Do you feel fear about the new year ?
 

Oh crap I DO :o :mad:

I had a crisis last night ( :rolleyes: AGAIN !)... I had fear all night... I cried and tried to pray all night long... Main poblem: FEAR !!! I felt fear about my health... my loneliness...

And guess what, Im having sentimental relations' problems... :o Seriously, why, I mean WHY, everytime I put my eyes in somebody, everytime I feel motivation for doing things for that people, BANG ! He is married, has a gf, like somebody else... :( :( :( Oh.. my never ending story.... :(

That put me in a nasty mood...

And a new year coming... and, I hate to receive a new year feeling this crap... I have no hope in anything... :(

Grrrr....

WHY WHY WHY ! :mad:

Find some rituals
 

Dear Majo,

You can have hope.
If you don't have hope now, try to hold on to having hope someday in the future.

I'm joking but this can be fun.
A few years ago I was at a New Year's Eve gathering with a woman who borrowed a suitcase and walked around the building three times. It was supposed to bring her good travels.

Seriously, do you do any exercise? Walking saved my life.
Maybe you can find something similar that can save your life.

M.

no fear... just crud
 

and getting cruddier.

i don't feel afraid. just sort of oh no here we go again.

time going forward... me not going forward with it.

stuff just not right today. possibly stuff i say doesn't come across right or is not taken right... or, quite possibly both.

oh and i know what you mean about the guy thing. :( more crud, right there.

sorry for the fear. i hope that passes along with my crud.

all my rituals are out the window this year too it seems.

~ waves ~

hugs to everyone today!
(((((((HUGS))))))
bizi

yes.
 

Hugs :hug: :hug: :hug:

Hugs to all.

M.

Hum... :( Bloody nostalgy... And fear...

I keep asking myself, why I can't manage to be happy... Argh :mad: Is like I always have one dark thing in my life that makes me feel bad, sad, etc...

I'm hating today to be honest... I wish I wasn't... But everything scares me...

It is one of my purposes to start walking everyday next year...

More hugs to everyone !

this is a good goal.
try to make it in smal steps like today I am going to walk. that way it won't be too overwhelming to put that amount of pressure.."I am going to walk everyday this year"
small steps and pat yourself on the back when you get done with your walk start slowly 10 minutes or just around the block what ever works for you.
great new goal ! I should make the same one.
(((((HUGS)))))
bizi

yeah me too
 

need to start walking that is :o

~ waves ~

walking
 

Dear Majo,
I walked three times this week at the gym. It is wonderful and relaxing -- almost always improves mood.
Some people pick a good time for this -- like first thing in the morning -- depending on what works.
It takes a few weeks to start a new hobby.

Can you get a pedometer?
Some people love them.
http://www.pedometer.com/
Here's an example of one.

M.

The walking is an excellent idea. In addition to the physical and psychological benefits, it's amazing how many nice people you can meet out for a stroll. That's doubly true if you have dogs. A person out walking their dog has already passed a big measure of decency with me.

Like most of us Blue, you tend to let small things cloud all your big accomplishments. In 2009 you earned permission to continue your doctoral research. How many people do you think achieved something as amazing as that? I also seem to remember something about a super cool concert in London. Wow!

Rather than making some New Year's resolution that only stresses you out, how about writing a list of the ten greatest things about you? (If you say you can't think of ten things (slap), we'll do it for you. The hardest part will be paring it down from a thousand.) Put that list by your bed so it's the first thing you see in the morning. Better yet, write it in luminous ink so you can see it in the night when our deepest insecurities seem to grab hold under cover of darkness.

Keeping what is positive and REAL in the forefront of our thoughts can help beat down the negative things we speculate might happen.

Cheers