Bill's gone.
 

Bill passed away at around noon today. I just wanted to say hi and thank you for all of your good thoughts and prayers.

Bill's kids are sitting here watching tv to keep their mind off of things. They came in from Ky. His memorial will be Friday.

I am so tired but it is too early to go to bed. I most likely won't sleep anyway.

God was good to us in a way today. After we removed him from life support he lasted only 20 minutes. I was so worried he would linger. With his heart and lungs so bad, I prayed he would go soon. I stayed with him until the end and stayed and spent time with him.

The Minister came in and prayed with us before he passed and then afterward.

He was in the best hospital I had ever seen in my life, I was thankful for that too.

I am tired and I want to go to bed but I just needed to let all of my friends know.

Thanks again for all of your prayers and thoughts.

Love,
Ada

Sending lots of light hugs and prayers your (and Bill's) way.

Love Rosie xxxx

Oh Ada,

Deepest Sympathies to you and your family.

Come here to talk and share memories any time you need to.

((((((((Ada))))))))

My prayers are with you and your family.

Julie

my sincere sympathy, Ada

May God's comfort and love surround you

Cheri

aww..
 

Ohh Ada I am soo sory for your loss..
Honey if theres anything we can do just ask us ok..
Big hugs to you, and know we are here for you when you need to talk,
Sandra

Dear Ada,

I am so sorry to read about the loss of your husband. Many caring thoughts are with you during this difficult time.

Cara

Dear Ada,
I am so very sorry to hear this loss. You and your family will be in my heart and prayers. Big huge hugs. Sincerely, Roz

Oh Ada,

My heart goes out to you, I've been where you are now. You need the support of all of us and you know you have it. Make sure you have whatever you need from your doctor to get you through this time of all times. Don't try to start looking after everyone else right now, let them look after you, specially in the next few weeks.
You are very much in my thoughts at the moment, be strong, love and hugs.

You, Your Family and friends are all in my thoughts and prayers.
May God hold you in his hands.

God Bless you all.

*hugs* we're all here with open arms and with our hearts going out to you.
i know Billl is looking down on you. he will never leave you.

dear ada,

my deepest sympathy to you and bill's children.

Curious

My deepest sympathy Ada. May Bill rest in peace, in God's hands.

Cherie

please accept my deepest sympathy at your loss. many prayers are being sent your way. when 2 souls find each other like yours and bills, they are never really apart. he will always be with you, and youwith him. if there is any way i can help, please just call on me. until then, love hugs and prayers are being sent to you.

hugs and prayers

Dear Ada,

I'm so sorry for your loss. My deepest sympathies to you and your family. I pray for peace and painless days for you as you grieve.

Catherine

Ada, I'm so, so very sorry for your loss. I know there are no words to say right now that will make you feel any better. The loss of a loved one is very difficult...but the loss of a husband, a soul mate, is one of the most difficult to get thru. I hope you find solace, comfort, peace, in knowing he is no longer in pain, and I hope you know when you need a support group to help you thru this time. And I hope, too, that you will remember this very wise poem during this Thanksgiving season, which I am sure is going to be awfully difficult for you.

DO NOT STAND AT MY GRAVE AND WEEP
By Mary E. Frye

Do not stand at my grave and weep,
I am not there; I do not sleep.
I am a thousand winds that blow.
I am the softly falling snow.
I am the gentle showers of rain.
I am the fields of ripening grain.

I am in the morning hush.
I am in the graceful rush
of beautiful birds in circling flight.
I am the star shine of the night.

I am in the flowers that bloom;
I am in a quiet room.
I am in the birds that sing;
I am in each lovely thing.

Do not stand at my grave and cry.
I am not there; I did not die.

Please take care of yourself. Cry if you need to. Laugh at the memories. Smile at the happy times. Allow yourself to hurt when you need to, then wrap your arms around yourself, hug yourself, and know that Bill is holding you tightly in his arms, as he'd do if he were there with you.

You are in my thoughts and prayers...and Bill is watching over you, and God is holding him in his loving light.

Dear Dear Ada
 

You have us here waiting for you when you are ready my dear. In the meantime take it slow and know that many many prayers are with you and your family. I am so saddended for you loss. I do so wish I was closer to help you through this. I can cook up a mean meal in no time. :) In the meantime just know that you have your family here who love you very very much!

Love Mark xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxox:)

Oh Ada, I havent talked to you in soooo long...to anybody really, but I feel like we are old family. I am so sorry for your loss and you are one strong woman. Sending lotsa love and prayers and hugs your way. Love from Deb

Ada: Words cannot express how saddened I am to learn of Bill's passing. Please know that you and your family are in my thoughts. Regards, Lil

Dear Ada,

Please accept my sympathy and the love from all of us around you, in this time of enormous sadness. Know that you and Bill are in all of our hearts.

Mike

Ada So Sorry For Your Loss..haven't Written To You But Have Read Your Posts..i Am Going Thru Something Similar.. It Takes Time To Cope But You Have Many Understanding Friends Here...be Good To Yourself So Your Pain Does Not Double Your Loss..thinking Of You And Your Family...moonstar


Rsd For Over 13 Yrs. Trying To Cope With The Loss Of Handicapped Child..due To Medical Neglegience 10/16/05

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hi ada
 

you know i am sending tons of thoughts and big hugs to you........

i hope that you were able to see the sights with bills kids like you told me you were going to do on Thanksgiving...............

i will call you this evening to see how you are doing..........

i know it will be a very hard holiday season, but remember to take care of yourself..................

big huge gentle hugs to ya ada..................

I am writing to thank all of you for your kind words. I'm trying to keep busy and I guess doing this is one way of doing it. I have been laying in bed working word puzzles and watching tv just to keep my mind off of losing Bill.

This is the first night I have been alone. I have had my boys for 2 nights but they have school tomorrow so they had to go home.

I am having a time dealing with this. I don't even know where or how to start. When I think about not getting to say goodbye to him except when he couldn't hear me then it makes me hurt even more.

I want to be alone to think about him and to cry over him but then again, I'm feeling alone.

Claudia called me tonight to talk to me and I am so thankful for such a good friend has she has been to me. I got off of the phone with her because I felt so tired but trying to go to sleep is nearly impossible.

The services were the most beautiful I had ever seen. We couldn't get a Minister because of the holidays so our PCP spoke and our Undertaker. They both new Bill well enough that they could talk about him in a personal way.

No one knows what this is like until they go through it. I know some of you here most likely have in time.

I am going to try and rest some. I know if I lay down I will be thinking of him so much I won't be able to sleep. We were married 34 years as I told you and we just seemed to wrap outselves up in our own little world and loved it.

Thanks again for all of your support.

Ada

How kind of you to take the time to let us know how you're doing. There are a million things I want to say to you, but instead I have a recommendation for a book. I really urge you to go to your local bookstore and order a copy soon as you can (I'm fairly certain it's still in print). It says all the things I would like to.

It's called "In the Center of the Night" by Jayne Blankenship. Originally published by G. P. Puttnam's Sons in 1984, it's subtitled "A journey through bereavement". It's the story, kind of a diary, of an American lady after the death of her husband - I was given this book when Mike died, and finally got round to reading it far too late. I wish I had taken the advice given at the time, because it's wonderful, quite invaluable. It became my "bible" for quite a while. Even if it's not in print, try to find a copy (Amazon does that kind of thing).

Oh boy, I remember that first night alone. A good friend had stayed with me for 10 days straight, but people gotta get on with their lives... it's the smells, such a trigger. I really understand, Ada, and I'm so glad you have your daughter and her family.

You're doing the right thing - keeping very busy. although it's surprising just what a lot of things have to be done at a time like this...and don't expect things to ease up just yet, there'll be a lot of folk who won't have heard the news wanting to speak to you for quite a while to come. And yes, not being able to say goodbye...it's so hard. My Mike died in 20 minutes - he was a medical doctor and told me what he was dying from (aortic dissecting aneurysm) but I didn't believe him, till he quickly proved me wrong. But go get that book immediately.

You're in my heart very much at the moment.

What are you going to do about the surgery, btw?
lots of love and hugs xxx

Ada, you take time for YOU hon...and you come back when you need someone to talk to, or to cry to, or to laugh with. And if you want to join us on the Topamax Trip, just send your reservation in...we'll be happy to pick you up and try to keep your mind off things. Although, that may not be what you want to do.

34 years is a long, wonderful time. And it's going to be a long time before this gets any easier. You'll never forget...and neither will he. he's watching over you, loving you still. I used to tell my son, "I love you to the moon" and he'd say "and back again" - and I'm sure you and Bill had something similar. Just remember thngs like that...those special things. And those are the things that will carryyou thru.

In the meantime, smell his smell, feel his touch, and listen for the sounds of his laughter in your mind. Those are the things that will tell you he's still there...if not in body, then in mind and soul and spirit....those things are never ending, never dying, and will always keep you company in your grief and loneliness....

{{{ada}}}