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Repetitive rbi something I never correlated to myself until things started going wrong. I was even surprised to hear of a "punch-drunk wife" What kind of a demeaning label is that!! All I knew was that my x was a marine who was stationed in Denang and Sigon( I don't spell as well as I once did ) I have no reason for staying 17 years. I will never know why I did. I have a lot of blank space that in my memory.Such as....where were my children when I was in the hospital thoes times? I have problems staying upright. I walk kind of sideways sometimes. I am not following along in church and keeping my place. But there is undeniable peace there. I just want to tell someone that I am to the point of not handling the pain. We live an hour away from Mayo in Rochester MN. When they say....if we had caught this sooner.....but I didn't know to tell them. I tried to start my life in 1991, in fear that anyone would know. When you have had tbi, you will have more. It is the nature of it. I fell again 2 weeks ago in the shower. I don't take showers because I may fall. I should have stuck to my own rule. I have the brused ribs....I am very familiar to this..and no I don't run to the dr anymore....wast of his and my time. I need to tell someone how much pain my head is in. Every minute of the day. I need to tell people never to put your hands on anyone. It can not ever be justified. I need to near about your day, maybe I can help you.

Hi Caroljean, :Wave-Hello:

You're very welcome here. I want to be sure that I (and others reading this) understand what you're saying, and I don't want to put words in your mouth, so please correct me if/wherever I'm wrong...

Are you saying that you're a victim of spousal abuse resulting in traumatic brain injury that's left you with—among other symptoms—chronic head pain?

If so, I guess my first question is, are you in a safe place, out of danger from your abuser?

I'm very familiar with chronic pain, including head pain (a couple of types of chronic headaches). Toward the beginning, (~10 yrs ago) my headaches put me in the ER twice, with pain so bad it raised my normally mundane blood pressure to over 190/120. I still get occasional "crises"—I came very close to another trip to the ER a couple weeks ago—but I now have some meds for those, and my wife knows how to help me through those times with acupressure & massage.

In my experience and opinion, head pain can be the worst kind of pain because it's where one lives—in our heads—and precludes our functioning in almost every way, unable to think clearly and make decisions. Of course other folks with other kinds of pain may differ on this.

There are a couple of other forums here (besides this one) where I think you will also find help & support.

Headache

Traumatic Brain Injury and Post Concussion Syndrome

There may be others as well; the big list is here.

This is a good place with some good knowledgable folk.

Best wishes,

Doc