Husband Violent, Help!
 

My husband has been diagnosed with Epilepsy about 2 years ago. Just recently he suffered from his first Grand Mal seizure. It was extermly scarey. And of course, like normal he doesn't remember anything. After my husband had his seizure he became violent. I know that this was part of the post seizure and not him at all but I am still scared. He was going to stab me and my son (almost 3) was standing right behind me. My husband had pushed me on the bed and grabbed me by my throat and started punching me in the face. When my son started crying he got into his face and was yelling at him. Luckily our dog was trying to protect us and distracted him long enough for me to grab my son and lock him and I in my daughter's room (amost a year old) with her dresser pushed in front of the door. He came after us and kicked in the door and was on his way in when he started to finally come out of his seizure. I am so scared now. I feel so horrible to be feeling this way since he is my husband and he would never hurt us! I know that all this was the seizure, but I'm afraid to go to sleep at night. I'm contantly worried that next time me or one of my kids will be killed. And the worst part is that there may never be a next time and that could have just been a one time thing. I don't want to leave him. What kind of wife would I be to leave my husband due to his medical problem that he has no control over? But that night keeps playing over and over again in my head and I need to protect my children. I don't know what to do. When I tried talking to him about what our options could be and if spliting might be an option for the protection of our children, he got so hurt and defensive (which I don't blame him). I'm not thinking this because I don't love him, I just don't want anything to happen to my children. I don't know what to do!!

Hi K. Haskins,

Welcome to the forum! I'm so sorry that you and your family had to go through this hard time. If I may ask was your husband aware of what he was doing at the time or was it part of his seizure (sz.). My advice to you and your husband is to get him to an Epileptologist along with finding out if his sz. meds are causing him to have a temper. I know when I took keppra it made me have a hot temper. Another thing your husband should do is start taking vitamin B12 1000 mcg. once a day the vitamin B12 calms the nerves down so the neurons won't fire up so much triggering sz. and a temper.
Have your husband see a neuropsychologist and they can do tests on him to find out what is causing this temper to fire up. In the mean time have your husband do cold water therapy and that's when you put a cold washcloth on your face and the back of your neck 3 times a day at the same time or anytime you feel a sz. start up. By doing this it calms the neurons down and often it will stop sz. because the neurons in the brain won't be so warm after placing the cold washcloth on your face and the back of your neck. I wish you and your family only the best of luck and May God Bless All of You!

Sue

Welcome k.haskins. :Wave-Hello:

Nice to meet you!!