Posting on this forum makes a difference for me!
 

posting here on this forum has been making me feel better. I just realize I cannot really fly solo. It is just not good for me. lesson is learned.
And i missed you guys.

:hug:

Sharla

Sharla,
You never have to fly solo. We are always here to listen. And we are here for you. I am glad that you have learned this lesson today.

We want you to come, and participate. You have been helpful too.

So remember even though at times it seems like you take, you give too.

Donna:grouphug:

Sharla,

I ditto what Donna said. I missed you too.

barbara

Dear Sharla,
I'm glad that you are feeling better and that you feel connected a bit to the forum.
You could prob find support groups at school or near where you live too.
Some hospitals run groups.
Your tdoc and pdoc could research this for you.
Also check out www.nami.org and Depression and Bipolar Support Alliance: www.dbsalliance.org
M.

Sharla

I would really like to help if you need accomodations for your college? classes.

I'm a parent advocate in Indiana and I am considered good by those who I've helped.

I also help young adults get the right accomodations in college. Because I have a 23 year old that wanted to go to college. And he really needed some accomodations for his english or reading disability.
So he and I went to the school he is in right now. And talked to the counselor's, because at college level, a parent can't do it for the young adult.

But I helped him explain, and set up exactly what he needed. Its hard to believe knowing how much I talk. But my middle son is very quiet and shy.

This last summer, the counselor at his school tried telling him that he didn't qualify for a tutor anymore. Because he didn't get reevaluated in time. He asked the questions that needed ask. Found out she hadn't tried to contact him. And that really she was not correct.

So I helped him contact the director of Vocational Rehabilation, who oversees his Help. Because the counselor he was then assigned to. Was brand new, and wasn't understanding.
So the director helped her, and he got his English tutor. But he got a really special lesson. Until the tutor could be located, and it took 2 or 3 weeks with that and she couldn't start right away. He was told he would be on his own.
He happened to go to the resource room, to ask for help with a paper. He was allowed to do this, but usually I had to have the paper almost ready with his help. This time, he had it ready, but needed to fix some grammar.

Found out it was completely wrong. Not what the teacher was wanting. He said, he was getting discouraged. But the lady he was talking to, Said, Don't worry we can get this fixed in a jiffy.

And when they got done, she said, when you get it retyped bring it back and I'll make sure we got it all right. And also told him till his tutor could start
she would help him with anything.

Wow, she helped him with 2 papers and his first test. Thankfully between
her and his tutor he got a high C. Almost pulled out the B- he wanted really
bad. But to me he got a A. See he had flunked this class in the fall, because
I couldn't help him. And the resource room help said, They weren't there for this.

He is my college son, and will be heading to Purdue in the Spring. Can you tell I'm proud of him.

Another success for me, but really for a young lady who is 26 with cebral palsy, is that about a month ago she got her drivers license.

All it took was making someone listen, when her counselor kept trying to
make her come to him. Gosh, was she supposed to wheelchair or walker
herself to him. In the next town. Because he would only do it when he
wanted. Even when she told him, I'm working at that time. I can't do it.

So I got ahold of the director again, and explained the situation. Her case was reopened. And the counselor came to Walmart her place of work.
But the cool thing was, that she didn't ask for anything but the driving lessons, and help revising the vehicle as they could. But when she explained
to the counselor that she had to get a new walker, and was hoping the next year medicaid would help, and she could save enough money.
He said, Why we will get you one. She told him, yes she knew that. But there was only one walker her doctor would let her have. And Vocational Rehabilation had already said it wasn't on their list more than once.
So she knew it wasn't possible. He told her that if her doctor required that
one, it might take a few extra months. But they would get it.

She has a new walker, and a drivers license. And wow, she is independent
of her mother who was driving her.

I love it when I know what to do. Sorry, I am on my favorite soap box.
I don't get to tell my stories often. I just overdid it.

But they are both true.

Donna

missed ya... don't you go running off again!!!
 

Dear Sharla,

I too have thought of you often and wondered how you were... and with some sadness, if you would ever come back?

I am sorry it was feeling bad that brought you back.

But I am very glad that you are back!!! :) :) :)

I missed you. :hug:

~ waves ~

p.s. I hope you will consider taking Donna up on her offer to help if you need it... even if just some tips or advice... ;) What a wonderful offer she made - Thank you, Donna.

I would consider it of course!
I am going to have the proper paper work to give to the school first. lol I remember the IEP's back in High school. Those were the days when things were more easy. But now I have to be diagnosed and get the paper work and then present them to the disability office at my school.

Sharla

If the disability office tells you that you need new testing. And it is expensive as we all know. See if your local Vocational Rehabilation office
can help with at least this part.

This is how when my son went to get his testing redone we did it.

Donna:grouphug:

One thing I do not get is why do I have to get rediagnosed every year? Learning disabilities do not disappear at all ya know! Sheesh!

Oh and have you ever slept so good to the point that you sleep right through your alarm. i have been doing that lately! crazy!

Sharla

Dear Sharla,

Have you been going to bed early enough?

Yeah, getting re-tested for that stuff is annoying. :hug:

M.

Sharla

I'm not sure, but your testing if done right should last for 3 or 4 years.

Check with the office when you find out where they will take the testing
results from. I know that my son's testing did. His is just now needing
redone.

Donna:grouphug:

Part of it is that with Learning disabilties and ADHD sometimes you can
make adaptions in your learning that you don't need the help any more.
So the testing proves you don't really have the disability anymore.

Donna

Really? I thought because I have ADHD I have a learning disability and that I will never get better and that it will always be hard for someone like me to understand anything because I am so abnormal and slow at everything I do in my life. All because I can never stay organized, and keep a regular sleep pattern, I am constantly distracted by cute animals. Keeping a routine or schedule really makes like So BORING FOR ME. That is why it is so hard for someone like me to keep one. Or I just seem to comprehend things more differently than the rest of the class. I also find humor in somethings and people are like, that is not even funny. It is like a different perspective I have with things. So there is something very wrong with me to the point that It will not go away ever ever ever never ever. It should be a well known disease.
I have had resource specialist since elementary school all the way to high school. I have two words for the effort the specialist put in to help me.
EPIC FAIL
Adaptions in my education= EPIC FAIL
How can that go away?:p
Sharla

On a happier note
 

I passed my classes! And they were so hard! I feel better and that it was not a waste of time after all!:hug:

Sharla

It might not ever go away. But for one thing, I can tell you point blank
that it has definately gotten better.

1. You just quoted some of your teacher's from grade school.
2. You may not get organized the way most people do. But I would venture
to guess that if you really think about it, you know exactly were most
of the important things are.

Next I find one other really big thing about you. You will never be boring,
and you are truely intelligent.

I can tell you for a fact there are lots of folks with no organization skills, to
their thinking. And when they went to school they had resource in their
background. But honestly to this day they are functioning better and more
efficiently than many of the brightest in the country.

A. For just one reason they had to fight for everything they got.
B. Someone or somebody thought they were important. Told them they could do what they put their mind to.

And Sharla you tell us some fantastic things, not sure what field your in.
But when your done your going to be fantastic in it.

And I can tell you point blank I know the young man that is just like you.
He is my 23 year old. He started with preschool services.

1. I was told he was mentally retarded. Because he couldn't talk.
a. I politely told the gentlemen that was trying to explain, it was okay
I understood. Because he couldn't say more than 10 words at 3. THat
he had to be classified this way.

2. That it was also okay, because he would get three years of help before
kindergarten. And hopefully at kindergarten would classify as speech delayed
only.

a. To say the least the gentlemen wanted to know how come I was so calm and collected about it.
a. I told him the parents magazine had this in it just a month or so before.
1. He sent his staff out to find that magazine, for that very article,
a was the only parent that had ever told him it was just a title. Not my son.

3. My son is severely ADHD, his favorite carton charactor is/was Batman.
And to this day his 1st grade teachers comments still get told to some parents. She asked me what I did to stop his climbing? I asked what she
meant. She said, Till this day, I could see him climb 6 feet to the top. And
jump or fall back to ground, and climb right back up. All day. Today he
sit in his chair.

A. I said, thank you, you just told me that putting him on ADHD medicine
was the right choice. I had waited till after one day of school to see if they could see a change too.

So the moral of this is, I can relate to you very much. My son is just like you.
He also has some very strong struggles. I really wish I could write a book.
I have 3 son's with three very different disabilities and they are turning into success stories.

Sorry, this wasn't my time.

But you can do it. Just set up what you need.

Donna

thanks you so much! I like what I read a lot. I loved climbing trees!
And houses :eek: LOL
Oh and the field I have picked is Health Services Adminstration Bachelors degree
and I am going for an associates as well in Health insurance and billing claims!~
This is a hard field! And I am going to do it!!!!!!:D

well...I AM DOING IT!

Sharla

You stated it perfectly, YOU ARE DOING IT!!!!


I always love it when I hear of another success story.

Donna:)

thank you for sharing your son's story donna,
it is very heart warming.
((((HUGS)))))
bizi
Sharla, you are doing great! congratulations on passing your classes!!!!!!
:yahoo:

Thanks Bizi

I really like to tell about my boys. And even give stories about some
of my really hard cases that have done some wonderful things.

But sometimes I feel like I've taken somebodies place in here when I do that. But I felt so connected to Sharla I wanted her to understand why I relate to her so much.

My son is in his last semester of college. Or at least for his first degree.

Wow, I can honestly say I never thought he would go for more than one.
And the really neat thing is I will have a middle of the year graduate,
and a end of the year graduate.

We get to have two graduation parties this year. I need to locate a place
for these parties. My house just isn't the right place for either celebration.

Its to messy anymore.

Donna

Addicted to It
 

I am completed addicted to forum. No use to try and go it alone. Caring for You - Billie

Dear Donna,
You have done a marvelous job with your sons and you will keep doing so.
That is so cool to have parties coming up. http://bestsmileys.com/ballons/8.gif

M.

Thanks Mari

I am so pleased my boys are doing so well. And that it reflects to look like I did a good job. So many do a wonderful job, but don't have the same kind of results.

Donna

Hugs for Donna :) I forgot to get the modifications. It will have to wait because I am so poor anyways. I have two tuffies. But I am in good hands with tutoring. I have go to tutoring tommorow.
Sharla

Sharla,

Tutoring is good.
Maybe some individual teachers will give you some modifications anyway -- with out the paperwork. It is worth a try.

M.