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Bad brain day and hopelessness hit

Sorry but have to leave.

Sorry you feel this way....the acceptance is the one of the hardest parts of this life changing syndrome.

I am also getting treated for PTSD,PCS,Depression,Panic...It is a lot to digest and the faster you can accept the faster you can move on to coping....I was also very mad/angry at the person that hit me...but I had to learn to use that negative energy to something positive.We cannot do nothing to change this except ourselves...

I know it sucks and don't look back or forward, just live the moment and try to reverse the negatives to something positive and give thanks that you still have life and a second chance.:hug:

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Originally Posted by MissingMe (Post 958679)

Dear friends,

Feel very removed from myself. I'm in limbo and feel lost, useless, and frustrated. Today is my worst day like this. My head feels like it has jolts. Thursday is 3 months and I know that is still early. I am such a work horse as a teacher and family member. I always take care of others. The more I do the more energy it gives me to help more.

That came to a screeching halt. I am still trying to accept that I have a brain injury and I'm not the woman I was. I think I'm in part denial and scared to accept this all. I used to work at a non-stop fierce pace and love it. Now I am definitely home until August this school year. I'm not the wife, mother, or daughter I was. I've worked so hard throughout my life to be the best person I could be and to always choose happy.

The world is different now for me to experience. It's loud, busy and my brain can't handle it. Home is calm, but as many of you know it's isolating. The man that did this to me will never get it, and he still gets to live his life. I have seen a psychiatrist, and am preparing to see someone to talk to on a regular basis this week. I do have ptsd from the accident and depression. I just want to be me again.

Thank you to all of you. I am coping day by day and connect with you and your stories throughout the day to feel like someone gets it and to feel connected.

Thanks,

MissingMe

MM,

I am sorry to hear you are struggling so.

You made a comment "The man that did this to me will never get it, and he still gets to live his life." Please reach out to a therapist to help you let go of this thought. It is counterproductive. The what ifs and other regrets and bitternesses only drag you down. A therapist with skills with CBT may be good.

There is a full life for the 'used to be super mom' woman. In fact, research shows that the supermom multitasking is detrimental to a healthy brain. I can't imagine what it does to an injured brain.

If you were to ask those around you, you will find that they do not expect as much from you as you expect from yourself. We tend to be our own harshest critics when those around us wonder why we push so hard.

I am a confirmed advocate of a slower life. Stop and smell the roses and watch the kids play and do all the other things that happen slowly.

My best to you.

Just want to encourage you. I know EXACTLY how you are feeling, because my life was similar to yours before a guy who is a real jerk generally was reckless and knocked me down...

I was injured 18 months ago...it gets better! I am not where i need to be but I see the old me coming back, and I can do a bit more, and my kids think I am better (their old mum is back), and I am doing more work, planning for the future, engaging intellectually bit by bit with the outside world...less headaches, less feeling of living hour by hour.
Believe me. I know that it feels like hell, but you need to believe that it gets better.
I can now believe that I will go back to teaching...I may have to modify my strategies and techniques, but I will do it some day. Hang in there, day by day, hour by hour.

Understanding and support to you

Dear missing me,
Just wanted you to know you are in my thoughts and prayers. Please try to let go of the anger. It is so destructive to you. I also was like you and was very hard on myself for so long. My family has been even harder on me as they do not understand and don't care enough to even try.

I have never been religious but the only thing I had to turn to was Jesus. I hear him in my soul tell me- be still and know that I am god, there is nothing I cannot change. Turn to your spiritual side for guidance. Try to accept what is and not dwell on the past. You don't have to be superwoman. Maybe you are in a different way.

I so know how you feel. I completely relate to every word you said. I am reaching out and getting more help for myself. I am forcing my family to help me. I have always been there for all of them. Why do I not deserve the same consideration. I am not going to remain so isolated. I am going to get to a psychiatrist to. I have PTSD also.

Love to all of you friends. We are not alone.