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Hydrocephalus n' Loneliness
I have congenital hydrocephalus. I was married for 8.5yrs. My (ex)wife left me at 4.75yrs. into the marriage. A year after my (ex)wife left, I found out that my (ex)wife had wanted my health problems to 'just go away'. That ignorant attitude is why my (ex)wife freaked when I had a seizure. So I divorced her after 8.5yrs.. Four years after that, my long held suspicion about her health was confirmed, so I was vindicated. I could no longer be looked at as the sole problem in the marriage.
I was engaged to another woman after my marriage. But when I held her accountable for her behavior(Bi-Polar II), she was quick to 'diagnose' me. Am I due to die alone because people can't cope with my health?:( |
hello!I just turned 31yr1w,old:).I've got congenital hydrocephalus and epilepsy and I've had the same loneliness issues.People are either don't know how to deal with "us"or give up after a while.I've never been married nor I want by choice.My friends,true friends have accepted it,of course.
But I still feel really lonely.And no,ur not going to die alone.you must be having at least one good friend who doesn't see a "sick"man.....right? |
I am so with you guys on this one. People are very uncomfortable around people who have chronic conditions, I also get constant comments from people who believe I am a hypochondriach, just irritates me. But I had someone who I was with who he was as well freaked out by the amount of time I was ill as opposed to well. It's tough.
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Hydrocephalus n' Loneliness
I was widowed in 2002(my DH had a severe seizure disorder and due to a ER Dr's neglect he passes away.The coroner who did the autopsy said had the Dr.paid attention to ME my DH wouldn't' have died.
Well, 4 yrs later,I met a man, and I told this man on the first date about my medical problems ( I have hydrocephalus & severe head pain & vomiting issues) and it didn't make one bit of difference to him. He continued to date me and 6 months later we were married. Since then I have been hospitalized several times, and none of this made a difference either ! Either your spouse or girl/boy friend loves you for who you are, or they aren't worth worrying about. MOVE ON ! My option here is that you just didn't find the right person for you. Take time, and know that there is someone out there for you. Remember too, that you don't have to( and never should ) settle for 2nd best. Sure you have a chronic illness, but no one is perfect ! Learn to live life at its fullest. If you view your life like a glass of water that is HALF EMPTY, then you need to rethink your life until that glass is HALF FULL.... Try to do different things, volunteer, etc. Go to the library, and so on. You never know where you might meet the no#1 PERSON out there for you ! Good Luck ! ( by the way, I am 56 yrs old ):) |
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My (ex)fiancee is worse off than my (ex)wife. My (ex)fiancee was abused as child, not just by her step-father emotionally, physically, psychologically, and sexually. She was abused by her own mother's denial about it happening in the first place. Her father had tried to get her out of the situation but her mother would not let her. Despite all that, 'when the chips were down' concerning my hydrocephalus and epilepsy, she came through in a heartbeat. The absolute flipside was, she 'diagnosed' me thirteen(I remember the number and name because of how much it hurt to hear it) times, even though she was not a clinician. When I finally told her to stop(after four years together), she ran off to a battered women's shelter saying I scared her. |
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I have been engaged since 2007, but the reason for my original post has to do with, feet. |
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