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Children and PD
Hi everyone,
I need a little help from the community. In July, I will be presenting at the NPF Young-Onset Conference on the topic of PD and children. While my head is FULL of developmental theory and knowledge in regards to children, I do not personally have any of my own. In the past, I have literally worked with 1000's of children and talked with them about a parent, sibling, friend, or other loved one who had a disabling and/or life threatening illness. (As well as talking with children who've dealt with these types of health issues personally.) But I'm missing that "personal" element of not having my own kids as a PWP. What I'm hoping is that you'll be willing to share stories of your personal journey with PD and your children. Comments they've made, questions they've asked, answers you've given (or not given and why), struggles (and successes) you've had with both young and adult children, and stories to share. I would keep your identity private, listing what you gave me during the presentation as, for example, "Kelly M. from Minnesota, 46, dx. 3 years, two children ages 6 & 12". Or simply as "K.M." Privacy is imperative. If you want to post stories here for all to share in, that would be great. (Like the one Carolyn recently told about Mothers Day). But if you want to keep your responses private, you can email them to me at Todd@PDTalks.com and I will keep them confidential. I like the way my presentation is shaping up, but the missing element is the true human touch that only you all can bring to it, so I hope you'll help me, and eventually others, with your stories. Thank you so much! |
Hey, Todd.
It will be difficult for you to address such an individualized topic not having kiddos yourself. But I probably have some stuff to help you. A while back, I was gung-ho for writing a book about kids and PD, but I am still collelcting information. Several people sent me their stories, but I would not feel right in giving that info to someone else unless they gave me permission. But I surely could give you some general information. I just won't be able to give you personal info that might lead to the contributor's identify. Would this be helpful? When do you need this? Peg |
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Thanks for the offer. You can email me what you feel comfortable with sharing. I completely trust your judgment. Again, I have PD but no kids, but have literally helped 100's of parents talk to their children about disease in some way, shape, or form. Combine that with my education in Child Development and theory and I'm good. I would love to have parents with PD as part of my presentation but time restraints dictate otherwise. So, comments from them is the next best thing. Thanks! |
Children and Parkinson's
Hi there Todd: I was going to wait until the middle of summer, after my surgery for treating my parkinsons to tell the community about my son's unique situation. I have had Parkinson's since at least 1994 but was not diagnosed until 1999. You know, treated for depression insted, etc. So I had my son in 1997 and could not believe how far into Parkinson's I was. When I left the hospital I shuffled out and was walking bent over. Hello!! Well, to make a long story short, my son has "cerebral palsy" and I can't help wonder if he doesnt have a syndrome from the Parkinson's I had while he developed during pregnancy. He is brilliant, but cannot stand or walk without two small straight canes (started on those at age 4). He has bradykinesia and intent tremor, and stiffness.
I would be happy to share any info with you. I would love to get any information regarding his condition. Best Regards, redbird Quote:
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Todd
Here are a few of the quotes that I collected about a year ago. It covers everything from young to adult children. This is good stuff. Remember that it does belong to me by permission. I plan to put it all together one day for publication. I am posting it here because I believe it can be beneficial for others - good luck on your presentation. Peggy ;)
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Peg - Thanks. I'll see if I can work some of these comments in and I'll be sure to give credit where credit is due! It's all about karma you know...
Redbirdwillfly - You've got mail! Everyone else, I really could use some stories, anecdotes, etc. and you all write about other topics so well on here, so I'm beggin' ya... Anyone? Bueller? Bueller? :D |
Kids, especially teenage girls ...
who needs them, was it only 6 months ago I wrote this :
"There are financial, relationship, practical issues to consider and PD is just one more thing to think about. All I will say is that I have found my kids remarkably accepting of my PD. They help me when I ask, (e.g. going to the store, I hate packing the bags), and seem generally unphased. Considering they were 10 and 12 at dx, they were old enough to know what it meant but still adapted brilliantly, better than some of my adult friends. Recently my eldest got upset when her school showed a video on PD during a Biology lesson, but that is an exception. In my experience kids adapt." That was me in a romantic light not really paying attention. Since then my kids have become 15 year old teenage girls, the one depressed for the last 3 months over some spotty kid who she has split up with, the other in training to be "Lady Chav". These mid teenage years are a nightmare, (moreso with girls than boys I am told), however if nothing else the arguments and stress have distracted me from PD, (as well as made it worse). Their new coping strategy for PD is to forget I exist except for money and to act as a taxi. Todd, I had better shut up as this probably isn't the inspirational message you were looking for :) Neil. |
Hi Todd,
I wrote an article for Parkinsons Australia a few years back and pay tribute to my three children who were very young when I was diagnosed. Hope this doesn't sound too mushy but there attitude is still the same, here goes. "My children now all teenagers have grown like others I know or know of to have a kindness and patience about them which never ceases to amaze me." They still amaze me with their tolerance, empathy and help given without making a fuss to people in need. I truly believe if anything good is to come out of growing up with a parent who has P.D. it's that. Neil, still chuckling at your description of your fifteen yr olds! If it helps mine have been known to cross my toes or put one of my eyebrows up and one down when I was lying down due to an off...their idea of a little light entertainment waiting for me to come on I guess!:wink: Good luck with your talk Todd. Cheers, Lee |
Todd,
I have one daughter who really doesn't remember Dad before PD. When she started asking questions like why does your arm and hand shake? I tried to keep it simple yet truthful. I told her that something went wrong in my brain and for now the doctors don't know how to fix it. Don't try to go into much detail unless they ask for it. Some of these little buggers are a lot smarter than we give them credit for. I sometimes think one of them will say, just do this and it will fix the problem. GregD |
Todd,
This was a long time coming, and just happened the other day. My youngest daughter, who is 22, is in college and had to write a paper on business law. She chose to write about Parkinson's. When her teacher saw her choice of subjects, she questioned how Pd could be related to business law. Daughter wrote a great paper about Parkinson's organizations and her teacher said it's the most creative idea she's seen. You never know what they are really learning. I was so proud of her. Paula |
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