Spouse of husband with TBI
 

Hi I am new to this site. I am looking for other people whose husbands or wives have had a TBI. My husband suffered a Severe TBI 9 months ago during a dirt bike accident. I'm not quite sure where to begin just knowing I'm not alone would be a nice change.

You are not alone. My husband suffered a TBI over 2 years ago after being hit by a bus. He is like totally different person now. We have been married for 20 years and it seems like I don't even recognize him anymore. It is very depressing and stressful.

Relate
 

may i extend my felling
of hope and care for the both
of you
my father an amputee
when i was born
my eldest deemed
epileptic is 32 years old
at the prime time
venturing into the world
cut short
suffered her first seizure
april 30th 2003
while at the mall
with her now husband
had part of the occipital lobe
took away permanent loss
of vision
a true inspiration in the
end not a success story
as she has now a VNS implanted in her
she now suffers seizures all the time
including in her sleep
so this is where i relate
she too has changed forever
as she is not the same

MAY GOD
AND OUR LORD JESUS
CARRY YOU WHEN NEEDED MOST

someone who cares
i hope and wish you both the very best
finding each other

You are not alone
 

I don't have a lot of answers either, but I also just take comfort in knowing there are others struggling through caretaking for a spouse with a tbi. We will get through this together.

I understand
 

My ex husband has normal pressure hydrocephalus and had surgery. Since that time he has turned into the most hateful person I have ever seen. The surgery worked but has completely changed him and I am the only person he is hateful to.

Wish i knew
 

I posted in TBI earlier. I have a dear friend who sustained severe TBI 3 years ago. I am still learning how he has changed and learning what to expect. Maybe, maybe, we'll be dating again after all these years. It's hard knowing the "old" and the "new" person

just moral support i guess

hi i look after my hisband with tbi also im in the uk x

I am struggling as well. I have been married to my husband for 5 years and have a 1 year old. Everyday is unpredictable. It is hard because looking at him he looks "normal" and can blend in and be very charismatic with others. But everyday he reverts into a child at some point. Tantrums, self absorbed, manipulative, impulsive and the list goes on. I am at my breaking point, but I love him and is the father of our daughter. I am concerned however about our daughter because he can be cruel and children don't understand that Daddy doesn't really mean it. It can warp a child and their self worth. It has effected mine to say the least. When is enough enough? They don't mean to be this way but you can only take so much right? :(

Oh so sad reading through this. I have an illness with neuro aspects which has changed me somewhat though not to that extent. I feel for you, all of you and what you're going through.

Everyday is unpredictable. It is hard because looking at him he looks "normal" and can blend in and be very charismatic with others.

I know what you mean about looking normal. My husband is a master at mimicking and acting normal. After years of knowing him I know he isn't authentic and it's like living with an unpredictable hodge-podge personality.