Not coping.
 

I have a 2 yr old baby daughter. She is amazing and beautiful. Full of beans.

I don't feel good enough for her. I am exhausted all the time. In constant head pain, so pretty grumpy.I was told this week by another mum I look like a model mother. A model as in role model.

Inside I have changed and feel useless. I don't enjoy taking her out or playing with her, but do these things on autopilot.
I know the accident is to blame and I am so angry at the far reaching results of it. My baby has become so insecure since I was in hospital.

Peaches
 

Raising a child is difficult. Caring for a toddler more so as that is a 24/7 responsiibility. Doing so with PCS or mTBI I can not even imagine how difficult. Being angry is a natural result of such a traumatic event. Can you talk to anyone close to you? Do you have a support system around to help with your daughter?

For some this is a long road to walk. We need not walk it alone. If it is possible make time for yourself. Forgive yourself for being injured, you can not help the pain, or the feelings that follow.:grouphug:

Peaches, Hang in there. I have a 3yr old and a 17 month old. They scream at a frequency level so high I think my brain is going to explode. I have to remove myself from the setting so I dont come unhinged. Even then sometimes I do go nuts and the wife sends me to my room. Adult timeout I guess.
Your anger and that useless feeling are so common. All I can say to you is keep fighting this for your child. Find whatever sort of support system you can. Family, friends, whatever is available. I have found that my children have been changed by my PCS. The 3yr old knows that daddy has "mean times" and kills me to hear this.
As the previos poster stated, FORGIVE yourself. Find what time you can and enjoy something that makes you smile. We all are "good enough" for our kids but it starts with good enough for ourselves.

Thank you. It's good to know Im not the only one. I was such a fit person always on the go people told me to slow down now I have hardly any get up and go.
The screaming thing I truly get! My daughter has developed a new way of attention seeking by doing this-screaming. It makes me feel I obviously am not giving her enough attention.
Hey what can I do, at least Im still here.

I have a 5 year old running round and the noise he makes really grates on my nerves some times. Its difficult though seperating what a normal parent would go through and a parent with a head injury.

The fact that another mum gives you praise shows that you must be doing pretty well.

peachey,

When your daughter is screaming, try getting up close and whispering to her. Tell her you need her to whisper so you can hear. Little ones often react favorably to whispering.

I have spent almost a decade caring for the under 2's at church. It usually works great.

My best to you.

Funny you say that. It is something I do. Admittedly it is easier to shout back. But I will work on it.
Thank you.