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Lesmom96 12-26-2012 10:06 AM

Emotional Stress
 
I had 4 very bad days in a row. I fell to my knees several times and was having difficulty breathing. Today is much better so far. I had a lot of emotional stress since last Friday and some minor physical stress as well. I am transitioning between jobs. I have had several interviews and offers to work through in which I am so grateful to have choices. Plus I'm leaving my job during a time of great stress. Plus the holiday stress. I have an ex-husband and the kids were with him on the weekend until late Christmas Eve BUT the holidays are still very hard for me because of my love for his extended family and missing them so much. I had my step kids over and those relationships are polite but very superficial. Now that all that is behind me I feel better.

This make me realize that stress is a big trigger for my symptoms and leaving my last job was the right move as the stress level with that job was constant.

I have always been the person that hosted the holiday parties and family gatherings, that does all the cooking and cleaning and planning because I enjoy it. But I am realizing that I have limits now that will not allow me to be the one that does it all. I need to let others do more and I need to let go of the fact that they don't do things like I do things. Well I have about 360 days to figure it out for next year.

I hope everyone had a wonderful Christmas:)

southblues 12-26-2012 11:53 AM

Changing jobs is always stressful. I hope that your new job turns out to be great.

The holidays tend to be stressful as well. I have been very sad this Christmas because my grown kids did not come home. They say that they will be home in a few days. I have a tree with a ton of presents under it that nobody has bothered to come collect. They have legitimate reasons but it still makes me sad.

Sorry that you had a stressful holiday.

Juanitad 12-26-2012 01:32 PM

I understand how you feel about your ex's family - my mom always said that when she divorced our dad (after 36 years of marriage), she didn't divorce his family so she continued to visit them and invite them to her new home. Now, 25 years later, when my dad died, she came to the funeral and cried with all her extended family. Not because her ex had died, but because all his family were grieving him so much and she felt bad for them. Her 2nd husband attended also and supported her. I guess we were one of the first "extended-step" families.

Glad you made it through the holidays and good luck on your choice of a new job.

Anacrusis 12-27-2012 10:05 AM

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Originally Posted by Lesmom96 (Post 942333)
I had 4 very bad days in a row. I fell to my knees several times and was having difficulty breathing. Today is much better so far. I had a lot of emotional stress since last Friday and some minor physical stress as well. I am transitioning between jobs. I have had several interviews and offers to work through in which I am so grateful to have choices. Plus I'm leaving my job during a time of great stress. Plus the holiday stress. I have an ex-husband and the kids were with him on the weekend until late Christmas Eve BUT the holidays are still very hard for me because of my love for his extended family and missing them so much. I had my step kids over and those relationships are polite but very superficial. Now that all that is behind me I feel better.

This make me realize that stress is a big trigger for my symptoms and leaving my last job was the right move as the stress level with that job was constant.

I have always been the person that hosted the holiday parties and family gatherings, that does all the cooking and cleaning and planning because I enjoy it. But I am realizing that I have limits now that will not allow me to be the one that does it all. I need to let others do more and I need to let go of the fact that they don't do things like I do things. Well I have about 360 days to figure it out for next year.

I hope everyone had a wonderful Christmas:)


So sorry it is has been like this for you lately. I had one of those Christmas´s a few years ago with other things piled on top.
I also remember discussing with a friend what alternative job I could apply for and we realized that there were no other jobs I could possibly even think about applying for in my condition at the time - it was just to continue and get by with extreme adaptive physical behaviors at the job I already had. I was kind of lucky with my employers being a whole lot more intelligent than the doctors I had at the time. What makes me cross now is that I should not have been working at all. People with a third of my symptoms were on permanent sick leave! It was a chaotic time and the emotional stress came as a direct result of the impact muscle weakness had on my life (maybe just a little came from our extended family as well :)) Thank you for your good wish despite your own situation which hopefully will soon turn around.

Let us know if there is anything at all we can do in the meanwhile to help :)

Anacrusis

Alan53 12-27-2012 03:05 PM

Emotional stress I found made my symtoms like you very bad a job and family are two of the worse things to deal with but I'm sure now you will not allow that
To happen as much hopefully you can enjoy the new year
Alan:hug:

AnnieB3 12-28-2012 05:43 AM

I'm so sorry things did not go as well as they could have. Your symptoms of MG sounded fairly serious. Are you better?

I try to throw stress into the trash with the rest of the garbage. It's just not worth it. And I know I've said this before but it's worth repeating. People who love you do so because of who you are and not what you do! :hug:

My family got together just to decorate cookies. It was fairly simple and even though I couldn't eat the cookies (celiac disease) or decorate for long (hand cramping up), I could still enjoy watching everyone else do it. And we did it way before the holidays. It worked better for everyone's schedule that way. I think the getting together part, no matter what you do, is the important thing.

We all need to feel that we are loved, especially during the holidays. I'm sorry that this time is so stressful for you, for so many reasons.

Do something super nice for yourself, whatever that might be for you.

I do have to add that I went to a person years ago who taught me how to meditate. I can now instantly go into a state of extreme calm. I can't tell you how much that helps during times of stress. ;)

I hope things get better soon.

:hug:
Annie

Lesmom96 12-28-2012 06:52 AM

Thank you everyone. I am feeling better each of the past 3 mornings and yesterday I was able to do all my normal activites. I am not working much for the next 2 weeks so I should have time to prepare for the upcoming transition.


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