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Catch 02-10-2010 10:49 PM

I'm freaking out here
 
:eek: I am becoming shockingly more forgetful, and my boss is on my case. Rightly so, because even when I check my work, he comes up with an error I knew I just took care of. I've forgotten to write some items in his calendar. Today there was another one. It's not just forgetting to ink in a lunch date, it's what else am I forgetting?

When I left today he said "we'll talk" tomorrow.

His look said it all.

I know he can't fire me, but he knows he can't trust me anymore. Trust me to get things properly done.

I don't know what I can do before tomorrow, but I'm afraid to go in:eek:

Catch 02-10-2010 11:01 PM

Update
 
To stop myself from totally freaking I figured I'd arm myself with knowledge about my rights. I'm going to get canned tomorrow. According to the ADA

What obligations does my employer have to accommodate me?
If you qualify under the ADA, your employer must provide you with the
reasonable accommodations you request, making it possible for you to
perform your job. If your employer refuses to make such accommodations,
your rights under the ADA may have been violated. There are limits,
however, to the extent to which an employer must accommodate a person
with a disability. The employer is not required to make accommodations
that would impose an undue hardship on the employer or accommodations
that would create a direct threat to health or safety in the workplace.
Additionally, your employer might be eligible for tax benefits in the form of
deductions or credits for the accommodations it makes for its employees.
What qualifies as an undue hardship under the ADA?
The employer decides what qualifies as an undue hardship on a case-bycase
basis. Employers are not required to make accommodations that
are impractical, would cause unreasonable problems, or would be costprohibitive."


This would apply to me. Now what are my rights or options?

EricP 02-10-2010 11:05 PM

I hate that, I know you have to do a good job, that is what they hired you for, but I hate when they think EVERYTHING is about the job. Some pansy-*** bozo that thinks he the one who's oh so "woe is me" BS making others feel like crap. He must know of your MS right?... Why doesn't he just shut the hell up and take it easy on you.

Sorry...I'm just in a weird mood ATM

You're only human and this makes me furious.... I want to slap your boss.

Post back if he gives you any crap tomorrow... I'll stick his calendar up his...... and make him remember.

I feel bad for you.

Dejibo 02-11-2010 08:42 AM

My MS MD said the #1 complaint of MS patients is the INability to multi task at times. Sometimes its related to a mini flare, and sometimes it is just an MS thing. It is one of the true horrors of this disease is that it robs us of our ability to keep up to our old selves.

If your boss knows you have MS, you are right, he cant fire you for a sx of the disease, but he can place you into a job that has less responsibility and less chance of messing up his day.

I really hate this disease! I used to run an entire medical center for several prisons. From keeping the meds running on time, to organizing and motivating staff, and providing safe secure enviornments for staff as well as inmates when they required care in private. Now? I have days that I cant answer my email, and listen to my DH talk! :eek: REally upsets me.

Please make sure to tell your MD about the increase in sx of your disease.

FaithS 02-11-2010 09:11 AM

Wish I had some advice. I was let go because I had, probably, no rights under the ADA. I was a para in the school system. Over-qualified for the job. But, no more rights than an untenured teacher. Could be let go for no reason. "Dr. HR"'s reason, although he didn't tell me, was simply that I requested FMLA time, for the 4th yr in a row.

Was obvious to me at the time, and the Special Ed dept. confirmed it when I filed for SSDI and they wrote health reasons as the reason I was no longer employed there.

~ Faith

Debbie D 02-11-2010 09:48 AM

I worry that all of this stress is making your ability to do your job even more difficult...:hug::hug:
I had to discontinue a medical transcription course because of my problems with memory and ability to organize...my neuropsych eval showed a dramatic decrease in the ability to process, which involves these types of abilities.
I hope you get through your day, dear...thoughts and prayers are with you...:grouphug:

wkikta 02-11-2010 10:02 AM

Reasonable for the purpose of accommodation is in the mind of the Company. To overcome this you may need a Lawyer. Many Companies will make some sort of accommodation in most cases. You may end up working in the file room.:(

SallyC 02-11-2010 11:25 AM

I really hate this disease, especially for you youngsters. :mad:

Kitty 02-11-2010 11:40 AM

My employer was really good about accommodations for me. They really went above and beyond. I hope everything works out for you. It can be so scary when our bodies decide to not cooperate with us. :hug:

Catch 02-11-2010 12:47 PM

I haven't talked with my boss yet this morning, and I am sick with worry. I don't want to bring it up if he doesn't. He's leaving for the weekend shortly, so maybe I get to sit and worry all weekend.

As for accommodating me, I see no way to continue to work with no memory function. Ending up in the mailroom would be a possibility, but we currently have no openings in regards to less stress. The firm I work for would literally have to invent some sort of job for me, and I can't see that being required.

*#&$*%&^ crap, I knew this would happen, I just never expected it so soon!

My hope is that I will be offered some sort of severance pay and maybe a letter of recommendation.


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