My bad
 

And please note, that's with a :( and not a :D. I'm not saying "hee hee, I was naughty and I don't care, so there!" I'm frustrated and NOT proud of myself.

I was brought up (and believe) that it's rude to say "I'll try" or "Maybe I'll come" if one has no intention whatsoever of showing up. And that's just what I did.

I got an invitation with the options "yes, no, maybe" and I just up and checked "maybe", even though I absolutely positively will NOT be going.

I just didn't have it in me to say "no" and either explain yet AGAIN or let them draw their own conclusions. Yes, I know that a polite but firm "thanks for asking me, but no" would be the thing to do, but I just...could...not.

I took the weasel way out, and I DO care, but I did it anyway. And now maybe I understand that not everybody that says "maybe" when they mean "no" is rude. (Some are)

I hear you B2U. I too am guilty of doing just that. :Blush2:

Many times, well most times actually, I'll say "I'll let you know", or "I'm not sure yet" when I know very well that I will not be going, and will have to think up a good reason closer to the event.

I hate saying "No" to anyone, but I've become very unsociable and have got to the stage where leaving the house is just too much trouble.

A good friend was getting married, and I remember being asked "If I send you an invitation to ****'s wedding, will you actually turn up?"

I must be really bad ... and it looks like others have worked me out. :o

Awww.
 

I saw this and just HAD to say......
What this says to me is that you both have hearts of gold and don't want to hurt anybody's feelings!
I too, would opt to say 'I'll see' or 'Maybe' even if I knew in my heart the chances of me actually going would be quite slim......

I used to get my feelings hurt quite easily and when somebody would say an outright "NO" to me, I would internalize that as 'rejection' and really let it get to me.

I don't see anything at ALL wrong with what you are saying!

Cut yourself some slack!
:hug::hug:

I'm not going to tell you my bads. They really are bads sometimes (well, not so much as I get older) I have good "goods" too though. You guys are good though.

PS-Call me old fashioned - I don't think maybe should be an RSVP option.

I've done the same as you before,B2Y. It's most always related to my MS symptoms as to why I don't make it to something that before MS, I'd have gone to no question. We feel guilty even for the things we can't control.
Don't feel bad. You're not alone in this.

When I say maybe, then it's something I want to attend and in my heart, I want to, but in my brain, I know I won't be able. :( If that's bad then I'm a member of the club, too.

If it's something I don't relish doing, I say, Thanks for asking (and I sincerely mean that), but no.

I also hate saying no to nice people who still care enough to bother to ask..:hug::hug: