DDs house burned down!
 

my adopted DD lives in another state. She and her real mom made friends long ago and decided to share a house together. Mom has been away in FL and is home for a visit. real sis is on the first floor and BIL is on the 2nd floor and she and her b/f are on the 3rd. She was at work. The whole 1st floor is gone, and gutted, and the 2nd and 3rd floor are washed out, burned and unsafe to try to get to your stuff if any is left.

The Redcross was there and handing out vouchers for motels, and money and food. She is a severe Gluten reactor so she cant eat what you and I could pick up.

All are fine, no one was hurt other than the poor animals who didnt make it out. This little family has really struggled to try to keep communication going, and were trying hard to mend fences of days gone by. Her RL daddy died a couple of years ago after helping them find this home to try to reconnect with each other. She sobbed and sobbed on the phone that it was the last place she knew her daddy in and now he is gone. She is so grateful that she has had all of this time to get to reconnect with mom and dad and sis. I have been so proud of her.

I offered her and b/f a chance to come live here, but she has work, and friends, and commitments that have to be met.

Please whisper a prayer for them.

found the link. Chris cook is DDs b/f.

http://www.wfsb.com/news/27054615/detail.html

Oh, Dej, How terrible! I'm glad they all got out safely, though. Material things can be replaced. I am so sorry to hear about the pets. Bless their hearts. I'm saying a prayer for all involved.

I am headed to be with DD and help her in this crisis of her home burning down. She called tearfully asking if I could please come be with her, even if it meant a motel room or me being stressed. I jumped at the chance! I am packing now and DH will drive me and leave me. I will find a ride back. DH will stay with Jack the cat who seems to be having a good day. He isnt on any meds other than a shot if he needs one, and DH can do that.

So, if I miss out on any of the juicy stuff, save me a peice. I will be back maybe on Saturday. I need to help this child find a place to live...undies...socks...shampoo...she has nothing.

Her real mom isnt good in a crisis and stumbles and stutters. She has come very far thru the years and we are all very proud of her, but there is nothing like a hug you and make it all better kinda mom when you need one. So, im off to hug it all away.

Good luck and travel safe.:hug:

wishing you and your family the best.

I am so sorry. Such a hard time to be so vulnerable. she knew who to turn to that would help.

DD is ok. she is quite stressed and that kicks up many issues for her. She cannot handle items that have been contaminated with gluten products as it makes her very ill, so to eat in a restaurant unless gluten free or special care is given to what utensils touched what foods...she can get quite ill. She is frightened now that she doesnt have the comfort of her own kitchen and a promise of what foods are safe...its all been so stressful. I was surprised at how quickly she fell back into my arms and wanted comfort, love and support. real mom is trying to insert herself as authority and failing badly. really hard to explain, but I am happy to be here to be her support in such unsteady times.

fully insured, actually over insured so all will be replaced, renewed and rebuilt. One cat was found alive, and is being fostered by an uncle. Needed fluids at the vet and was released after an exam. none of the other animals survived and this crushed the 10 y/0 niece who lives on the first floor.

Ty for the prayers, love and support. its very stressful here, but in a couple of days I will have her in a new home, and get a rental company to fill it with furniture and electronics. For now love is what is needed, and comfort that its going to be ok.

real mom and I had a long talk last night. She was upset that DD was preferring me for comfort and guidance and seeking my counsil instead of her, and wanted to know if she had done something so terribly wrong that her child couldnt trust her. I had to point out that as a very young teenager she was allowed to wander from this womans house, and not given much care or guidance when she was in it. when we took her in we gave her massive amounts of medical care to figure out what her troubles were, we listened, we hugged, we sat down to speak, instead of shouting across a room...we validated her as a young woman and helped keep her on a path. All of these things lay a big imprint on a young woman and it cant be helped that mom simply couldnt/wouldnt be there. So, I had to comfort real mom too last night for her own transgressions which has led to this place where what she thought was healed still shows the cracks of where it was repaired. Really tender territory to walk on.

we are headed out to the house today. the insurance inspector is allowing us in to see if we can salvage any items. We are also looking at a few apartments that I lined up today. She has decided that she no longer wishes to share a house with real mom even after the house is fixed. Real mom is having a hard time with that.

So, its a big day, say a prayer.

Dej - Keeping your DD in my prayers.:hug: She is so fortunate and lucky to have you in her life. You are a good mom.:hug: