the woman i'm scared of
 

the woman i'm scared of is a consultant/recruiter. she is the former boss of a friend of mine here. my friend sent her my resume/recommended me to her ex-boss, when she heard i was job-hunting.

i have had calls from only 2 people and she is one of them. she is the one i was supposed to contact regarding training.


so far, she did get me one interview, but she changed something on the resume she sent the client (made an experience that was 1 month long, into 3 years long, while in the same breath saying she wasn't asking me to lie... :rolleyes:).

today i got an sms from her saying she'd sent out my resume for something in Java. i called her to tell her i wanted to hold off on the training, and talk to her about not fudging my resume. well before i get a chance, she tells me she has fudged the one she sent to the new client, in a different way from last time. this time, she switched an experience from 7 years ago to the past three years. and switched my last experience (3 years ago) to 7. i told her from here on out, would she please not do that.

then i had to ARGUE with her for 10 minutes.

she kept asking why i want to cut myself out of so many opportunities.... saying that she wasn't asking me to lie... bla bla bla. she kept on about how she did not change one iota of the content, she did not "dare" she said. only the dates. oh, not dare, eh??? :rolleyes::mad: i held my ground and told her if she didn't feel she could invest in me with my resume as-is, with accurate dates, that it was her prerogative and i completely understood. but she went on and on and on....

I AM SOOO UPSETT!!! :mad::mad::mad:

i am having a beer. :o

~ waves ~

Dear Waves, :hug: :hug: :hug:
Is she difficult in general or only about resumes?
I assume she is difficult in other matters.

Sorry about this.
Would you want a job in JAVA?

Mari



~I'm sleepy and getting ready to call home sick from work because I can't think straight. I apologize but I wanted to respond.

that was so unethical what she did!
you have every right to be angry about this. It is your resume, meaning that you were the one supposed to create it.
ugh!
Good for you for sticking up for yourself.
I am sorry that you had to have a confrontation with her...sounds dreadful.
((((HUGS)))
bizi

As I mentioned on the zoloft thread...

Trust your instincts! If you already feel uncomfortable with this lady, don't commit to any kind of long term situation with her... She's REALLY pushy.

I was really uncomfortable with the nurse manager who conducted my interview several years ago. She basically interrogated me and was very intimidating. After that interview, I was sure I didn't get the job, but I did. I loved the floor nurses and other aides, but the nurse manager was horrible to work for and ended up quitting after a year. I should have trusted my instincts.

Recruiters get $$$ for new hires they refer, but not all of them are dishonest enough to pad resumes like that- and without your permission. She's misrepresenting you.

You don't need all that **** right now. I would wash my hands of her. Do you have an email address for her? Since, she's so argumentative, I would send her an email or letter to tell her you're not longer interested in working with her.

I'm so sorry that you got tied up in this mess! Don't let this ***** bring you down!

((((HUGS))))

-Kay

well,

it really sucks, because i *DON'T* get calls, even when i send out stuff (which currently i can't get myself to do). so this woman represents 50% of my odds. she probably would not even have called me, had i not been personally referred by someone she knows well, and who knew me in a professional context.

my mom said she thinks the reason why the woman got so insistent was because she knew she had done something wrong, and got defensive... tried to put it in a light where it looked like i was in the wrong instead of her. somehow that makes sense. this woman got quite agitated on the phone. the way i left things with her was that she could send my resume as-is, or not at all, up to her. i don't want to be under her thumb, and i don't want to owe her anything so i don't think letting her train me would be a good idea, but i can't afford to shut doors completely right now.

the other consultant called me today too... the macho wonderboy - the one who asked me if i had kids, and insisted, even when i objected that it was illegal. he represents the other 50% of my shot at a job, right now. anyway, he wanted to send my resume to a client it sounds like i can get to, for a job it sounds like i could do, so i said ok. wasn't gonna say no, given i can't even send a frickin resume out right now.

i really can't afford to pick people i like in this market and in my situation.

~ waves ~

Waves

You are good at judging people. Just keep doing this.

Donna

Dear Waves, :hug: :hug: :hug:
'Sending lots of hugs.

M.

Thanks Mari. :) and for replying so quick before, too.

Bizi, Kay, and Donna, thanks to each of you also for your supportive words and for believing in me when i don't even believe in myself.

i am calmer but boy did i get mad today. mad and shaken. it was weird. i hate confrontations. well at least it is dealt with now.

~ waves ~

Dear Waves,
We believe in you.


Confrontations are hard but I'm glad that you are feeling better than you did earlier.

M.

Oh, oh, oh.... you have to believe in yourself !!! remember that the only thing we have is ourselves.... :rolleyes: Hard I know... but, you can do it dear waves !!! And I too believe and trust in you !! :hug:

About that woman... She was mean... and, if you dont feel confortable near her, just, ignore her and move on... be patient... better things will come !!!! :)