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sunshine_13 09-01-2012 08:01 PM

nervous...
 
Sorry guys, i just need to vent!

I have been dating a guy for a few weeks now.
I really like him, but I don't know how to tell him about my MG.

My ex fiance broke up with me a few months ago because MG was taking a bigger toll on him than me. haha :p

I've been able to keep it from him, but last night after dinner and a movie i was exhausted - i began to slur my speech. I know he noticed, but didn't say anything.

How do you deal with relationships?
what helps? :(

southblues 09-01-2012 09:05 PM

If he loves you like you are, then he is worth keeping. He will have to accept you for who you are. The old saying about you have to kiss a lot of frogs to find that charming prince is really true. I hope that you find a really special person to spend your life with. If he is that special one, then he will stick by you. You can't hide your true self. I know that this whole thing is hard. I would tell him the truth right away or he may think that it is something worse.

Anacrusis 09-02-2012 03:15 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by sunshine_13 (Post 910923)
I've been able to keep it from him, but last night after dinner and a movie i was exhausted - i began to slur my speech. I know he noticed, but didn't say anything.
How do you deal with relationships?
what helps? :(


Agree with the last post – couldn´t have put it better myself if I tried.
This guy could be a really nice guy – but he has to be a really nice guy to YOU.:In-Lurve:
You got slurred speech which is a part of you and if he should end up being embarrassed by that whilst you´re both out in public at some stage then that would tell an awful lot about him and an awful lot about your future together. You need a guy who can make you feel good about yourself - slurred speech and all!

TALK asap! Hope it works :hug:

Anacrusis

StephC 09-02-2012 07:24 AM

I agree with comments but wanted to add that I had some difficulty walking yesterday into Walmart and I realized that people probably thought I was drunk or on drugs. I don't care about people I don't know but I am sure you don't want him to think you are a druggy or alcoholic!

Good luck, let us know how it goes (I am single and hope to be well enough to date someday soon)

sunflower1116 09-02-2012 09:09 AM

Be honest and let him know- 1 of 2 things will happen:

He will:
A) not be able to handle it and leave which would really just save you time more heartache, because anyone you are with has to be in it for the long haul.

or

B) accept you for you, take all your good qualities plus the crappy MG with it and accept that although you have MG it does not define who you are. If he does this you guys can plan dates that won't make you so tired- i.e. dinner OR a movie, but not both in the same night.


Hope this helps!

Southern Bell 09-02-2012 09:50 AM

I totally agree with everyone. You both need to start a relationship being honest with each other. There may be things about him that he's reluntant to tell you but if he realizes that you have the courage to tell him about your MG diagnosis he may open up too. And you can support each other.

I'm lucky that my MG/SPS diagnosis came after I had been married for 30 years. Of course my husband could have left me because he couldn't handle the uncertainty but from the beginning he told me that he wasn't going anywhere and we were going to fight this together. You have no idea how comforting that made me feel because I scared to death. I know alot of marriages breakup over money or illness so I feel very lucky.

Best of luck in whatever you decide.

Southern Bell
:grouphug:


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