A bit long but a lesson here for the ladies
 

I want to pass along a story that has been on going in my life for about 5 years now.
I used to work with a young girl who very well could have been my daughter (ok, granted I would have had to have her at a very young age.)
We hit it off pretty well and even went on a company vacation to San Fransisco together.
When she was about 28, she discovered a lump in her breast. She had it checked out and mammogram was not very good for her due to her dense breast (younger women have denser breast).
Doc told her not to be too concerned because she was so young. Eventually she went back due to the lump getting bigger and they did a biopsy. That test came out negative. Again....no need to worry she is so young.
Long story short she met a guy on a cruise and decided to go be with him in another state. A couple years go by and she gets another opinion about this "obvious" lump in her chest. Now....this doc doesn't like the looks of things. So she decides to go back home and proceed again.
This time they discover its cancer.
So they do a mastectomy on this very young women removing lots of lymph nodes and follow with chemo and radiation. Some time and lots of depression go by.
Last fall she gets up the courage to let doctors poke and prod at her again and gets reconstructive surgery. OH SHE IS FINALLY GETTING HER LIFE BACK! She felt normal again!

This past April they found the cancer has spread to her brain and spine.
They removed tumors from her brain and did radiation...but more tumors came back.
There is not much they can do now. I'd tell you her name but I respect her privacy and if someone googled her name this post would pop up!
So my young friend is going to die because her lump (at such a young age) went unchecked. They gave her a few months.
Please just pray for Karilann's "friend" to go peacefully and without pain.
I guess I wanted to tell my story so that you can all pay more attention.
If some day a similar conversation comes up with someone you know......don't let them brush these kinds of things off. Never let these things go unchecked. After the biopsy, my friend should have insisted they take the lump out and find out exactly what it was. They should have also followed up with ultrasound or SOMETHING every 6 months to monitor change. Don't let this happen to anyone you know.

What a sad story. I will pray for your friend. Sadly breast cancer is often brutal on the young ones. :(

I am sooo, so sorry for your friend. Unfortunately, I understand most of that all too well. For me, it's because I didn't want to get "squished". I let 5 years slide by.

I just finished my 3 round of chemo, have 5 more, then mastectomy, then radiation , then a daily pill for the next 10 years.

Again, my heart goes out to you.

Please ladies, go get squished.

I have tears in my eyes for your Friend and for you Karilann. How sad. Sending prayers for her. :hug:

So sorry for your friend. To bad doctors can't see the younger set as potential cancer patients also. I have a niece that from a very young age started rapid breast growth. Boy did the boys love to tease her in elementary school. She has not only a phobia about the pain of mammograms but of pap smears so she has refused both. They have chosen because of this never to have children.

Sadness all over the country today. Sorry you & your friend are having to live this. Reminder though, guys can get this type of cancer also. A lump anywhere need to be checked & followed up on.

Best wishes and soothing vibes going out to your friend, karilann. Women who don't want to deal with the momentary discomfort of getting squished are, IMO, delusional. Better to suffer one day a year than get the precious breast cut off forever.

That is rather harsh, IMO, especially for us to say with all the denial surrounding MS...diagnosis, prognosis, medication, genetic implications.

In my younger years I used and valued them but now my breasts don't mean anything to me in the big picture. If there is ever a need I will be quick to have them both taken completely off and while I would probably wear fillers in a bra I don't think I'd go for any reconstructive surgery.

*Jules: That is rather harsh, IMO, especially for us to say with all the denial surrounding MS...diagnosis, prognosis, medication, genetic implications.*


Jules, her comment may have been harsh, but its true. I myself didnt get my yearly paps, and wound up with precancer in uterus. I had to get a total hyst. All I have left is one ovary. This is when I was 38. I thank God I didnt wait any longer than I already did. It could have been much worse. I had a mamogram as a 16 yr old because I had a lump. The doctor laughed at me because I was so small, almost too small for the machine. It was that that caused me to not go back for another mamogram. Sometimes the harsh facts are the only way some will listen and take it seriously.

Calling someone delusional because they don't get a diagnostic test is harsh and it is also an inaccurate use of the term delusional. If the truth be told I guarantee every single one of us is guilty of not having every recommended diagnostic test within the recommended time frame for whatever reason and we have just been lucky in that we didn’t miss the window of opportunity to find a serious illness that could have been lurking under the surface.

In your particular case I would vehemently argue that you were most definitely not delusional...you were traumatized by an unethical, unprofessional physician who could have cost you your life.