Just found out that my son does NOT have AS
 

About 9 years ago he was diagnosed with AS by some doctor who only specialized in small children with AS. Why on earth he diagnosed my son with As is beyond me but he did and my son was able to get SSI and has never worked. I always thought he had a personality disorder.

To say his behavior was (and is ) appalling is putting it mildly.

Well, the other day I got a phone call from his most recent case manager and we spoke and I said "Let me ask you a question, do you really think he has Aspergers?"?

She said "No, he has Borderline Personality Disorder"

AT LEAST SOMEONE HAS A BRAIN in that state.

Supposedly he has agreed to participate in Dialectal Behavioral Therapy.

It only works if the person wants to change. I researched it.

It does have its successes.

All all these years of being diagnosed with the WRONG condition, well, don't know what's going to happen but it's not right.

I knew he didn't have AS. I spoke to everyone at his end.

No one cared. He himself is extremely manipulative and worked the system for all he could get.

Oh well, he's 30 and a man now.

No more to be said.

But if any of you know someone who has been diagosed with AS and you really are questioning it, listen to your head.

You might be on to something.

The testing criteria stinks.

We are losing our young people to video gaming and online gaming, etc and social websites.

Where are our doctors and researchers going to come from??

Melody

Melody,
I pray everything works out for the better.
Lanny

Thanks Hon.

I prayed for 9 years. Now I just live my life. We all have to find the joy in our lives. Otherwise, what's the point!!!!

Melody

There are quite a few disabilities that are like AS. And its very hard
to prove the differences. Its very hard especially in personality disorders,
and in behavioural disorders to know the difference.

It can go either way in many cases I hate to say. I have a case were
the young man will graduate next year I believe that if they hadn't made
the diagnosis of a behavioural disorder first, then many years later AS he
would be much more ready to graduate.

I also had a case that the young man graduated today. He almost ended
up in a Center for Autistic children in 8th grade because he had finally
been diagnosed a couple of months earlier, but already had been diagnosed
for years as a behaviour and cognitive disorder. So when he got in trouble
with the court the probation officer thought she knew more than the
school.

So she was going to recommend that they send him to a residential school.
Which was not the right placement. Don't get me wrong, its a fantastic
school, just he wasn't severe enough to need the program.
And there wasn't a reason to make his parents pay for it.

He just needed some time to adjust to his second diagnosis.

Donna:grouphug:

Hi.

My son went to college (with no problems at all) on a full scholarship, and made the deans list three times.

At age 20, he moved out, moved 3000 miles away, started gambling and gaming and threating suicide every five minutes unless they gave him an apartment and anything else he wanted. They ALWAYS GAVE IN.

This is how he gets what he wants. I knew this was not Aspergers. I really thought it was either Narcissism or Borderline. DBT is not working for him.

Two days ago he announced again he was suicidal. He always does this on Saturday, he checks himself in, gets 3 hots and a cot, checks himself out on Monday. But he now has no place to stay. They will yet again find him a place to live with cable tv, they'll move his computer for him, AND HE'S NEVER WORKED A DAY IN HIS LIFE.

I asked a professional friend of mine "When will this stop, when will the department who decides what they do for him, well , when will they say "Hey, enough of this nonsense, we'll put you away and throw away the key".

I asked her this and she said "Believe it or not, they don't think he's mentally ill enough to be committed"

And he knows this. I told him "if you don't stop this behavior they will put you away for good".

His response:

"Mom, do you know what a 51/50 is? I said "of course". I then said "but keep this up, and they put you away for life". He said "they can't do this, I know my rights".

I then said "Who is in charge of your money? (He's on SSI).

He said "I am". I said "You're a gambler, (He just went to the casino, lost $600, which was everything he had), that's when he said he attempted suicide). I said "they let you be in charge of your money? You don't have a payee?"

He said "I wouldn't let them take over my money".

I said "but what happens if you continue to behave in this manner and they DO take over your money and give you a payee"?

He said "I'll just appeal, I've done this before".

what a shame.

Went to college, has all the brains in the world, and never applied it.

Very hard to deal with all of this.