Funeral for 54 year old wife of friend
 

We have an odd weekend coming up. Well the 9/11 ten year is traumatic enough. Tomorrow night is my DH 45 year high school reunion. But the next day we go to the funeral of the wife of DH coworker. He retired almost a year ago, or was it 2, so we haven't kept in touch with a lot of them. We know this young wife had asthma and diabetes but geesh, 54 is to young. So an emotional weekend. Plus I am still dealing with a lot of emotions ofg my Mom. That comes up when my sister and I have birthdays and Mom isn't there for our regualr lunch we always had. I haven't been able to eat a piece of coconut meruinge pie since. We always had that when we got together, just the 3 of us. I think the ting that bothers me the most and it is so selfish of me and that bothers me hugely is Mom was lying unconscious in hospice on my birthday and I will always wonder what my Mom would have gotten for me. Isn't that the most selfish thing you have ever head? But she loved to give. Some of her things she got at the yard sale at the retirement home she lived at and you wondered what she was thinking when you got it but you know it was give in love and it didn't cost her much. She hated to take the monthly checks us kids sent to support her. Well I guess I am done with my walk down memory lane. But my sis and I had a good lunch today.

Just made a reminder note to be praying for you this weekend.

I don't think it was selfish at all to wonder about what your mother's gift would have been. After all, you weren't thinking about missing out on a good gift, you were thinking of missing your mother's love and generosity toward you.

You're just remembering and missing your Mom. I don't think it's selfish to wonder what she would have gotten you. And the more unusual the gift the more it's remembered. Even if she did get it at a yard sale.....it's the thought that counts and, more importantly, it was from her and she was specifically thinking of you when she got it. I'm sure that means more to you than anything does.

Emotional days will always be here for those of us who have said goodbye to loved ones. It's just the love we feel for them still shining through. Time will soften the edge and those memories will eventually be a comfort to you. :hug: You're in my prayers, Doydie.

(((((Doydie))))):)

We had a great time at the reunion. Both my husband and I were surprised. He didn't enjoy school but went because his best friend was going. But I met people I knew from work. Stayed to late. Then up to early this morning to got o funeral. This woman had rheumatoid arthritis which hit her internal organs. It even caused an abscess on her spine which made her paralyzed! What took her was she had nodules on her lungs. So he really had been grieving for several years. I came home and took a nice nap.

My brother would hand me moneyand say buy the twins (when they were little) some new underwear, Mommy would have. We'd both laugh and cry (me) a little. Now he's dead, the kids buy their own underwear but I've got that memory.