Diagnosed with anxiety disorder
 

I came to this country when I was almost twelve yo but did not speak to strangers or in public until I was 18 yo. I tested fluent in English Lang test but did not speak in English until mid twenties.

It 's the big trigger for worst anxiety. Is any one like me in this way? I know over a dozer langs. Do not like to write some and do not like to speak some.

Hi ~ Is it just in English that you don't like to speak/write, or is it in any language??? Do you know what you're afraid of? Are you afraid of rejection? May I ask where you came from?

Do you live in a big city? I know I'm asking a lot of questions, but they might help. I used to have a terrible case of anxiety. I'd have horrible panic attacks in public to the point where I'd almost pass out! Finally, I went to see a therapist (psychologist). After some sessions, we found out that my self-esteem was rock-bottom! We worked on that, and now my anxiety has pretty much disappeared! :D I haven't had a panic attack in years!

Perhaps some therapy would help you too. Anxiety can be a disabling thing. It can keep you isolated from everyone else -- and that's not good, as you well know. :( Why not give it a try? You won't be sorry.

I wish you the very best. Please take care of yourself & God bless. Hugs, Lee ;)

Speaking is my anxiety
 

It's the speaking I think that scares me and in other languages than I was speaking naturally just stresses me out.
I am not good translating for family. i was supposed to know!!

I was born in small village in Soviel bloc. Sad and very poor when soviets had to soviets had to had to pull up stakres. Full of how.Im nervous now and know I dnot need to mown. Wll. Keep some enel.

Thank you, Lee.:hug:

public speaking is the #1 anxiety producer in the USA. Its a gripping fear that you stand before others, and sweat, and freeze up, and your brain simply wont spit out the words. There are many places, and books that will give help to calm this fear. Since its such a common fear, many folks have written extensively on it.

Tips like picturing the other people in their underwear. People cannot be very scary if they are in their underpants, can they? Or practice at home. First just talk out loud. To a cat, to a stuffed animal, or even to the book you are holding. Next look in the mirror and see that you CAN do this!

My husband came from italy and was so afraid of speaking. he thought for sure once he started speaking people would think him to be stupid, under educated, and with a poor control of the english language he would come off looking like a person who didnt care enough about the language to learn it properly. Then he realized that most of america speaks BAD english! we take short cuts, we chop off words, we cut each other off when we are speaking. We rarely use proper english, we prefer slang. we like to add on extra words like "you know" or "umm" and "well" they dont add a thing to our sentence, they just serve to show that we are thinking out our thoughts. We also tend to speak without thinking our whole sentence through before we spit it out. We simply think that whatever we have to say is important and we spit it all out!

In the end my husband saw that his command of the english language was getting better, and those around him used english in such a bad manner anyway, he blended right in. America is a melting pot of many different languages and I hope you untie your tongue and jump right in there. :hug:

Hello Just Sad
 

My offer still is there if you need it. anxiety hits people in different ways. I hope you get the help you need to go forward in life. You are so intelligent to speak many languages. I sure would love to know your origional home was. Talk here, is kind of like talking to yourself, there is a freedom here where you don't have to feel anxious. I am thinking about you and sihing you a good valentines day. ginnie

thank you Dejibo and ginnie! i feel bad that i am not more careful here with my English. I can go back and fix here but fly on, whee!

i do not have a lot of time here so rush me talk. My fault.

Re: just sad
 

You are doing good with your English. Do not worry. Come back anytime you can. ginnie

How do you do in school? Like with friends?

not forgotten
 

Hello just sad, you are not forgotten. You are doing fine with english. Keep trying to write to us. We are here for you anytime. Hope you are OK and trying to be positive in your life. ginnie

Dear Boy of misery
 

Tell me more about yourself. I will listen. I may not be on line everyday, but I try hard to keep in touch. I am old, out of school, but I remember still my school days. Are you having trouble in school? ginnie