Been Bullied
 

My ex has moved away when I got diagnosis and decided to text me and bully me talking about me, my health, my family, and throwing all kinds of stuff in my face that is hurtful.He only knew me 6 months before my accident and after a year and half I finally got diagnosis he ran out on me....now he is on my phone texting hate mail because I stopped talking to him in Jan....

how do I suppose to deal with this I have PCS & PTSD and very hard for me to blow this behavior off....so yes the cookie is crumbling and very hurt:(Not hurt because it is him...hurt because what he is saying....I just blocked his number but now I have to deal with me

Does the weather make others more depressed then normal and my friend just reminded me of daylight savings....I wonder if these are factors to my depression today?

I'm very sorry to hear about this and don't have much to offer except sympathy. It sounds like your ex truly has some issues.

I have definitely noticed the weather getting to me. I live in MN and the long winters here bother me much more than they used to. One of the few things I can do to preserve my sanity on a bad head day is to take brief walks in the woods outside a few times a day. It might not seem like much, but it goes a long way for me.

Glad you blocked him
 

MiaVia,

I am sorry you have a jerk being a jerk to you. I am glad you blocked him, he isn't good for you. It is all about you and taking care of yourself. It might be hard for you, not sure but you have to stay away from the negativity. Do you see a psychiatrist/psychologist?

As for the seasons, I am totally effected. I bought a Philips Blue Light and it seems to help. With my PTSD, I prefer to stay away from others and isolate, I think the weather contributed to that too. Today has been warmer and super sunny so I have been outside a lot of the day and I feel pretty good today. I have a killer headache from the sun though.

I wish you well.

There are laws against harrassment.

Notify the phone company, send them copies of the texts - they should be able to retrieve them - have them notify the proper authorities.

File charges. End his harrassing legally. Restraining orders work.

Show him you ARE in charge of your life. Do Not give in to idiots.

Have your family also support you in this.

Ignore it
 

Hi Mia,
Please don't let him upset you. Do not give him the chance to upset you. Don't talk to him, block number etc. Some people like to give people who are disabled and injured a hard time. What cowards and ignorant idiots they are. They do not understand that we are unable to do the things we were once able to do easily. They take it as we are being rude to them. They are unable to understand the situation as it is hard for us to understand. Please ignore these people as you do not need the added stress. Obviously there are other people who understand the situation as we have a whole group of them right here. Some day when these people loose there health they will understand but right now they don't and cannot no matter how hard we try to explain it to them. Keep all negative people away from you and only allow positive influence to come in to your life. You are in control of that.
As to the weather making the emotional ups and downs worse-yes it does for me also. Thank goodness it is March. Spring will be coming soon and we should all get a little relief. Hang tough.
Brain

I'm sorry that I did not answer your second question.

We are all, to some degree affected by the seasons, the sunshine, the weather fronts, the air pressure changes, the shifts in the winds, the rains, etc.

Remember, we have mood swings, we have brain injuries, and they are haywired very much of the time when stressed.

There are conditions, that modern medicine took forever to finally recognize, after years of patients having many psychologic concerns: typically the one that is called Seasonal Affective Disorder.

Other links for you:

S.A.D. - WIKI

S.A.D. - Mayo Clinic

S.A.D. - WebMD

Grey Weather - Grey Mood

There is some literature on "Reverse S.A.D" about Summer Blues, but nothing studied as in depth now like S.A.D. for Fall/Winter.

When I lived and worked in Alaska, I saw many folks dealing with S.A.D. - and thats a time when patients were finding the problems that the Allopaths were arguing did not exist - and Antidepressants at that time offered very little, but those lights were new at the time - at least not thought of as therapy, in the mid-eighties, and many had little indoor gardens and spent hours in with their plants, with the special ordered lights and felt very well from those hours of lighting and reading with their plants.

Best Wishes.

First, good for you for blocking him!!!

Second, yes!! Anything that can change your biological rythyms, for example changes in daylight can have a deep effect on your depression and brain function.

My depression seems most effected in the early winter when there is less sunlight. I have to remember that despite the chill, I need to open my blinds during the morning to keep from getting really depressed by getting some sunlight.

My brain struggles most when the heat and humidity return. It takes me WEEKS to stop getting overheated and shutting down! (I actually carry sports ice packs that I can use one time and get rid of them, when this time of year comes around, just in case)

Make sure you are getting enough sunlight and keeping a regular sleep schedule with daylight savings time. It bothers me for a few days, but I know others have a more difficult adjustment.