who knew my sister could have this effect?
 

You all know the story. She is an addict, a bad mom, a horrible person in general and I have pretty much disowned her and pushed her as far out of my life as possible....
We only communicate through facebook.

So she emails me the other day to tell me to stop judging her for dating my 21 yr old niece's bf's cousin... who is 20!
My sis will be 40 this year. She has a 21 yr old girl (who is her ner bff and drinking buddy) and her bf (who is a moron) living with her and my 2 nephews ages 17 and 10. She is one of those people who honestly cannot survive unless there is some type of drama consuming her life. It is very sad.

So back to my story of WHY???

Yesterday I went down (50 miles each way) to see my Ortho about the foot thing. He looks at X-Rays, takes a quick peek at my MRI scans and tells me the truth. He is a shoulder/back/ knee/ Hip kind of guy. This means- He has no idea what he is looking at on the MRI other than a lof of fluid and inflammation. So, he is going to get together with the foot specialist who is at another office and he will set me up a follow up with him. In the meantime, I am fitted for an aircast/boot and told to use it for the next 2 weeks to try to help the soft tissue damage. If there is no improvement in two weeks he is threatening me with a plaster cast.

Ready for the fun part?? Guess who the foot specialist is! One of the many doctors my sister has worked for and stolen from. Of course this was during one of those brief periods when I was trying to salvage the relationship and I used to visit her quite often for lunch during this time bc she was at the hospital that I went to for my pregnancy check ups. So yeah, I got to know the good doc, who of course will remember me once he sees me.

Let's hope he can get passed the theft thing with my sister and treat me. :mad:

Are you and Dej related? Sounds like the same moron Sister.:eek::D

I wish you lots of luck with the, pilfered from, Doc. He may make it up by charging you more?:p

:hug:

I find MANY of the MDs my sis has scammed, and stolen from or written fake prescriptions from DONT judge me based on her. If I gave them any inkling that I was anything like her, they would be quick to chuck me into the boat, but this far most have expressed concern and upset for my sister without forcing me to carry it.

So, you have a cougar drug addict sister? Are you sure we dont have the same sis?

its just frustrating. so i sent mine a 5 page break up letter today. i am officially done. i cannot take anymore and i am so tired of beating myself up over her.

I do feel bad though bc i know this is going to start an arguement with her and my mom. So i warned mom ahead of time.

Aww Leggzz,:hug:.... don't let her get you down. Family can sure pop up with surprises, good and bad. Mine is a brother with credit card debit he has been hiding for years.:rolleyes:

You sent her a message explaining your reasoning for cutting contact. If she persists, then obviously she needs to go look in the mirror and examine her own conscience if what you say matters so much.

Adult siblings...sometimes you just want to punt kick them to the moon!

:hug: I completely understand. No matter what you say, nor how you say it, in her head it will ALWAYS be YOUR fault. You are the one who doesnt understand, you are the one who creates drama, you are the one who is picking on her, you are the one who makes it impossible for her to get ahead...so, you will have to be ok with allowing her think this. You must be ok with walking away and allowing her to have her fantasy.

My sis thinks I am sitting her on a mountain of money and keeps reverting back to some conversation she claims we had as small kids to share whatever wealth we found in life. We would never ever watch the other one go hungry, or do without. When I was dx with breast cancer she wanted me to send her share of her inheiritance NOW as I would have no need for it later, and she has needs now. I keep trying to explain to her there is a difference between being debt free and being rich. I dont owe anyone money, so she thinks I am rich rich rich! and I am with holding what is rightfully hers.

I have provided about 100k of support thru the years her babies were small and lived in her home. once they were 10 each of them moved out and I cut her off. I would pay the pharmacy, not her and she would be furious that I was embarrassing her, but it was the only way I knew the kids got their meds. it took a long time to see that no matter how wonderful I am as a sister she wont see it. So, she lost!

im here if you wanna chat. :hug:

Yes apparently by telling her the truth and telling her how I feel means I just stabbed her in the back and "hurt doesn't even begin to describe" how she fels. And of course instead of coming to me about it she is posting it on facebook for all of the world to see and I am just a horrible person. Which is fine. If it makes her feel better to tell people I am such a horrible person, then go for it.

Trust me I have been called worse. And those who know me all know better. I tend to be a brutally honest person. Some people prefer to live in a world of fantasy and don't want the truth and she is one of them. What I said to her was harsh but it was all honest. And it was all necessary.

Yup I am a back stabber. You can ask my niece. She will tell you all about it. Just as she has told every member of my family that is on Facebook. Mind you neither her nor my sister have anything to say to me but plenty to say about me. Oh well it is what it is. My feelings are out there and I am not taking them back. My sister has banned my nephews from seeing mom.
Somehow punishing her own children by keeping them from their grandmother is somehow a punishment for me? Not really sure how that works but whatever floats your boat. How dare I say she was a bad mom. What was I thinking?

10!!! Where did they go???? To dad's?

Please UNfriend anyone who is upsetting you at FB. Even if its family, or long lost friends. Just unplug them. If anyone else from the family wishes to lob grenades in your direction tell them you will give out the same treatment to them. enough with being upset, picked on, talked about and harrassed. I say you pull the plug and dont look at what they write. it takes practice to walk away, but I am sure you can do it.

im here for ya. :hug: