Why I Don't Ask for Help
 

When friends call me and tell me about their husbands, kids and jobs, it's called having a conversation.

When I call people and tell them about the latest round of doctors, test results and treatments, I am told that I am "venting,' and that they are happy to do something for me at long last.

I am tolerated, and my conversation is endured.

That's why I don't ask for help.

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oy - i think it may be a universal reaction --
i donot ask for help for exactly the same reaction !
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if you do need help from someone --- be very specfic about what you need and for how long --
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be well ---dvora