Help with husband- I have ADHD
 

Hey everyone! I am new to the site but I have ADHD and I seem to be getting worse. I am more forgetful and sometimes my poor husband can ask me a question, a favor, or even be looking at me talking to me and I have no idea what he asked or said. He is getting super frustrated but he does not understand its not intentional. HELP!!

You are not alone. I've been with my hubby for 20 years, since I was 15 years old. As I've grown- up and have had to take on more responsibilities (4 babies, school, work), my add symptoms have gotten more pronounced. By the time I started grad school, I was afraid I would be picking pieces of my husband off of the floor.! He gets really frustrated and sometimes feels like he has to do EVERYTHING. It makes me feel bad too, like I'm incompetent or a burden. You will both have to make a concerted effort to accommodate for your special needs. Hubby will have to learn to write important stuff down, turn off the TV when he wants to talk to you, remind you to set your reminder alarm etc... You will have to do these things too. Set reminders in your phone when he asks you to complete a task, let him know best times to communicate with you, and let him know when you simply "can't right now". At the end of the day, it's all about training and understanding what works. Oh yes, you will need support yourself too. If you've got good friends that understand you, then you are already ahead of the game. It is easy to get down on yourself so having a support team that can lift you up and remind you that you don't suck helps wonders!

my wife makes notes leaves stuff out or where i sit

shes my savior all my problems and severe adhd

she sticks by and always helps me she does the budget my pills

lots of things i do my part to i have notepads by my recliner for phone calls

to do stuff i see on tv anything note pads all over the house:confused:

i made her mad and woke with a post it taped to my forehead:eek:

i guess that meant do it now:D

i had my wife read adhd web sites and pdf files didnt want to fought me on it

but however much she read she has better understanding plus knows because she goes to doc shrink and counseling with me

i took patience and training but she came around and i couldn't live without her and she refuse to leave me no matter how bad my health gets or the past years of uncontrolled rage disorder 5 years never left now 5 years of new mostly fixed me

good luck welcome