A friend hurt me with words today.
 

I was just playing with my guy friend and he did not look mad to me at all. So I guess he was irritated and I did not pick up on it. He told me that he was going to punch me in the neck if I keep playing with him like that. We were horse playing. Or I was at least. I stopped and looked at him and asked would you really punch me in the neck that would really hurt me. And he said he would punch me in the neck. And I told him that would make me cry if he did punch me in the neck. Then he said that he would not care at all whatever happens after he has punched me in the neck. I told him ok then I will definitely leave you alone then. I am crying as a type this. I know that real friends do not threaten friends like that. And it really hurts me inside. I feel heart broken to be honest. And if he is violent then I do not think it would be wise to associate myself with someone like that. I had no idea he was like that :( It really hurts to know that. What should I do? I want to talk to him about how it really hurts me that he told me that. But like he said earlier it is not like he is going to care. I feel the need to erase his number. It is ashamed because he is really cool to me. But then after telling me he would do that to me really hurts.

Fevah
 

It's possible that he was going through a bad moment,and angry about something else that didn't have anything to do with you.

Sometimes people say things that they don't mean. It surprises me when they sometimes don't remember what they said later.

If I where you I'd talk to him tomorrow,and definitely tell him that it hurt you. Pick a time when things are calm,like at the beginning of the day if things are calm,or at lunch,or at the end of the day when everyones going home.

He may not have meant it at all,and he may be angry at the economy,and worried about his future,bills,etc.,etc. He may have had a headache.

So talk to him. Please pray before you go to work,or school,or whatever situation it is.

I know how you feal,and my feelings get hurt,for I'm a very sensitive person. There are allot of people who show no sensitivity these days. I hope that you feel better. I surely like you. I hope things go well when you talk to the person tomorrow. I have just said a prayer:smileypray:for God to bring a peaceful intervention for you,and your friend. friend:hug::hug::hug:

Dear Sherla,
That's terrible.
I don't even know what to say.
I'm glad you learned about him now and in conversation -- maybe that is a good thing.
M.

Mari
 

You may be right. I've come across many unpleasant people in my life,and still do.

It's good to give a person the benefit of the doubt,till there's no doubt about them anymore. Many people have disappointed me. friend:hug::hug::hug:

OMG Yellowfever! I am so glad you're okay physcially, that was so uncool. Like Mari said though it's good that you figured out what kind of a person he was before he hurt you worse then his mean words. Oh boy, I just don't know what else to say except to offer a hug. :grouphug:

You deserve much better then that, don't associate with someone who can so callously talk about physical violence...Please take care of yourself. :hug:

I have been hit by men and in my experience when they can talk about it like that, the next step is to do it, my advice is to not give him a chance and if you see him, make sure it is in a crowded place. I am sorry this happened but better to be safe then sorry! Words hurt but beatings hurt far worse!

NO WAY - GET AWAY FROM HIM FOR GOOD.

I AM A VICTIM OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE.

VERBAL OR PHYSICAL - THERE IS NO EXCUSE FOR IT.

NIKKO:hug:

I'm sorry you had to get hurt like that. It is good to know what he's like now than further down the road.

barbara

He should have asked you to stop first, before he got to that angry point..
same thing as - if he was the one playing with you the that way,
...and if you asked him to stop.

But threatening to hit you in the neck is pretty specific and could cause a very serious injury also..

I don't think I would want to keep hanging around someone like that.

I think everyone has answered the question good.

So I'll answer the heart instead.

:grouphug: from all of us to you :grouphug:


Donna