Ugh, why cant people get it ??
 

Last night I had another of my terrible fights with my father... I hate when he shouts... he looks like a monster and seriously, I feel like hitting him... He keeps complaining about my existance basically, and, I really feel I hate him... I try to ignore him, but he keeps attacking me (or I feel like that)...

Anyway, this morning my mom came to talk to me about the situation, and I said: "Mom, Im bipolar, situations for me are different, I handle them diffrent ! (or I cant handle them !)"
Guess what she said ? "Everybody has good and bad days... I can fel sad today and happy tomorrow".... and I was like :eek: "yeah right, and that's why I need to take medicines, go to the doc, stay in bed for days and feel euphoric with simple things...." :rolleyes:

Why can people understand being bipolar is a different thing than being just "happy" or "sad" ? :( :mad:

Dear Majo,
Sorry about that.
Most people, including some mental health professionals, do not get it.
Even people who are very close to us do not get it.

I talked to my tdoc about this not long ago.
There are lots of people with mental illness and yet our needs are ignored -- as much by regular people as by people who love us.

It's crummy. http://bestsmileys.com/sad/9.gif


M.

It is so frustrating....

I dont get it... how can it be so difficult ??

For example, in my case, I feel like my mother and family actually contradict theirselves... They always say Im "weird"... and then, when I want to talk about my illness, my very complex illness, which is responsable of more than one thing in my person, they say Im "like everybody"... hell... :mad:

I will also vent my frustrations....
that my family doesn't get it either.
I HAVE MENTAL HEALTH ISSUES AND AM NOT NORMAL!
it is not my fault, sometimes I act normal, but usually alcohol is involved, so it is a false sense of security. Other times I act very childishly...impulse driven...
anyway....
bizi

Ugh, Bizi, so sorry... As I said before, It makes me so mad people cant get it... :mad:

"IM NOT NORMAL" Yeah that ! Exactly !!! :hug:

Ugh... Sometimes I wonder if my parents really dont get it, or, they simply want to pretend they dont get it... like blocking the problems... "covering the sun with just one finger"... :mad:

At least here, we get it ! :grouphug:

Dear Majo,
That is exactly it.
They want to pretend that everything is fine.

My father's favorite expression is "Stanno tutti bene."
http://www.flixster.com/movie/stanno...verybodys-fine
Years before that 1990 movie came out, he often said "everything is fine." It is his mantra.

Whenever I call, I tell him and mom that everything is fine. They know darned well that lots of things are not fine.
That is how it works in my family from the nephews to the great aunt, to the sister-in-law ------ everybody buys into the idea of pretending.

M.

Noooooooooooow I get it completely dear Mari...

My family is excactly the same... you know, when you ask them how they are, they always said fine even when the family is breaking in a million pieces... And of course, I have to reply the same thing because, they dont like to listen problems, illness... the real stuff you know... they just pretend... you said it right...

My mom for example, is even pathetic.... she doesnt like medicines, and under that principle, she thinks every doctor exaggerates when giving medicines... :eek: So, of course, Im fine, Im normal, I dont need medicines, I dont have mental issues... I dont have sleep problems, is just that I drank coffee... and yeah, Im always "fine"... :mad: :(

Oh well... I even feel sorry for them... I mean, I LOVE to talk about my problems so I can listen to others and learn from their experiences and advices, and nobody in my family wants to listen, less they want to talk... :rolleyes: I dont know how can people live with all those "secrets"... I would explote one minute or another...

:grouphug: