What Should I do, I just don't feel wanted anymore
 

I go to work and have no friends, I come home and read or get on here and feel lonely. I hopefully will start college on Monday, but what happens if people make fun of me because of my disability? I have thought about suicide because I have no friends, everyone is older than me and they don't want to hang out, and when I probably go to school Monday, I am liable to be made fun of. Sometimes I think suicide is the only way out. I go to church and don't feel right there either. Could someone please become my friend and help me.

Jennifer

Hi Jennifer, I'm glad to see you back.

You don't know for sure how it will go to school. Have some hope for it and try not to think of the negative. You might make a lot of friends.

One day at a time ((Jennifer)).

Why don't you tell us more about yourself?

What are your hopes and dreams?

How about taking some exercise, craft, art or dance classes?
Those kinds of classes give plenty of time to talk and make friends as you do the activities.

I know it is hard to handle if people make fun - but hopefully they wouldn't be that rude to do that - and if they do they are the bad ones not you - so just try to hold your head up and keep on going.

Would you be able to try some other churches on your own?
or would your parents get upset by that?

Have you talked with any family members about your feelings of loneliness?
Talking through things is a very good start.

Did you read some of those links on the thread you made last nite?
here-
http://neurotalk.psychcentral.com/sh...ad.php?t=10483

Just for fun I googled "how to make friends"
- so here is the link to the list of websites that came up-
http://www.google.com/search?hl=en&q...=Google+Search

those might be fun and interesting to look through- have a nice evening.

hi Jennifer,

good to see you back...I was picked on a lot when I was in school as well, and all through college(heckit, I am still picked on these days, just yesterday, as a matter of fact. LOL) ...and I tried very hard to make friends and I did have a lot of "friends"

but they took advantage of my insecurity and used me more than being friends to me. But I DID make some very good friends...

I think Jo is right, first thing you have to do is share some things about you. In order for any of us to make friends, we have to share a little about ourselves first, and then we all discover eachother as we journey the the thing called "life" together...

yes, it is hard...I have those thoughts too...it is good to talk about it...

may I ask you a few questions?? Feel free to answer or not answer them...

1) how old are you?

2) what kind of disability do you have? Some of us that come here, myself included have different disabilities...

3) have you talked to anyone about your suicidal thoughts? Like a psychologist/psychiatrist, counselor, or maybe a local health dept? When I was younger, I got some free help at the local health department...

4) can you talk to your parents about this? Or will they worry too much and you are afraid to worry them?



to introduce myself, I am usually called "E" around here, not to be confused with Jule's "E" so I decided to rename myself...but call me E anyways...LOL

and please keep talking to us, but try not to let us hang too long, cause there are a lot of "mothers" here and me a "father" and we DO get to worry when we see posts of people that are troubled and then we don't hear back from them for awhile...so, keep us posted, eh??

And I hope you like internet hugs

(((HUGS)))

take care there, keep talking...it is OK to have those thoughts, most of us have them either all the time or from time to time...but don't carry them out, OK??

We are all trying to be your friends Jennifer. Starting college is a wonderful, challenging and scary time of your life. You'll have all kinds of opportunities to branch out. Yes, it's possible that some fool will make fun of you...it's also possible that you'll make a new friend and love your classes.

Try to look at it as a new beginning. I usually find that if you're fun to be with, others want to be with you.

Someone once asked the great psychologist Karl Menninger, "What should a person do if he feels a nervous breakdown coming on?"

Menninger replied, "Lock the door, go across the street, and do something to help your neighbor."

Sometimes doing something thoughtful for another person can ease our own pain.

Just keep/or maybe start talking to us Jennifer...we'd like to help. :)

Hi Jennifer.

I hope you come back to talk and that you are doing well today. I see a lot of people reaching out to you.

Keep us posted.

Hi Jennifer,

I'm also alone most of the time due to pain. Then depression sets in and you lose interest.

I'm impressed by all the sweet messages people are writing you today! See, people REALLY DO CARE ABOUT YOU!! I'm sorry some out there can be so cruel to each other.

Please remember something I felt was spoken to my heart when I went through some of the same things you're going through:

"The attitudes of those people do not DEFINE who you are!"

You were created unique and special....and you have a purpose in life. A hope and a future! This is TRUTH!

I'll be praying for you,

(((hugs)))

DeniseG

Hey E

This is Jennifer, I am still having suicidal thoughts, now someone at work is wanting me gone, what should I do. Feeling sad no friends. To answer your questions,

1. 22 will be 23 January 31
2. Mild Mental Disability
3. I have talked to someone, but no one lately and I really don't want too, I
am scared, so I would rather keep it here.
4. I don't want to upset my parents.

I like playing video games, watching basketball, football, and soccer, and also playing them.

Jennifer
I was just checking in before I go to bed, and saw your post here, so I want to give you a ((((HUG)))) and tell you again how much we care about you here at Neurotalk....you already have many friends here :)

Remember, there is always gonna be someone to talk to here...even if they dont answer immediately....people log in throughout the day and night

more (((hugs))) and blessings

http://i21.photobucket.com/albums/b2...575-19-044.jpg

cool beans...
 

hi Jennifer,

as you can see, many people here care about you and have replied to you. And you've already got a friend in me. I also want to tell you that some of my closest of friends are right here in this here forum...but more on that later...LOL

Now, let's address a few thing, if you don't mind...you said someone at work wants you gone?? Gone how, you mean like want you fired?? What kind of work do you do???

I understand about not wanting to upset your parents and not wanting to talk to someone "in person" right now. If you think talking it out in this forum will help, please keep on talking about it.

I can feel myself wanting to type a lot of thoughts to you, but I don't want to overload you, so I might do a few posts to you. Feel free to read whatever and skip whatever or skip all if you'd like. LOL

to start off, I LOVE playing video games as well! I owned a video games store about 11-12 years ago. Back then, the hot systems were Playstation and NIN 64. Super Nintendo was still popular, Sega was on its way out(which was too bad, cause I loooved their games...), and X-box was talking about getting into the video game market.

My favorite genres were the fighting games such as "Street Fighters II" and "Mortal Combat" or RPG games such as Final Fantasy Series and almost anything RPG.

Based on your age, you would've been 12 around those times, and I suspect you were into either Sonics or Super Mario Brothers...they just started the 3-D roll around back then instead of scroll based games...LOL

and since you like sports, I'll bet you loved the sports games as well??

I like to play sports myself. I played football in high school and played volley ball in college...

I am short, but I tried very hard to make it to the teams...

I wonder if you'd be interested in a little RPG gaming history and why I love them??

I am sure you've heard or have watched the Lord of the Rings trilogy. It is based on a series of books based mainly on the Hobbit character named " Frodo"

(indulge me a bit if you are familiar with the story...LOL)

Frodo found himself in some dire straits situations and had to align himself up with some "friends"

and by working with his friends, they triumphed...

now, someone very smart took this idea and created a very popular game called "Dungeons and Dragons"

it is played with a group of people that want to go on adventures and move up in levels and of course, enjoy some good time with company.

Someone even smarter took that game and made it into a video game...and from there on, it sprouted popular games such as Zelda, the Super Mario Brothers, Final Fantasy Series..(bear with me, I am almost to my point. LOL)

and to play these games, you are usually by yourself, but while you are on your adventures, you usually make some friends along the way...

OK, now my point...

I grew up being teased a lot also, Jennifer, and I've often had to seek out friends...when I found out that there was a Dungeons and Dragons group meeting every Saturday(this was during my grade and high school years). I joined and made some friends there...we'd come up with adventures, develop our characters, making it very lively...I did that for almost 2 years every weekend non stop...

about 14 years ago, I gave up on people, was very suicidal...so I enclosed myself and played a bunch of RPG games...what I loved about it was that I was by myself, yet, because of the adventures and able to make friends that will help me fight the enemies along the way really kept me alive and well some days...
I've never really shared this with anyone else before for I didn't want anyone to think I was weird, finding "life" in video games...but it was true...

these days, there are more advanced games...you can play on line, meet friends that way. There are even more variations of Dungeons and Dragons now, I think the most popular is Magic...

I guess what I am trying to say is that if you are able to, seek out some role playing gamers in your area, there are usually shops that cater to it...and the funny thing is, most of us that go to play those games usually feel very alone ourselves...

of course, be very careful as well...

to make friends, a lot of times we have to take the first step...

if you are able to play games on line to a group, perhaps that can help you as well? Yahoo and Pogo both have free games and on-line groups that you can play games and chat in real time ...

loneliness sucks and I feel for you...but don't let it defeat you, eh??

as you have read, there are a lot of folks that have reached out for you, they are making that step to be friends with you....reach back,talk to them...and friends will pile up for you. :)

and then of course, there are things that we hate about ourselves that create low self-esteem issues for us...

your disability is NOT a negative, Jennifer...I am sure you have gifts that no one else have that make you unique...

I want to share a story of my cousin with you...I'll call her "R"

she has mild Downs Syndrome and her father isn't very nice to her...she has a sister that is brilliant, graduated head of her class and is now a cancer doctor. Her dad have always put R down and have told her she'll never be anything...

But R became a supervisor at Wal-Mart, and now that her parents are old, she is the one taking care of them...

she finally met someone that she fell in love with, but her father told her she was NOT allowed to get married...we are from the old country and she obeyed her father...

I got into a huge fight with him when he came to my dad's funeral...and I let him have it...

you know what R said to me? And she said it with a smile...

she said, " I am here for a reason,and right now, it is to take care of mom and dad. I always feel alone,but I am never alone. As long as I have your support, I will never be alone..."

This came from my cousin that everyone considers "diabled"

to me, she is the smartest one of all...if I only had her gift...

I actually learned a lot from her...and stopped griping and whining about my own stupid disabilities...actually, I am thankful for it...if it weren't for that, I'd never meet these wonderful TRUE friends that I've made in this here forum...nor would I have met my wonderful and beautiful wife..

anyways, I am sure you probably have stopped reading long ago...LOL

take care of yourself and love yourself first...when you love yourself, that is when you'll realize other's love...

((((HUGS))))

stick around, kiddo, I predict that if you do, you'll make at least one friend here, wait, you already have, me! :D

Glad you came back Jennifer.

I bet E didn't know I'm a gamer from long time ago too. Still have my Sony Playstation and Nintendo 64. It's amazing how many hours pass when you are playing those games. My favorites were Zelda and Final Fantasy. And, I still have friends who play dungeons and dragons, in fact my son-in-law still meets with friends each month to play on a Saturday night.

I'm not sure what to say about your job. Where do you work? Do they harass you in any way? If you aren't being bothered by anyone, I guess I would just go about my work, do my job, and leave the job behind each day when I go home.

If they are harrassing you in anyway, however, that's a different story.

Thanks I appreciate everything you've done me, I guess I am just lonely.

(((Jennifer))) I hate feeling lonely...sometimes you can feel that way in a whole room full of people. Well, honey you aren't alone in here because you've joined our "family"...we kid each other a lot but like realtime families...we are here to help when someone needs it. :)

Pull up a chair....do you have a pet? It's hard to feel lonely when a critter is licking your face. :D *whisper...I promise not to lick your face.

tetris fanatic here. :D and ms pac man. i still play atari. and plain ole super nintendo.

i know it's hard jennifer when "friends" are right there with you. but you have friends from all over the world now.

when i was young, we had pen pals. we wrote and sent letters to kids in other states and countries. i would wait weeks and weeks for replies. now..it takes no time at all.

i hope things start looking up.