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I guess I am at the end of my rope and looking for some advice on how to deal with a 14 year old Bi Polar II child.

He is my Step son and there have been other issues in his life besides this. He has other symptoms but because of his age they cannot be diagnosed yet. His Biological mother is a Bi-Polar, schizophrenic and suffers from MDD and who knows what else. She abandoned him and his brother. (his brother has his own diagnosis and is currently out of the house) Between the 2 of them I have been living in hell for years. My children have to see the constant drama and fights, always directed at me.

Before the onset of his disorder he was a loving sweet young boy - now 3 years later he is a roller coaster of lies, manipulations, games, attention, the same arguement over and over and of course it is NEVER him. I walk on egg shells in my own house because I never know what will happen next, what lie, what drama, what delusion, what voice... It can be scary. He has been hospitalized and is on medication but the coaster still continues on auto pilot.

I love my husband and we discuss life all the time. I am just completely finished with dealing with him. I really just can't even talk to him without him remembering something that neverhappened,or the sequence or day is wrong...It infuriates me. Then he wants to be an equal - make the rules. Not follow our rules and then blame us or claim "I didn't know."

Long story short, I have no clue how to help this boy. He is in therapy but he will tell people what they want to hear and then act is if it's all great.

Is there a book for teens any guidance to help him? How do I stay normal while feeling like I am losing my mind?

Thanks for reading.

Hi not sure if there is a book. But I can so relate sounds like some of the same things I went through with my one child some years ago. He is now 31 and is leading a good life.

We had a hard time getting a diagnosis, his ended up being Intermittent
Explosive disorder. And one of the sythoms for it is not remembering things.
I mean even 5 minutes after it happened. I couldn't believe the things, his friends had to tell me that went on.

I had to find ways to get through it.

Hopefully you have a friend to talk to. Have you a therapist of your own.
This is one thing you will need. Someone you can talk too.

IT is also something you can do here. But you might have more talkling
to you in the adult room. But that would be okay.

I will look into a book, it will be a few days. I am only on short periods.:hug::grouphug:

Donna