relationship.

I know it sounds trite, but it's true.

Don't get me wrong, I'm crazy impressed with how much you took on and how well you did it all. But I'm glad your husband spoke up for himself and for you, and that you saw the signs too, that it was getting to be too much before it was too late.

There is much to be said for that.

(Queen of analogies here...) You wouldn't run your car day in and day out without filling the tank and checking the oil, and you ought not do that to yourself either. You can do for others, but be sure that first, you have new wiper blades and air in your tires.

that is a lifechanging decision dejibo. and good for you.

i hope that in the coming wks and months you have as much joy and peace as you need.

Was she taking Lyrica? Just kidding...don't know if you caught my post about the hallucinations I was having during the short time I took Lyrica...

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good for you taking time off for YOU!!! hugsssss and hope you post in here and keep in touch....hugss,sarah

I mentioned it on the other space, but you go girl, take the time for yourself and just relax. You need it! :hug:

She did WHAT?!? OMG! That is seriously creepy! Sounds like she could be stalker material. Let's hope that she took the hint and wont be coming back to see if your husband "needs anything".

Me too! LOL

Dejibo - Congratulations! I know it must still be a little bittersweet but I think you did the right thing. Beside, now you have more time to hang out with US!:p

Moderating CAN be a pretty thankless job, and very stressful. It's not the same here . . . because they don't fuss over everything that gets posted and common sense prevails . . . but I can't imagine having to "make judgement" about virtually every word that is said. :cool::mad:

Once you have time to unwind, you might want to get more 'involved' somewhere else (or not). The trick is to find something that suits your values and time constraints.

All the best with your new-found freedom. :hug:

Cherie

ill give you a big smooch dejibo but will have to do a cyber one..


dont want your husband kicking my ******..


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roger.

I'm just glad to hear that you'll be refocusing your energy on you and your wellness :hug:

:D

Dejibo-:hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug:

I wish my doofy eyeballs would quit thinking the title of this thread is "Dejibo resigned from outer space."

Dejibo, I'm glad you have joined us over here. :hug: NT is a nice place to hang out, and a lot easier on the mind than the other place--and boy, do we ever need that! :D

Well, I have been a member here since the blizzard of last Jan when the other space completely changed. I have come here to be social for a while now, and have used the other space for more serious inquiries about MS, and so on. I in no way am endorsing any one space over another. I think ALL spaces have good and bad points, and much can be found in each space. This is MY preferred social space. Since I was not staff here, I could always come and stomp and whine about being grouchy, or whiney, and not feel like I was making a bad impression.

I have taken a MUCH needed break, and feel better for it. My ears are still infected, but MUCH more tolerable. I can actually talk on the phone again, for a few minutes without wanting to gouge my own eye out. The IVSM is all done, and while still feeling crappy from that, my ON calmed quite a bit. I have rested, watched TV, played video games, and just spent time with MY family.

I feel like I am slowly regaining some lost footing. We have a huge ice problem here, and more than half the state is without power. We are snug and warm, and remain all lit up here.

I plan on taking even more time away, and more time to regain, refocus, recenter, and rejoin my family. here and at home.