I'm exhaused!
 

Just when I think my roommate is making progress she writes me a letter and pop my bubble.

She is very needy. I feel like she is emotionally black mailing me. If I go some where she text asking when I will be back. She cries and says she is afraid I will move away.

I am sticking it out but she has to let up, I feel smothered.

I've been wondering how you've been getting on there with your friend.

ugh. Sounds as if she's become very dependent on you in an unhealthy way for both of you.

I hope she's still seeing a counsellor. I'm not sure, but I think from previous posts you've said she wasn't so clingy and dependent until this recent episode.

take care of yourself there.

She is still seeing a councelor but only once every 3 weeks!

I have to see my neurophycologist every week and I didn't try to kill myself!?!

Soooo....... It has me wondering if they arent taking her serious or she is being over the top when she is with me or not truthful with them.

I just don't know. I am constantly setting and enforcing bounderies but I'm afraid of making her worse.

See what I mean - emotional black mailing.

My daughter saw a psychologist once not long ago. She was going through a shocking time with anxiety and seemed unusually sad. Her psychologist was a lovely. happy and cheerful person and my daughter had difficulty talking straight with her.

She didn't go back and then she spent the next couple of months in a very difficult and awful place.

What can I say?

Ack! Sorry you are in a tough spot mbrook...your roomate sounds toxic and you are feeling guilty for wanting some space and peace. :hug:

http://www.dealingwithtoxicpeople.co...as-one-almost/

And Lara is right...there are counselors and there are counselors!

For someone who just went through what she went through, I'm shocked that she is only seeing a therapist every three weeks! Doesn't sound right to me at all! My guess she isn't being upfront with the therapist.

I haven't talked to my best friend of 45 years for almost 2 years now. The toxicity level was more than I could bear. 45 years! I couldn't handle her distresses while trying to handle my own. She did try a therapist...but the therapist was all wrong, according to my friend. My friend didn't have problems, the therapist did! She said she was diagnosed bipolar but everything I know about her and have checked into says she has Borderline Personality Disorder. We were so close...had so much fun over the years. But one incident put me over the edge.

Is this a situation where you can move out and into your own home? Find a place with a new roommate?

You must be a really, really strong person. I would have blown up in her face by now. :o Please remember, you are not responsible for her problems.