never letting go
 

any tips on how to keep going when you're exhausted but will never, ever let go or let down the person you're caring for?

My friend is confusing my attempts to marshal more resources as a rejection of her, when it's just the opposite: I want to go the distance with her but know I can't make it without more help. My attempts to discuss this with her are making her confused, distant, depressed, and suicidal. Her illness is causing mental confusion, so it's almost impossible to have a rational discussion with her, and she is so fragile.

Help!

it's hard, but you just have to do it. without help, you won't be able to be there either. it can be too much.

letting the new person who is helping explain to your friend might be a good idea.

i have a little experience dealing with hospice care. the one who was supposed to help with my brother is the one who explained why she was there. she put it that she was going to be there more for us who were taking care of him, rather than we "didn't want to" take care of him. he didn't want strangers around, but this he understood.

on just the caregiving stand point. i still can't get my folks to get any help to come into their home. but they are moving closer to me, so hopefully that will help.

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