Where's YOUR Happy Spot / Space? / Legal Stuff
 

So, it seems we've all got this terrible disease, (RSD),
maybe some of us have other's to add to the list?
TOS,
Discs,
Traumatic Brain Injuries,
Sleep disturbances, PCS, Epilepsy, and let's not forget Constipation, Cranial or regular..
Ya'll can add to this list, and I'm sure you will~!

I didn't want to trick any one into reading this thread, but, I know that for me, I have happy "places, things" and so too, not so happy....

I'll tell ya'll,
my UN happiest place is PAPERWORK!
UGH! I just can't stand it! Just the thought of doing it, can upset me, and crank up the pain!
And, this has been tested out, by a psychologist, etc......blah blah.
I was sent to a "clinical psychologist", decades ago. It was shown, that PAPERWORK of any kind, was my enemy.
What I "delighted in" was, working with a group of folks, as their supervisor, over a job that I had designed, and was working through.

Well, Yea!
Since I was 8 y.o., I had taken that spot, in my Family's business as a campground resort (since stolen by my attorney). And, as a Master Plumber, where I could "run" my jobs, that I had designed, and "quoted" usually, as high bidder, and won.
So, you get an idea of what I did..? (The Resort was my favorite!).
Now, all these things are GONE! Wifey has profited, as my children were to take over! They weren't as quick, and spiteful...... to simply STEAL.
So, Wifey Stole ALL she could! But, I'm still standing to this!

Anyway, I really need my children (young adults) on my side, yet, I can't get hold of them. Their mother (first wife), is just opposed.

OK, then.

Now, you're all wondering why I'm writing this nonsense! I get it!
It's not nonsense. Why?
Because, someday, someone, near you, or closer, YOU will realize how people can take advantage of YOU, OR, YOUR FRIEND!
Like me!

It's just not real, when this happens! My other thread, I don't recall the exact name, something about a Judge....
But, HE DID leave me enough squiggle room, I pray~!
Because my attorney certainly won't say! That I have the space (time) to take this to an appeal!
Then,
I need to find an attorney, who will take this on a "wait for your pay" basis......
Lawyers Ain't like that!

Anyway, I;ve got so many ins. losses, that it don't matter.
I'll meet with my main lawyer next friday...... after this one...

Jeez It stinks!

Now, I'm gonna get to the point!

I CANNOT BE THE ONLY ONE WITH WEIRD ATTORNEY DEALINGS!!??????
CAN I?????


Course not!


PLEASE~!
TELL US YOUR STORY?

I know I'm not the only one, and, we can get together, and HELP One Another!

Please,
Speak Up!

Thanks,

Pete

Oh yea, the things I love!

I love my guitars, and my music.....

I could have written so much,
Long ago!

But, wifey has my note pad,
and a dozen or so songs are gone.

It's OK.

I'm better off w/o!

I'll write some more!

pete

Hi Pete,
 

I wanted to answer you and tell you how sorry I am for what you are dealing with.

I have been sick since 87. Not just RSD though, it came on in 98 along with the TOS and Fibro and too much more to name. I have had 24 surgeries since 95, and I still don't feel like I have went through a lot of what you have.

I lost my husband Bill almost 3 years ago and lost a lot of family and friends, that has been hard.

For the most part though, I feel blessed. I had 34 years with Bill, I have a great family. My kids think about me before they do anything major. They want to move to the mountains and they are determined I am going with them but I'm still not sure I want to go. It's cold enough here in the winter time.

I really sympathize with you for the court issues you are going through. What I have learned in this life it seems the good are the ones taken advantage of.

I can't imagine what it is like to not have your kids in your life. I have Susan and her family and my step-kids, which treat me like family even though Bill is gone.

I had a lousy lawyer for SS. If I had that to do over again, I would have pulled myself up by the bootstraps and fought for it myself. I do know about cruddy lawyers.

As far as happy things, my kids, my grandkids, my antiques, my Dr., my friends. I have more then enough love in my life. I wish someday you can find that in yours.

Ada

Pete
 

Hi Pete...We are here for you! Sorry that justice doesn't always prevail!
You know that I am also going through some terrible difficult times, right now.
That is why I have been out of sight. But, we will talk again soon!
You know about my guitars...my banjo...LOL and the things that are important to me...you being one of them! I forgot...the dive gear is gone...but is there a guitar left for you???? That might bring you some joy today, or do I need to send you one???? Hugs XXXX Love DI

God bless you Ada! I love you! Di

I am sorry you are still facing court/family issues on top of the health. I wish I had words to help but am here and listening and can understand how hard this all must be. You have to hold to hope though that things will get better. I know you were trying to get in touch with your kids through facebook and I wonder how that worked? Can you write them a letter? I am not familiar with lawyers etc but I thought some do work on if you win but maybe that is for only certain cases. Please hang in there and I am here by email too
Debbie I am so sorry for your loss and all your conditions and surgeries. You amaze me though because you are focusing on the positive which it sounds like you have an amazing family. I can understand the concern about weather as I moved specifically to be in warm. It was a hard choice because I did have to move away from my hope my mom but we will visit lots. I need to learn from you to focus on the positive so thank you because at the moment I am in a "pity" party but will try to do like you and focus on the positive.
Diana I am sorry you are going through a ruff time too. I know sometimes people need a break from the boards but sometimes it is good to reach out for support too. Hang in there

Man Pete that sucks bro! Your right that some of us have been there, because I have a few times. I call it life. At first it was devastating to lose the family business worth who knows how much to the family, but on paper in the millions. Worst of all it was actually stolen by a good friend who was a preacher no less. He wanted to be a famous tv preacher we found out later, and needed our tv station equipment to become that.

But life has a way of getting revenge better than you or I ever could, so to this day we have never seen this guy as famous. The lord says revenge is his, and he really means it LOL.

I thought I would never bounce back from that, bounce I did, and soon was on track to upper management in the casino industry. In a few short years was at the top of my game once more, like nothing had even happened, living the dream! Then Wham! A doctor makes a mistake and here I am, lost everything again. Only this time bouncing back is not the option that it was. Oh I bounced, but this time it hurt! :D

One thing ive learned through these life lessons is that it isnt what we have (material things), it is who we are, and how we deal with these experiences, and other people in our lives. I believe we are in this life to learn to deal with all this, and not lose our hope that things will work for a better good.

They can take everything from me, but I know they cannot take my joy because I have to make that decision to let it go. I decide when to be happy or sad, or mad, or glad. Nobody can make me feel anything I dont want to. Plus I wont let anyone know what my hot buttons are, because I do not like to have anyone know how to play me by hitting my hot buttons.

I have learned lots through all of these ordeals, and wouldnt change a thing. would go through them again if given the chance to do it over because I think it was meant for me to larn these hard lessons. The only thing I would want to change is the PAIN LOL!

I used to love things, cars, land, money, and now I love kids, sunsets, smiles, hugs, bbq's, family get togethers. I love life more now than ever!

And I love all my RSD family! :grouphug:

Outlaws of pain!
 

Hello, all my friends!
I was very tired when I wrote...
I didn't mean to make a call for my "poor self" or, ask for pity.
That's just not a good way to be, and I've never been like that, in 50+ years.
You all know my story, and what I was trying to get, was,

Where's YOUR Story? Happy Spot?
I mean,
What do you do that makes you happy?
I've been kind of "cut out" of some of those "Normal" things, "my children" etc...
(I did say their mother had something to do with it, but, that's wrong, they don't speak to her either.
She's an Angry person.)
I was thinking more banal things...
Hobbies.

I used to do stained glass and lead work.
Music is a favorite.
(Diana, I still have a Gibby Les Paul, and an Ovation acoustic).
I'm not currently driving, so, being in a band is difficult.

I'm kind of a loner, now. NEVER was before!
I have good friends, but not driving, well you can imagine.

Again,
I was asking,
What do Ya'll do for some fun, and entertainment?
Something to Set Yourselves Free?

I was NOT trying to make this a pity party for me!

I do appreciate your feelin's, and, in time I'll PM ya's.

I don't know if I ever mentioned, but, do you remember a band
called
"The Outlaws"?
"Lynryd Skynyrd"?

If so, one of my best friends, was the leader of the "Outlaws", wrote Green Grass
and High Tides;
Hughie Thomasson.
He was also in Lynryd Skynyrd for about a decade.

He died of a heart attack, two years ago, watching a football game, with his wife.
He was only 55.
Of course, if you're familiar, you know that Southern Rock stars,
have been known to have short lives....

It was the anniversary of his passing a few weeks ago, and that had me a bit bummed.
Great Person.

Anyways,
Let's talk about our Hobbies, and what keeps us busy, and OUTlaws of Pain?
OK?

PAIN OUTLAWS!
That's it!

What'dya got?


Pete

asb

Hi Pete,
 

That's a great question and it gives some happiness to the forum when people are going through a lot of hard times and pain.

My happiness as I said is my family. My kids just built a cabin in the mountains. I went up last weekend and went hiking with them. I slipped and fell and landed on my tailbone on a rock. I'm still paying for that one but I had fun. The kids did help me up and down the places that were hard for me to go and Travis finally told me I couldn't go any farther so I had to sit and wait on them. I'm talking cliffs. Travis and a friend slid down one and couldn't get back up so they had to find another way out and we back tracked. Boy was my legs sore. I thought we were going to go hiking on the road. I get a key where I can go up anytime I want. Great getaway.

My Grandson's. Dustin is on the bowling league, Travis is on the adult one, Devin is in football and will go into basketball so I go to games. The boys also spend 2 to 3 nights a week with me. The only downfall with that, I have to get up early to take them to the bus stop which is 5 blocks away.

I deal in antiques. Buy and sell. I also make jewelry.

I try to be as active as possible even if it hurts. I have came a long way.

I can't carry a tune in a bucket but I do have a kareoke machine and have made some tapes for the boys in case anything happens to me. Bill sang so they have several tapes of him. I do like trying to sing.

I like being around people. We have a lot of bbq's at the kids' house for birthdays, graduations, ballgames, and anything else that gives us an excuse to cookout and get together.

I talk to my family back home a lot. 6 brothers and sisters left, one with cancer. He's doing good right now.

I like good movies, good books, good jokes.

I do enjoy the forum too and have made some good friends on here in the past 10 years. It's been fun.

Ada

Well I didnt mean to be a bummer in the last post, but it sure felt good to tell everyone about the big mistake I made with the television station. I havent said a peep about that in 20 years LOL. So it was like lifting a big weight right off my chest. Sometimes I think my brothers and sisters still hold it against me even though they had nothing to do with any part of that business except for being related to our dad. IT was he and I that grew that biz, and it was I that didnt watch the preacher close enough after my dad died.

Anyways there were some good things that came from that, and one of them I get to see this Sat. He is going to turn 70, and I got invited to his birthday party! He was Jaws in the James Bond movies, Richard Kiel. It will be fun to go see all the people I havent seen in a looong time, will be able to catch up with everyone, see their kids, and maybe grandkids LOL!

I love building and fixing computers. I lurk the yard sales looking for computers, monitors, and anything that I might be able to use in my little computer workshop. I have been able to give all my kids, and some grandkids a computer, and now have been thinking of donating to those with needs.

Everyone here knows I love kids, so I wont say much about that :p

And I love all of my RSD friends I have made over the last 10 or so years!! :grouphug:

Thankyou Pete for starting a great thread :hug:

Hi Pete,

Your story is wrenching and I hope at some point things finally start to fall in place in your favor! You've worked hard and created so much, you need a big chunk of happiness to come your way!! I am most sorry that you are out of contact with your children..I know that leaves a painful hole in your heart, but that could change..please don't give up..

Happy spots?
One of my most happy spots is up the Big Sur River in the Ventana Mountains in Northern Caifornia, even if it's only in my mind..

I used to hike up the river over huge boulders as big as cars..and then finally after about a mile, end up at a crystal clear gorge where the water is pure and you can see down to the bottom (about 15 feet)

another favorite spot....
...if you have ever walked through a redwood forest where the old growth trees are hundreds of years old, you know the feeling of sacredness as you walk silently over the pine needles, and feel the mist fall through the branches to the ferns below.

and another...
...standing at the edge of land, as your feet sink into the sand while the white water of the ocean waves ebb and flow, is an experience that overrides any sadness or conflict you may have in your mind or heart! The power and magnificence of the waves, are larger than my thoughts...

These are things that I love(d) to do..I can no longer hike, but I might be able to ride through the trees on my mobility scooter (just got it a couple of weeks ago) if I can find a little path I can navigate...and I can still be near the ocean but can't hike along the shore.

I work full time and by the end of the day, I drop ! the work week is hard..

My life has changed and I have to figure out new ways to find happiness..i meditate and try to find mindful pleasure in each moment...
I love music, I read...I have become somewhat of a 'loner' in that the chronic and unpredicatble pain make it hard to plan...it's just hard to be around chit-chat, and levity etc. when it hurts!

Frankly, much of the time I feel like a caged bird or cheetah, but it is what it is...
Everything changes and I have to adapt....my expectations have lessened, and I sometime feel like a live in a box....but..everything changes..

Thanks for the thread, Pete!
Please take good care..you have a soulful way of reaching out to people..
hope4thebest :hug: