A Question about a neighbor.................
 

I have a relatively NEW neighbor, across the hall. She is Probably in her early 20's. She lives alone and she has Sickle Cell Anemia.

Here's the problem. She "SCREAMS" once in a while, like she is being MURDERED! :eek: I have spoken to her about it and she SAID she would stop doing it. That very day she did it again AND again later that day. The following day she did it a few more times SO I EMailed the owner of the building BECAUSE it was about 8 A.M. on a Sunday morning and she did it again, 3 or 4 times WITH her windows open. Not only did it ECHO in the hall BUT it ECHOED off the houses across the street. Now this isn't just a loud voice Yelling something, this is a Banshee, NUCLEAR type of screaming like she was being tortured or giving birth or something to that effect.

That very next day I asked her AGAIN to stop it with all the Screaming and she said she would stop. Not 2 hours later she was at it again and woke me up from a nap. I called the owner and told him.

Now, here's the thing. She actually put a huge note on HER door telling anyone who read it "NOT TO "SNITCH" on her to the landlord. Now since I had already spoken to the owner and she keeps doing it, what would YOU do about this?? The owner told me other people in the building have also said something about this to him.

When I read the note yesterday I thought to myself that THIS isn't the Playground here. She doesn't make the rules. I don't PAY the rent I pay here to listen to what sounds like someone being killed. I think she has a THINKING problem.

hmmm any mention of tourettes, not sure if screaming is a sx but i do know they get real loud and vocal, wish i had an answer, maybe call the police and report it, i just heard my neighbor scream real loud sounds as if she is being hurt let her explain her actions to the police, i dont know Wii

I'm with Frank, does she have a disorder that causes these screams?? I know that wouldn't make the noise any easier on you but at least you could be more sympathetic and maybe work with her about it.

I know I feel sometimes like screaming from the pain but wouldn't want to scare the neighbors. LOL, throwing something soft sometimes makes it easier to bear.!?!?!?!?!?!?

Good luck with your dilemma!

I really don't know if the screaming has anything to do with her condition BUT when she does have PAIN episodes she does go into hospital for a few days or a week. But still, when she has screamed this way she didn't GO so I am thinking she is just doing it because she feels like it.

We'll just have to see if this continues and becomes a problem. considering HER bedroom window is on the U shaped alley of the buiding where ALL the other apts bedrooms are located. She wakes up enough other people and there IS going to be more problems. Some people just won't put up with it and will move OUT, the owner SHOULD realize this and make her stop.

I agree 100%, and I'd up the ante by asking all the neighbors to also call 911 every time she does it. Just say that you heard some frightening screams and leave it at that. That's ridiculous behavior and kind of disturbing!

Perhaps investing in those stadium air horns would be a nice way to repay her kindness. ;)

I did think of that. http://www.spearboard.com/rofl.gif Seriously. :winky:


Yes, it IS ridiculous behaviour AND plus the fact she gets Upset with the people she disturbs is really Outrageous. I think she also has an Attitude problem.

Yes, from now on when I hear the Screams I WILL call 911. maybe that'd shut her up. she did it once really late at night and I thought I was going to have a heart attack it scared me so much and it was SO LOUD!!!! :eek:

I had another neighbor once about 6 or 7 years ago, with 2 little girls. These two played a game of running up and down the hall, slamming every door along the way and flushing the toilet at the end then running back and doing it again. They would play this game for HOURS.

I mentioned it to the Mother once and she just Giggled. :eek: And replied to me, "Yes, we ARE a noisy family". She thought it was "Cute". AND this continued until they FINALLY moved OUT!!! :D I kind of had to put up with it since they WERE the building managers. http://neurotalk.psychcentral.com/im...onsb/crazy.gif

Wiix, if you have a minute, go to youtube and punch in anything with the word "neighbor", you'll feel better instantly!

Also, there are "lousy nieghbor" sites all over the net. Maybe you can find her out there someplace!:D

Very simple solution.

Get a tape recorder. Now this might inconvenience you at times. I would get one that is voice activated. put it nearest to a window that is open (and can get the best sound). Let it tape her whenever she does this.

I DO NOT THINK this is related at all to Tourettes. She's have to be such a serious case of Tourettes. (I know people and they curse, and they have tics, but to scream on a daily basis??? No).

She might be mentally ill. She might also (and don't think this doesn't happen), she might be one of those people who let's off steam when under stress and they do it by SCREAMING!!!

She might also be doing this to get attention. Negative attention to be sure, but this would make her seriously mentally ill.

You can get a petition going signed by all the neighbors and bring it to your landlord. It's only a matter of time before someone bops her on the head for doing this as many times as she has done this.

I've had problems with neighbors with noise. Teenagers playing their computer speakers so loud my whole house shakes. The people downstairs (in their 80's) were once so upset they wanted to put a garden hose into the back window and flood the kid's room. I had to stop them. They were going nuts.

People don't like noise. Young people think it's funny. IT'S NOT FUNNY, THIS I KNOW.

I wonder, when you asked her to stop, did she give you ANY EXPLANATION AS TO WHY SHE DOES THIS??

People cannot live like this, next to someone who screams at the drop of a hat.

There are things at play here that, well, you might have to get to the bottom of. At least your landlord has to get to the bottom of it.

But try taping this (so you have PROOF), just in case you need to call the police.

I don't think she's breaking any noise ordinances unless she does this after 10 p.m. in the evening.

But states vary with the laws.

Best of luck.

I've been there and it's not fun.

melody

Wiix

It may be due to the medication she is taking for the Sickle Cell, which can cause mental disturbances and illness. Maybe she is screaming from the pain but wants to stay in her own bedroom instead of a hospital ward. My nephew suffers from Sickle Cell, and it's very painful. :(

I have pain due to neuropathy. When those shocks come, there's no way I can hold in a scream when it feels like I have firecrackers exploding in my arms/legs. I try to stay on guard and braced for the "attacks," but sometimes they catch me off-guard. :o My neighbors are understanding, and so far have not formed a lynch mob to remove me from the community.

Have you ever spoken to her as a neighbor (i.e., non-confrontational) and asked why she screams so loud? Have you or any of your neighbors rushed to her side in an attempt to calm her fear/pain that is causing her to scream?

My neighbor cares for her husband at home. He was a previously healthy man who suffered a massive heart attack at the age of 46 five years ago and remains in a coma completely unresponsive. Her now 7-year-old daughter has become a handful because she misses her daddy. She screams a lot too, but I wouldn't have the heart to call the police on my neighbor. :(

My other neighbor has a Pomeranian we've all named "Sir Barks-A-Lot" because he barks non-stop whenever he's outside. She has cerebral palsy and lives alone. We all know how much she loves that dog, so we put up with the constant barking. We also put up with hearing her beg her dog to come back into the house. I tried to help her once during a tornado warning, but I only made the situation worse. Then again, maybe I didn't make it worse. After I walked away, little Sir Barks-A-Lot trotted happily into the home after "defending" his turf. :D

screaming can be a Tourette tic and it would IMHO be very wrong to call 911 or report someone for having a tic, IF that is what it is.

TS tics are involuntary neurological motor and vocal

I would think that rather than just asking her to stop, or "reporting" her.....perhaps try to find out "why?"

JMHO