NeuroTalk Support Groups - Last day of hearings yesterday

Extremely difficult day. I missed most of the hearing because of an accusation that my dd contacted my ex's wife and told her that I was going to kill dd. The first time she said it, I thought it was just their underhanded way to discredit me and I had already shown dd statement to police that she was sorry she would say things, it was something out of her control from some med reactions *effexor, and she knew I would never hurt her.

But, then the attorney had said were there more communications of fear, I began to get teary remembering how difficult de would have it and sad she went through those days. By their third statment and iferring my dd had a reason to fear I realized they were implying I harmed her.

I became overwhelmed with grief and excused myself swiftly; I then collapsed in a major anxiety/ panic attack. My asthma attack onset with the rapid heart rate, my BP was sky high. I refused transport to ER. When stabilized about an hour later I was advised to stay out of the proceedings for my health.

I found out that the ex's wife admitted to lying under oath in the federal depositions as to how much contact they had with my dd. The answer she gave was 2 x's a year, but not sure about seeing her the last year at all.
Yesterday she testified she was told she was instructed to make myself look good,. My attorney said how did how many times you had contact with dd make Di look good???? He then asked are you saying you lied under oath then and today you are saying the truth and she said yes!!!!!

The attorney then asked her if she was admitting she lied? She again said yes.
The death of an adult child you have to meet standards for recovery....one of them is to have relied on them for income and had a consistent relationship to have suffered emotional loss.
the ex abandoned kids when dd was infant. DD made a few contacts at age after 20 to get money for Christmas and a card for her birthday. Not even from the ex. the second wife.

So It is very difficult to not have been able to be in the hearings, but the attorney was tops and is going to file federal perjury charges. Thank goodness for the court reporter recording it all.

Although it has taken a huge toll, made the wounds of loss and grief so much worse, they still had the character come out and show how low they are.
There are still documents to the judge to be filed for clean up and that is a few weeks before he will decide.
Thank you all my TOS family being her with me since my loss. It is almost the anniversary in 2 weeks and 4 years does not lessen the loss.
Pray for the judge to see the fraud, the opportunity the ex had to include himself from the start, and exclude him from receiving half of my settlement.
His attorney is a scum bag with legal issues. The man is not operating with a full deck.

I will keep you updated, but I really need the love and support.
Di