Its a little brighter
 

Yesterday I saw a glimmer of my friend.

She wrote me a letter to express what she has been feeling and thinking. I don't agree with her perceptions of reality and other people but she is opening up.

Her Intense Out Patient Treatment program is ending this week. I'm not sure what will happen after its over and that scares me.

Worrying times.................

Sometimes when we are desperate we mimic those around us we see as our heroes...........maybe you can still help her.........tell her your not invincible...........explain your own frailties...

she may? then stand up on her own.............giving you both time to breathe ............good luck

[but remember we can only truly save ourselves.....we can sugest to others we cannot enforce change....that only comes from within]

David

Good advice David.

And we are back to gloomy silent mopping and hiding in her room. :confused:

It sounds like she's trying to open up to you, but maybe feels ashamed or embarrassed. It's easier to write a letter and leave it for someone then it is to talk to them face to face (this is how I was with the friend I tried to open up to). I'm afraid I don't have much advise on how to make her change, but I hope you can at least try to understand how she feels. She confessed to you after she took the pills, which means she trusts you and cares about you, but afterwards she probobly felt ashamed that you saw her when she was so vulnerable, so she hides in her room. And I think she still wants you to know how she feels so she acts mopey (otherwise she would hide it and pretend everything is fine).

And maybe my guesses aren't all accurate, I'm just trying to explain to you from the prospective of someone who is just as depressed as she is.

I hope you can forgive her for her attitude but don't forget to take care of yourself first.

WELL SAID TheLonely1

beautifully put............

as i said before there is always 2 sides to a coin..................

listen..........hear............act............... ..
.[don't ever react........].....

mbrook..our dear friend lonely1.........has more knowledge about this than you realise.....this dear young man struggles daily......to live ...............
to just be accepted...............

His wise words need heading in the politest way.............

your friend did an act that horrified you.....she now acts in a way that causes you more distress
[angst/disgust].

STAND UP; AND MOVE ON......................OR HELP HER OVERCOME THIS

David

David

I'm trying to help her I am just not willing to do it at the exspence of my own recovery.

I'm not unsempathetic to her depression and dispare I just need to vent some times.

I just want her to acnkowledge that this has affected me and her actions have traumatised me.

I have feelings and my own issues I'm not just exsisting to be here for her.

This is a good place to vent...no one is judging you, we just want to help. :grouphug:

I sure hope your roommate is continuing with therapy with someone else. A good therapist is worth his/her weight in gold.

So many of us here, definitely including me, know just how bad depression can get. I feel so sorry for her. And I feel sorry for you as well dealing with it. Have you guys had open and honest communication about your situations?

It is SO difficult living with someone who has been overtaken by this monster we call depression. Do you do anything with each other...like take in a movie? Play cards or games? Or is she not responsive to those things and instead says no and continues moping?

Such a difficult situation. Maybe having an honest discussion with her about how you are feeling...while still letting her know you care.

As so many others said, take care of yourself in the meantime. :hug: