Bad/sad news: DH's homecoming postponed
 

Well, as quickly as the news came that we thought DH was doing well enough to try coming home, things went sour. I don't know what happened, maybe even the thought of coming home scared DH, but yesterday was a very bad day for him. He was confused, hearing voices, crying, etc, all before I got there to see him at 12:30. Then we were told the county hospital had a bed for him, and were hopefully moving him last evening. Well, that fell through, at least for this week :(. We now have our sights set on next week.

So this morning, Tom called me and was hesitant to say something, just hemmed and hawed for a few minutes. Then I asked him if he was hearing voices again, and he said yes. I asked him what the voices were saying, and he said they were telling him to hurt himself. I told him to tell the nurses, which he did. I wanted to check, so I called the nurse's station and asked if he had spoken to them about the voices, and they said, yes, he had, and they are keeping him in the lounge, so they can make sue he is all right. The whole thing has me worried, very worried. then, about an hour ago, DH called me again, and I could tell by his voice that he was feeling better. He told me that he felt much better. I don't know what changed, nor does he, really, but I was SO relieved to get that second call from him!

That's the latest. What an up and down week this has been...:( :confused: :(

B12
 

Dear Jacquie,

Ask the pdoc to do a blood test for B 12. Also check for Vit D and other hormones:

http://ajp.psychiatryonline.org/cgi/...hort/157/4/660


Mari

It might be a small set back. But much better to happen when he is
there. And not at home.

Or moved and they don't know him.

Glad you are with help.

Donna:grouphug:

Do you think he has some fear of leaving? Even though he is not happy there, it is what he is use to, or not use to, but wants to stay there as an alternative to really coming home yet. He may really want to leave but is scared. Does not like the restriction, but that it is better then being without it in his heart.

Even though it is a different home, it is the one he suffered the post tramatic reaction in. He will be ready, and he will say "lets go home."

I am keeping you all in my prayers every day Jacquie :hug:

Ask the pdoc if you husband can go to an out patient day program. Those programs help people transition from the hospital life to home life.

M

this is an excellent suggestion....
bizi

Jacques


Hugs.

Donna:grouphug:

or maybe just come home for a trial weekend????or even just a day pass.
bizi

Thanks, you guys!
 

You really gave me some good suggestions! Yoy know, I was thinking about asking if he could be allowed to leave the facility for a brief trip out. I had even thought about taking him out yesterday for awhile because my sister and husband were visiting. Then he had his 'meltdown' day on Friday, and was still hearing voices yesterday morning urging him to hurt himself. Thank goodness those episodes lasted only for a brief period, and then he sort of 'snapped out of it'. He actually called yesterday while my sister and her DH were here, and I put him on speakerphone so he could say hello to everyone. I could tel the minute I heard his voice that he was doing much better, and his conversations reflected his much improved mood! It rained cats and doge yesterday, all day, practically, and there were flood warnings all over the state, and it was still pouring this morning. DH had said that I didn't need to go yesterday due to the horrible weather, so, instead, he was able to call me several times.

I do have an important question, though. I believe I told you that about ten days ago, the social worker told me that if we changed his status to 'involuntary' from voluntary, he would get a bed faster at the new facility they are trying to get him into...Well, I received a letter from the County Government, alerting me to a 'COMMITMENT HEARING' this Friday, or maybe Thursday (if he is transferred). What are those hearings like? He wouldn't be in attendance, would he? Any light you can shed on this process would be greatly appreciated!

Well, I've got to go and ready to go visit hubby again; I'll let you know how things are going. Cross your fingers, say a prayer, whatever your 'thing' is -- would be greatly appreciated. :heartthrob:

Here is a 56 page pdf about the procedure for New J.

http://www.judiciary.state.nj.us/civ...urceBinder.pdf

My very best advice is that you do not commit him.

M.