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daniella 06-14-2013 07:01 AM

OT a little but pain and moving near family or for better weather?
 
This is a little OT but need some thoughts from others so I hope it is ok I posted. I have PN and RSD and have had it for 6 years. I live on my own and function daily though I am not able to work I do all my own daily activities etc. I have had little success with treatments or meds so my pain is high and varies a lot.
Anyhow I moved from my home state of MI about 5 years ago and have lived in warm climates due to the winter being so horrible on pain. There are times in general I cant wear socks so dressing for winter in itself is hard.I go frozen foot and the pain increases. Also not to sound nuts in severe humid climates swell and have sores on my feet. I go up at least 2 show sizes and am strawberry red. So basically extremes are not good for me. Obviously there is no perfect climate.
I live on my own and obviously don't have many friends since this condition and though I have gotten used to it well it can still be hard. I have very little family just my mom basically. I am 34. She lives in MI and though we can visit it is not the same as living near. So I am considering moving to MI again. We would not live together but lets say within a 30 minute drive where we could meet for lunch etc. Also knowing someone near is nice. The issue is winter freaks me out cause I know the pain is going to be worse and fear of falling.
I have a choice of either moving back to MI and trying it 6 months and seeing how winter does if I am bad then move somewhere mild or try somewhere mild first and when winter comes to visit and see how I do. Overall I am not a fan of MI even winter aside but I do like the idea of having a family member near and also knowing the area.
The other conflict is that I cant afford CA anymore where I was living and FL is too humid so I was going to try NC and that has a lot of unknown of how I would do. Any choice is not forever just to commit to 6 months but I am drained with moving and 6 months when you feel horrid is a long time. I also feel like I always make the wrong choice.
Ok I am sorry this is so long but appreciate any feedback.Thank you for listening

mrsD 06-14-2013 07:05 AM

I think NC is a good possibility. It is quite moderate there.
While the coast is pretty, it also gets the hurricanes, which are severe low storms which may bring more pain.

I've been there twice and found it much more friendly than Mich.
as far as the people go.

daniella 06-14-2013 07:08 AM

Thanks Mrs D for the quick reply. I visited there one time but ended up not moving there. If I did not have this condition I would not even think to move there because it really is not me for some reason. I just can't decide if it is better to have family support to be in a more mild climate. I know it is not forever but sometimes even 6 months can feel that way.
How are you by the way? Are you traveling this summer?

mrsD 06-14-2013 07:10 AM

We will be leaving in about a month for the summer break.

I had some health emergencies earlier in the year. You can
go back on my posts here using member's list and see those.
But I am better now. Thank you for asking.

Susanne C. 06-14-2013 07:20 AM

For myself, the cold would just be unbearable, unless I were able to keep my surroundings pretty snug and avoid going out much at all in the winter. I live in the midatlantic, delmarva penninisula, summers are hot and humid, winters can be cold, but you get breaks in the weather and it isn't too extreme. Some years we dont even get snow. We also get the low pressure storms Mrs. D. mentioned. I have to keep the house thermostat at 72, and still bundle up considerably. I do not venture out on cold, windy days.

Isolation is not good for you either, of course. You would have to weigh having your mom nearby against the possibility of being a shut in yourself due to the weather. Is there any likelihood of getting your mom to move to a more moderate climate? How mobile is she? Would she be able to bring you groceries and come and visit if weather conditions made it hard for you to get out?

daniella 06-14-2013 07:48 AM

Thank you both again for your support. I hope you feel better Mrs D.
My mom is very mobile she walks 6 plus miles a day lifts weights a couple times a week. It is like I am the older lady and she is the young person.
Another issue I have is I have made some very bad choices over the past years that I have been away. It is hard to explain and nothing illegal but not good. I often wonder if I would of made them if I was not so isolated.
My condition seems to change which is frustrating. For the first few years I never had burning or sweating. Now I drip,burn,and swell. I have not been in cold for many years so can't say what that is like.
Between budget,family,weather there is no perfect.
Thank you again

chaos 06-14-2013 11:25 AM

It would take a LOT to get me to move out of CA. The weather is still mild. I don't think I could ever deal with anywhere that it snows so much (and yes, I've lived in places like that). But having family around is hugely important. I guess it really depends on where you live in CA. Like I could do Sacramento pretty easily, on my own. It's not that expensive (to me, compared to SF), they have light rail, easy to get around, decent weather, decent medical availability having UC Davis nearby. Where I'm at now (between Sac and SF) the weather is just about as good as I'm going to get, but I'm going to have to go to UCSF for better docs, and I wish BART went all the way here. My brother is an hour away. If I couldn't work anymore, I would most likely move closer to him (he is in Sac). I would not live in Stockton/Modesto/Fresno, etc.

My bro-in-law is out here from TX. He keeps saying how pretty it is, but then when it comes to real estate, he's flabbergasted. I plan on getting a house that's probably $400K, and he says a house like that out in TX is less than $100K. But I get paid more for the higher real estate. If I were not working, I'd be screwed. No way SSDI could pay for that. My long term goal is to buy a house in the next year with some money I'm supposed to get from a medical settlement, work for as long as I can, and then when the time comes to stop working, sell the house and move somewhere more affordable, like Sac, and hopefully buy most of the house with the equity of the first house.

So yeah, we really pay for what we have, weather and all. But one will have to really beat me down to leave this area. Not too hot, not too cold, I can grow food, people are more educated and liberal, culture, diversity, etc.

echoes long ago 06-15-2013 12:16 AM

North Carolina is a hot humid place from late april through october. They also have been getting more snow there the last few years than we have gotten here in NY. It wouldnt be my first pick for weather.
New Mexico in the Santa Fe area has a pretty moderate climate. not too hot in the summer. not too cold in the winter and its dry. Its actually a quite beautiful area. It also has many cultural institutions in the area.
Its also not good to be isolated so there is that. There are pluses and minuses with everything.

daniella 06-15-2013 02:17 AM

Thanks again for your help
NC really is only humid and hot on consistent basis from June till Sept but at least it is not as bad as FL. I know they get some cold weather but the average high is 50.It depends on the area because NC varies a lot depending on where you live. In the US I have researched every state and other then CA you will get some cold or hot weather. I dont expect perfection and I can accept some not so great weather but for ex MI winters last so long. Even where I lived in CA it got hot though it was dry heat many days would reach 100.
I also want to find a place where one day hopefully I can support myself if I get to a better pain place. I feel blessed that I have family that can help me finance wise but I hate having to live off them if that makes sense too. I so want to be financially able to take care of myself and it is a huge goal.
Anyhow my mom and I chatted and I need to visit MI in the winter before I move back. If weather was not an issue for me I would but it is. It makes me sad but I will visit a lot in the mean time I guess and she will come to see me.
Chaos I agree CA varies a lot in price but the less expensive areas usually come with severe heat or crime. I think for ex Sacramento gets both. I never knew some parts of CA could reach 110. Though it is dry heat it is so hot still. I heard TX is nice but it varies too a lot in temps. As echo said there is pluses and minuses to everything. This condition is a big minus that is for sure
Thanks again

Icehouse 06-15-2013 06:35 AM

I live in VA (Blue Ridge Mountains) and the weather is all over the place here. The coast is humid and hot in the summer months as are most of the States on the east coast.

BUT, I work in Fort Lauderdale a week out of every month, and the weather in SOUTH Florida is wonderful. Its probably what you are looking for.

Hawaii is very nice too, mid-70's year round, but that may be too far away from MI.

Sunny weather just brings out motivation for a lot of folks. Maybe thats why so many people live in FL and CA.


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