Not sure where to post this - Funeral Flowers
 

In less than a month's time, I've poured through so many sites for ordering flowers (three funerals).

Are there particular companies that are best to deal with - in terms of reliability - and more reasonably priced than others? and ones to definitely avoid?

I'm trying to make a selection for the third funeral; the services are tomorrow - and I definitely don't want to be ripped off. (What I've done so far, is tailored the orders to the specific people, so the companies I've used in the past aren't a "one-size-suits-all.")

I've had good luck so far with the companies I've used; one of my doctors told me yesterday about one to avoid, only she couldn't remember its entire name. Now, I'm hoping to be able to avoid any that deliver dead flowers.

hi Bobbi
I dont have the answer to your question re flowers, but I sure wanted to say how sorry I am that you have had these many bereavements in so short a time.

(((Bobbi)))

Cheri

:hug: i'm sorry for all the loses.

bobbi, i tend to use ftd. they use local florists.

i have gotten some very nice ones delivered to me by 1-800-flowers.( their web site is the same as their number :wink:) only 1 time were they pretty dried out. they got left at the front door, which faced the hot west texas sun.

Thank you :).


Two of the funerals are sort of related - friends of mine that I grew up with and who are also the step brother and son-in-law of another friend, who was taken to the hospital by ambulance yesterday. He's home now and doing okay. He and his wife were asked: "Are you considering suicide?" :eek:. Geeze, I know it's a lot of stress, but there are not feeling that level. His wife thought he was having a stroke and called 9-1-1.

His sons and I have decided to not tell him, for now, that his 88-year-old mother got news from her doctor today that she needs surgery. Her grandson and his wife will come home (from overseas) next month and be with her for the surgery and though her recovery.

His wife called this morning and asked me to write a eulogy - for the services tomorrow. Either his wife or their pastor will read it; my doctors have advised that I not travel to the services. His wife thinks that I'll be able to "capture" her husband's sense of humor and convey his personality better than anyone else. Talk about pressure, but I'm not going to let her down. I am going to avoid, though, repeating things he stated or the eulogy could be a huge bomb. His mother-in-law thought the things were funny, yet he did have such an off-beat or twisted sense of humor, which might not go over well with some. That's probably why I got along so well with him :D.

I
 

think if you both had the same sence of humor...Well the one's who
truly loved him will love it,the rest well that's there problem.
Local for the flowers....Sue

His wife and mother-in-law would enjoy what I have to say; I'm not so sure his sons will, however. He used to "prank" them when they were real small - and I doubt that they would remember but it might upset them.

We used to sit on his porch at night, and freezing our beehinds off, and tell one another stories about what we had planned for our "golden years" and for our funerals. It was funny to us, and we had similar ideas :D.

The other thing he was phenomenal at was his ability to mimic people; he was a quick study and could immitate their mannerism, voice, etc., so perfectly.

I'm thinking, Sue, that what I'll do is write about his sense of humor and how important having such a refined one is in life... and that's one of the aspects that a lot of people will always remember about him - along with having a heart of gold.

I'm very glad you decided to do it Bobbi,I have a bit of that kind of humor,
and would have been laughing with you both...I'm glad as well you had sucha
treasure in your life,this wonderful man. You will be there with your chosen
words.....Sue

Thank you, Sue. The prob. is: He just died too young and the world was robbed of such a fine man.

I wrote the eulogy, and called his wife so she did know it's in her inbox for tomorrow.

I only told her Mom a snippet, and a friend (here) heard her laughing - through the phone.

My thought, just no more deaths. I've written two eulogies this month, and lost some really dear people. Now... I guess it is the memories that will sustain, but it still sucks hugely.

Anyone else dies? I'm outta commission. I am so numb.

P.S.: I told a friend tonight that I am going to live until I am so old that I am rancid. My friend laughed. Little does my friend realize: I am serious. Totally. How much heartbreak can the heart take. I am not going to contribute to anyone's pain. I'm in it for the long-haul.

:hug:

just wanted to give you a hug bobbi.

Been thinking
 

of you Bobbi.. I asked both my mom's friend who lives with me,Bob his
mother lived to 96, and my Grandmother,in her 90's her best friend was
103 when she passed on, i have 2 aunts in there 90's..Why do you think,
you lived so long??? Oh they all worked hard and long pass there retirement
ages...They all said what they didn't want one of those boo hoo,funerals.
They out lived so many,so no worries about big funerals,most paid for
and long ago aranged for there flowers. So Bobbi they did have those
heartbreaks,but my Aunt Nellie,saids what's the best part of being so
old ,yo can't remember the grief,she lives only with the good times...I also
tell her I love her and we still need her..She get's her hair done every
week wants to look nice ,when she see's her darling husband again..
I heard and here that alot.. Still and all you have lost friends that were
2 young,I agree old lady for me,as well. Hugs to all , Sue