Going off line for the move to new place
 

Hi,
We are going to unplug tonight.
We are taking the computers to the new place tonight and placing them in a closet so that they are out of the way of the movement of furniture and boxes.

Tomorrow I will be staying out of the way of packers by myself-- starting at 8:30 am. Hubby has appts at the new place -- some A/C vents are not working perhaps due to the recent duct cleaning and so on. . . . (Trying to be calm about A/C not fully functioning --90 degrees today and this week.)

Wednesday I will be supervising the mood partly by myself -- starting at 8:30 am.
Hubby has to be at the new place so that part of the new kitchen can be installed.

(The kitchen timing stinks.
But can I also complain that hubby is STILL grading papers and has several more hours of work to do? Can I get a little witchy about that??!!! Could he have planned out his class a little better? Could we be a little more prepared for all of this?)

(Tdoc reminded me to pack an overnight back tonight so that I have my stuff with me.


We might be without the phone until Thursday -- I think hubby handled the phone company while I was in the hospital and might have gotten the date (13th) wrong. I'll check on at with the phone company.

At any rate, I'm anxious about getting back on line.


I'm depressed today.
I'm worried.
I did get a long nap in the afternoon today.

I'm using the cpap and keeping on it most nights. I don't feel any different but you could say that I am compliant.

One upside to the cpap is that it might be helping me to fall asleep. I think I am habituating myself to putting it on and going to sleep. For the past few nights, I can sort of shut down my thinking and sleep. . . . not sure if that makes sense.

But before cpap I was going to sleep as soon as I hit the bed anyway -- not sure why I am noting the difference, but it seems that the habit of putting on the cpap is helpful.

M.

not sure if/when you will read this....but here goes.
GOOD LUCK with the move and everything that you will have to do in the next few days.
((((((HUGS)))))))
beth

hope the move goes well for you.:grouphug:

Have a good move.

Donna:grouphug:

Hope everything goes smoothly, Mari.

~ waves ~

Hi,
I've been sad -- crying off and on tonight.
Hubby is very wound up and anxious and helping but mostly not.
I am really trying to be positive and hopeful about starting life in the new place. I really am. Seriously.
M.

i'm so sorry.
 

i'm sorry the move is so hard.
i always feel a great deal of sorrow when i leave places.

i have to walk through every empty room and look around, and say goodbye to it, before my final exit.

it doesn't matter how nice or how ratty the place was, it isn't about that.
it was mine and is about to not be any more.
it is very weird but very sad and very real and very serious.

so maybe your sadness is about something else, but i know how it is to feel terribly sad when leaving a places, fwiw.

you are allowed to be positive about the new place, and also sad about leaving - grieving - at the same time, you know. give space to each feeling.

:hug:
~ waves ~

George Carlin gets it
 

Yes,
That is what I did the last time we moved 3 yrs ago.
I went back to the place before I turned in my key and said goodbye to each room. I thanked the place for keeping me.

As you say, it is more about leaving than anything else.
I want to be where I am already am.

He promised me, if I had to move this time, that it would be orderly and peaceful and that we could be "present" with each other. I should not have asked him to promise me something like that and he should not have agreed.

It's chaos moving with him.
And he has major issues about the idea of movers and packers.

He finally fell asleep.
As you see, we are still plugged in to the Internet and he did not finish his final exams.

The whole place will be mostly packed.
I can tip the moving crew and tell them to leave. (The bill has already been paid to the company.)

Then I will take a nap.

M.


George Carlin

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MvgN5gCuLac
". . . that is the whole meaning of life isn't it? Trying to find a place for your stuff . . . "

Oh Mari,

I bet this is going rough for you. I know just how hot it's been, I wish I had seen this last night but I just now came by. I wish it would go well, it sounds like you're having a rough time though. I'm sorry for the anxiety and sadness you must be going through. I remember how hard it was to move the last time. I really am not looking forward to moving again but Jack is already looking for a house to move us into. *sigh*

I really wish moving was easier but the whole concept is just difficult. I hope things go smoothly or as smoothly as possible. Hang in there it will be done and over with soon and you'll be getting used to the new house. Hopefully it will be your last move for a long, long time. That's the good news. How long were you at this old place? We had been at the old place we just moved from for seven years. I still kinda miss it two years later. *sigh*

Glad to hear you're getting some benefit from the CPAP, it's nice that it helps with falling asleep, I know that feeling, now if I can just get back to using mine I'll be set! ;) Hang in there Mari, post when you can. Take care. :) :hug:

it just seems like yesterday that you moved. I forgot what herb you should sprinkle around your place. a friend also told me to buy a turtle and face it in a certain direction. this doesn't sound like me typing lol...
all will be well...you are moving forward.
bobby
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HI, Thanks Everyone / calendar mix up
 

HI,
I fell asleep a little after 9:00 am and woke up now at 11:00 am and thought that I had missed the packers.

I called the company and they said that that are coming tomorrow:

Wed - pack August 12
Thurs - move August 13

I picked these dates before I was in the hospital.
Hubby phoned for these dates when I was in the hospital.
I'm confused. :eek: :confused:

Perhaps it is because we were working with two calendars (hard copy): 2008 and 2009.
We really were. When my friend called yesterday and told us we had our days wrong about something, we did not believe her. Then we saw that the calendar was the wrong year. She thought that we were nuts. Who has multiple versions of calendars around?

Oh. What a mess.

=-=-=-=-=-=-


I just called him.
He is working on the bathroom fixtures in the new place and wants me to meet him and his buddy at the new place.
I hope that everything is going to be ok with this.
I need the move to be ok and I need him to be ok with me.
Mari

it will be ok, Mari
 

the good thing is, you didn't miss the movers.

you are a day early.

but i can appreciate the confusion you must be feeling.

i hope you and hubby can connect and that it will help you both feel better.

:hug:

~ waves ~

Fender Bender in parking lot
 

Hi,
I'm sleep impaired and depressed.

The guy was nice.
He had a brand new car.
My car barely rubbed up his bumper but it left a mark.

I said to call our insurance companies.
He said that we would get points.
I said that I thought that would be best and that is how my husband would want to handle it.

It was hot.
I was having difficulty talking right -- I did not want it to be apparent that I was impaired (not having had sleep and not talking or acting right.)

I gave him my name and number because he said it was a small scrape and that his mechanic might be able to fix it without the insurance companies.



I'm overwhelmed.
I want to stay in this apt.

(I'm not 100% sure I gave him my number. I said it several times until it sounded right to me.
At any rate, we'll have a new number on the 13th.)

M.

Thanks.
 

Dear Jo*mar and Beth and Donna and and Waves and Bobby,

I appreciate your encouragement. :)

Mari

Good luck to you, mari! It sounds exciting, but nervewracking at the same time.

I'm a fellow CPAPer. Ugh. We have a love/hate relationship. But it keeps me breathing at night, so I tolerate it.

Let us know how your new place is, k? :hug:

Mari

I hope tomorrow is better for the moving. I personally found it good
you got some sleep. And still are on time.

Donna

Hang in there Mari, it will work out. It was darn hot today it said on the news it felt like 99....Sheesh I don't remember it ever being this hot do you? I understand about wanting to stay where you are, I miss the house I grew up in a lot. *Sigh* sometimes we just have to learn to let go, doesn't mean we have to LIKE it...:hug:

Change is very hard on us.
I can relate totally.
When we moved here it was terrible for me.
Hubby had a new job and fellow co workers to meet and have lunch and I had nothing...I was a mess.
I remember how hard it was moving for you , can't believe that was 3 years ago...you have been married 3 too?
This nesting(new house) was non negotiable so that must still hurt.
I am sorry that you are having a hard time with all of this....I would love to help you if I could.

I am sending you positive energy and good thoughts for a safe move....
((((((HUGS)))))))
beth

HI,

I really appreciate the good thoughts.

Hubby is calmer now.
He is doing better so that is better for me.

My sis advised me to seriously get sleep and rest -- even if I need to go to a hotel for a few days.
I told her that I am going to stay in bed while the packers are here in the morning.
They can't pack up the bed anyway. I'll stay out of their way. :cool:

M.

Good ideas in this one.

Sending hugs, and thoughts.

I'd send piglet to cuddle, but then you wouldn't get sleep.

Donna

hey I really like the idea of staying in a hotel for a couple of days near by, you could visit during the day for a bit but could then escape back to your room....
I know this is hard on you....
(((((HUGS))))
beth

Dear Mari
 

... sending you soothing thoughts http://www.thesmilies.com/smilies/happy/angel.gif

~ waves ~

Klonopin is good
 

Hi,
Thank you.

This morning I took Klonopin while the cable and phone guys were working in the place -- and I fell asleep on the couch.
Good nap.

Hubby is less agitated then he has been. We are sleeping here in the new place tonight.


Lots of work to do tomorrow / Friday.
Friend is coming over to help me start making sense of my boxes -- maybe take some clothes out of boxes and put stuff in closet.

M.

Hubby and I have too much stuff.
Tonight I started throwing away stuff.
Later I wrote him a list of boxes of mine to take out in the morning.
I will toss out more Friday night when friend comes.

It's a small place. I need to be comfortable.
He likes being surrounded by junk.
I'm going to toss stuff (my stuff -- can't touch his stuff) until I feel comfortable.

M.

sad
 

i am sad you feel essentially cornered into throwing out your stuff, Mari. :(

that you have to choose between stuff you were planning on keeping, and feeling comfortable / having enough space.

is the new place smaller than your previous place?

:hug:

~ waves ~

same square footage but lay out is different
 

Dear Waves,
The square footage is the same but the "new place" has smaller closets and bathrooms and slightly bigger bedrooms.

I will not miss the recent set of books. They have been in storage since three or four years ago.

I want less stuff.
Hubby wants more stuff.
But I am holding him to rules I made up a few months ago about exactly how much room he gets. He likes being surrounded by stuff in his areas -- where as stuff is not comforting to me.
And I need my areas to feel spacious, organized, beautiful, and good for working as well as resting.


M.

ahhh...
 

Ok. Thank you for explaining. i miss all my stuff which has been in storage in the garage for 5 years. so i see the time factor as kinda subjective.

But I understand that you are not forced to get rid of stuff you will miss or want. That is good. :o

~ waves ~

I'm so glad you explained too. I was starting to get a depression
about your stuff.

I was worried about you. So your explanation helped me so much.

Thanks
Donna:grouphug:

I'm trying to learn to take good care of my things.
 

Hi Donna and Waves,
I have too much stuff and I don't take good care of it -- I get too overwhelmed some times so I let junk get out of control.

So I am trying to be careful about accumulating stuff I do not want. And with regards to old stuff, I am re-evaluating some of it

I am focusing on only bringing into my home
-- things that I cherish
-- things that are beautiful
-- things that I need and use.


Today my friend went through one box of clothes with me and helped me hang up the clothes neatly and helped me decide on a few items that I don't need that I can give a way.

I don't know if I explained that well -- I guess I am working on an explanation for myself.

I have learned to take good care of my office at work.
I want to learn to take good care of myself and my home
space.

M

Sounds like it went well enough, that's great Mari! I am gla dthings are working out. How did you sleep in the new place? :D

HI, Pam
Last night was the first time I slept in a very long time.
It felt great -- about 8 hours. I used the cpap for the part of the night. Then I moved to the sofa.

The sleep was good.

Mari

Awesome Mari! I am so GLAD you got 8 hours of sleep, that's awesome! I am so glad you finally got to sleep good. :D

Mari

Honestly your explanations were fantastic. And I personally admire you. I am trying also to do the same thing. But I'm not succeeding. My one thing that will work before this is over though.

My goal. Once we move Devin's dressers, then Derrick into his new room.

I'm taking Derrick's old room. Making a office, and moving lots of boxes from
downstairs. And I will organize with the book I bought. And I will take other parts of my house next and organize in the next 3 years.

It took almost 30 years to get it like this. So I think by my 30th anniversary
to unclutter is a good goal.

Hope you don't mind Mari, I needed to state my goal. Donna