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I am here because my father suffered a TBI May of this year and he is still in a coma. He wasnt even suppossed to make it through the night much less to where he is. After spending 18 days in ICU then until September 11 of this year in a acute hospital he is a firm level 3 on the glasgow scale he was only a 2 when he left the hospital. He is being cared for by me and my stepmother in her home. Its been rough to say the least. I have a soon to be 6 month son that he was sooooooo anxious for but has yet to really meet. He watches him now and you can tell he wants to talk to him or to do something and he cant. I was lucky in the fact that 2 weeks before his accident I had gotten married finally and he was one of our witnesses. He however has missed his wedding until he is awake. Him and my stepmother were suppossed to be married September 11th instead she brought him home to care for while he is in a coma.

Its amazing how far he has come and will hopefully come. He is making little improvements all the time from where he was. I know we are extremely lucky to have him here today even in the shape he is in but it still hurts to see him like he is. Recently I had to walk back in front of that ICU to visit another person in the hospital and I literally fell to my knees. The feelings that place holds is just tremendous. The doctors never thought he would make it this far and we had to pass the room where we were told we might have to make life support choices for him. At the time on top of everything I was 8 months pregnant and living out of state. I have since moved closer to help him and help my stepmom in his care.

Its just so hard and no one seems to understand how it is to have your father in a coma.
Much less his caretaker and his caretakers caretaker.

They live in the country far out from everything he needs so on top of helping with him I also do all the shopping for them and everything else. Its demanding but so worth it. I cant imagine leaving my dad alone in a time like this or abandoning my stepmom in a time like this.

heart goes out
 

so sorry for your challenges. i wish your father some healing hugs.

You are a good person. As someone who lives with a TBI, I wish I had someone as caring as you by my side.

Prayers to you and your family:grouphug: