What more can I handle...................HELP
 

I am feeling better. I made a mistake by moving in to a smaller house in my complex and getting back with Dirk. He conned or played me, he was all nice and everything was great.

Well, since the day of the move, all hell has broken loose. My friends noticed the change of his behavior that day, he was rude to them and yelling, his friend too. He is drinking more and everything is his, HIS HOUSE, and it's you better DO THIS NOW!!!! Screaming in a drunken rage, which puts him in a paranoid, jealous mind set. I am surprized the neighbors did not call the police over the weekend, I really am.

I had my bedroom door locked with my dogs, and he said if I didn't open it, he would bust it open, so I did open it. maybe I should of let him, then when the cops would of come, they would see the drunken stupor he was in and a broken door and taken him away.

Throwing me out, calling me everyname and then some in the book. My name is on the lease too though. Threating me if I don't do this, he will throw my stuff out and things like that.

Now, here I am totally TRAPPED. I will only leave the house when he is at work.

Said he is sick of being a zoo keeper, meaning taking care of my dogs and birds when I was in the hospital a week ago. Said he didn't want the dogs on the furniture, oh his furniture,most of the things in this house is mine. He even screamed at me when I was in the hospital over the phone about the animals, telling me he wasn't going to give one of my dogs his medication.

Says I don't do anything around here, well first of all, some things I can't due to my lower back. Then I was in the hospital and then in bed recuping, not knowing if I was going to have to go back to the hospital.

Yesterday, I steam cleaned the rugs, cleaned the birds cage, dusted, etc.

He said if I don't have the spare room in order (because we still have boxes with things in them, that we have to find room to put, most of it his.) He would start throwing things out, starting with my laptop, when he gets home.

My dogs are a wreck, they haven't eaten, hope they do today while he is at work. My female shakes when he yells, my male goes outside and just looks in through the doggy door afraid to come it.

This morning, I told him and took my keys to my car. You can't take MY car, just like this is YOUR house. He asked where my dogs pills where, I said I have them I will take care of it, you don't need to be zoo keeper anymore as he says.

I told him if he thinks that the spare room is going to be all set up nice, he can forget it, and if he thinks he is going to start tossing things out, there will be a problem.

He was very humble and timid, and said I am not going to do anything. Damn straight. He had been drinking all day Sat and Sun, so he must feel really crappy, yesterday he had the shakes, so he went on to get drunk and nasty again.

Bottom line, I am TRAPPED, no way out. I don;t have the money to just pick up and get moved, never mind finding a place that will take 2 dogs, well there probably are places, but no matter anyway.

I can't believe I was so stupid, yet I was in a vunuable state of mind in Aug, and really I still am to some point with all that has transpired.

HELP.................thanks for letting me vent. Hugs, NIKKO:grouphug:

Nikko:
Go talk to the landlords of your complex. Explain the situation and tell them that you don't have deposit money ect.... but that since you have been a good renter with them perhaps they would move you into a different unit without the expenses. I'd talk to them. Landlords do not like to lose loyal renters.

This man sounds extremely controlling. You do not need that in your life. See what the landlords can do for you.
B-

Bobi's advice sounds so good...I am so sorry. This bipolar makes us so vulnerable....
Hugs
Bobby

I wish it was that easy. I just moved due to my mom's death, and they didn't give me any break on the transfer fee's, because it's company policy.

The only was I was able to get out of that lease is because my mom was on the least and she died.

The other thing is, the one bedroom's aren't always available, there is always a wait, even with the 2 and 3 br units. I don't even know if I can afford a 1br in this complex. I am spinning my brain, thinking of ways out, talking to friends and all. I am a total nervous wreck, but I can stand up to him when he is sober for sure. When he is drunk, I don't even bother, but he keeps it up and up and up, even though I don't respond because I know it's like banging my head up against a wall.

I emailed my DV counsler to set up an appointment, waiting to hear back from her.

My friends do not want to have anything to do with him, and I don't blame them. They are worried, but I don't know. He hasn't hit me, but he came close, because he was so drunk and really wanted to, but didn't. He knows I will call the police. If I do that though, then he comes back gets his things, restraining order goes into effect, and once again I am left with all the bills, which I can't handle, and will make him either much more angry, or a wake up call, but with the booze involved, I think he would go nuts.

At my wits end. This sure is the cake topper for me. I don't know how to get through this right now, there has to be a way.

Thanks for the advice though, I may try it, but I know what they will say. It's not the leasing company, it's the Corporate office rules.

Hugs, Nikko:grouphug:

Just praying...................

Nikko,

Ask you DV counselor to help you leave and if he hits you have him arrested.

befuddled2

Nikko

Please do talk to the company you are renting from. Maybe they will
have a idea. Or keep you in mind if they come up with a idea.

Also I would have the neighbors call the cops next weekend if
he is drinking.

I hope you can figure out something for the dogs too.

Donna

I am so sorry he is abusing you.....mental abuse is harder on you than physical....IMO
THis really sucks and he is a criminal as far as I can see.
It hurts to read your words....
I am so sorry.....
wish I could help you some how....
YOu are a strong woman and have been thru hello this year.
you will figure this out, I jsut know that you will nikko.
Now is the time to take care of you.
((((HUGS))))
bizi

Thanks, he was very timid, humble yesterday after work, telling me he is sorry and will cut back on is drinking. I said there are no more "sorrys" heard that before and nothing changes. As far as cutting back on drinking, that is just words, a joke. Told him he needed Detox and then help. He said I know sometimes I am a ***-&^*, well ya think, that is no excuse for his drinking. He said I don't want you to leave. UGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH::mad:

At first he called me on his way home from work asking if I needed anything, like nothing was wrong, I was stunned, and said what do you care.:confused:

Today I see my DV counsler at 11:30, she mentioned there are some options out there, that I don't know about. I sure hope so.

He didn't drink last night, but that was all for show. He is sleeping in the spare room, I got most of my stuff out of there. I am so glad it was a quiet night, and I am glad he has to work the Holiday too. Not that I am doing anything anyway.

I just want out, I don't care if I have to live in a bad neighbor or one room at this point, as long as my dogs can come with me.

Hugs, Nikko:grouphug:

Nikko

You are doing a good job of getting information to make the changes
you need to. I believe you will succeed.

Donna

Maybe it is time to move back east?
I know that you miss it.
(((((((((((((((((HUGS)))))))))))))))))))
bizi:hug: