Depressed about not being able to get rid of so much stuff
 

Hi,
-A cleaning lady is coming today.
-I think my friend will be here as well.
-Hubby too I hope.
One might think that the four of us could get this place into shape.

I can't find anything. I bought a radio / cd player a little while ago -- never took it out of its box. I think hubby moved it. He does arbitrarily move things. I could have been the one to move it, but I would remember it because I bought it and brought it in. He does not know where it is. I might buy another. I'm so annoyed.

And I still don't know where my good alarm clock is since we moved in August. It's in one of the un opened boxes.

I'm depressed. This is overwhelming. It takes brain power and brawn and I am not up to either.


The mail man came and brought a box for me to sign. I think it is junk that hubby purchased on line. I asked him not to buy more stuff because we have a finite amount of space (space can't grow, duh).

He is a pack rat. I have stuff that I hold onto because I think I need it.
We need to go through the boxes from the August move.
Maybe I will work up some anger about the situation and ask the cleaning lady to put my boxes on her pick up truck and take them to the dump.


M.

BEcareful what you do today...don't overdo it mentally of physically. 4 people in your home sounds like a lot could get done but also overwhelming...
I hear your frustration.
bizi

Thanks, Bizi,

Hubby said he is going to leave if I bother him about his stuff that he keeps bringing in.


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The cleaning lady is here. She and hubby are moving stuff.

M.

what did he mean by that?
Dr. M. a few years ago told me to throw out what i haven't used in a year...it is really liberating....I also can't believe I now throw out my fiction books right after i read then. i brought close to four hundred paperbacks to ronald mcdonald house and then picked out two books from their selection and they made me pay three dollars. i got so mad I stopped bringing them books....i know that was bad of me but you couldn't believe my rage
bobby

Dear Mari,

i hope you can get enough stuff cleared out to meet your needs.

And i hope hubby cools off quick.

i am sorry you are having such a hard time right now.

~ waves ~

seriously leave?????
or just not help with the clean up?
hurrumph!:(


I am glad the cleaning lady is here to help!!!!
yippie!!!!!
bizi

HI, Thank you.
 

Hi,

I have a headache and don’t feel so good.
I’m hungry and the kitchen is in disarray.

Yeah, hubby meant leave as in leave me. He was upset because I spoke to him out side in the parking lot when I was in my car going on an errand and he was in his car arriving home. If we were inside when I asked him about the package that arrived today he would have simply ignored me.

Friend and I went through boxes and dumped lots of stuff. I had been keeping lots of books, teaching materials, teaching supplies that I use for work. I greatly reduced that. Other stuff is simply junk. I got rid of some of that today, but there is more to throw away.

The stuff that was left we put into categories. A lot of that stuff that I didn’t feel like making a decision about can still be thrown away. It was very hard for me to concentrate and do that kind of task – that’s why the stuff has been taking up space – too hard to figure out what to do with it. I took lots of breaks on the sofa and closed my eyes.

We asked hubby and the cleaning lady to carry out and toss some bookcases and other things that were making the living room crowded. Some furniture got rearranged. The place looks less like a cramped warehouse now and more like a place where people live.

The cleaning lady and hubby spent an hour or two putting together a complicated sofa table from Penneys that came in a box last summer. After that they spent forever fixing our old wobbly kitchen table.

Cleaning lady is coming back tomorrow to clean.


M.

Dear Bobby,
I would have stopped bringing them books too.
That's wrong on so many levels for them to treat you like that. :confused:

M.

man Mari, I don't know what to say about your husband...has he been this way before?

Dear Bizi,
He is a hoarder with undx'd OCD traits. He gets upset when his hoard is threatened.

M.