Not sure where to start
 

I am hoping for some insight...My father-in-law is 92.I blame a lot on his age,but some of it I just do not understand..He lost his wife almost 3 years ago..I have known him for 5 years..He is woman crazy..He is always looking for a woman..Even when my mother-in-law was alive he was always goo goo for women..Which I found disrespectful..He never acted like he was very greatful for her..She was very upset with him,on the way he acted..He is very forgetful,,and loves to be negative about everything and everybody....Still drives,and is very well, except a rash he cannot get rid of.. by the way I feel he should not be driving too..He repeats the same stories about women all the time..Made up lies about me,and had to tell everyone..He is a Christian,but I believe he forgets how a Christian acts...I have to stay away from him as much as possible..I get so mad at him..He is never greatful for anything we do for him..We live on a farm,we live above him,so we take the most care of him..Anyway do you think he has a illness or is he just a Jack___....thanks..
I also should say the only important things going on is him and his stories..if you try to be nice,he says you are sucking up..I am at witts end with him..My husband thinks he has lost his mind.

Hi Moosey
 

If your father in law, has always been this way, I would say it is part of his personality. If his lusty speeches have increased dramatically, it would be best to speak with his physician. People sometimes change when they get older, and maybe remember themselves in a much more youthful way. I hope some peace can be restored to the house. ginnie:hug::grouphug:

He does act like a teenager...So you really think that's just his way??? We been saying maybe he is ill....thank you

Hi moosy
 

I think sometimes when people age, they think of themselves as younger. Think about how he was all his life, and look at the changes through those eyes. Some get stubborn and mean. Keep a journal of behaviors that you think might be over the top and show it to his doctor. I wish you all the best. ginnie

great idea thanks

father-in-law
 

:(He is worse..to the point where I have to stay away from him..he is so negative that it upsets me..I have RSD and he puts me over the top.My BP was going nutts.I still feel he has something wrong besides age..He acts like a stud muffin..He is 92 and wants to find women to marry.He says he has girlfriends,but the truth he scared them all away.he is so negative ,and too fast ,,We take care of him the most my Dear Husband gets his mail,takes it in or out,gets news paper for him too.Cleans out the snow etc..No thank you,no praise,,just his daughters are so good to him..This really hurts my husband.I was making meals and things but all he wants to do is run me down..He is very forgetful,repeats often,talks to himself a lot.This man drives me crazy..Thanks just needed to vent..He makes everyone think the worst of my Husband and I..I am so tired of this.Gossips about everyone and everything.I want to confront him,but my husband says don't..My thoughts are I do not have anything to lose..I just hate sitting back listening to all the lies and negative comments..

Hi moosey
 

If he is so negative it is making you upset, it is time for husband to contact his doctors. My mother was difficult, so I have great empathy for you. Any time a family member has issues that effect all the others, I sure would vote to get the medical community involved. ginnie:grouphug::hug:

Hey moosey2me
 

What types of meds does he take ? I've had to put my 82 year old mother on valium. She just moved into an addition she built onto our home and this is our first week together......she has always been a negative person but was able to cover it up for years.....I am successful in turning her conversations in another direction but it is very exhausting. She continually talks about her meds...when she is suppose to take them....did she take them and so on.....on and on and on. I try to tell her we've already talked about it but that doesn't work either.

I'm so sorry you are going through this. At least my mother does not verbally attack anyone nor does she gossip. I ask the Good Lord daily for the wisdom and strength to help her out.

Getting him to his doctor is probably the best advise I can give you.

Please keep us posted and vent anytime you want to...we're here :hug:

Debi from Georgia

greatful
 

My husband will not hear of it..Getting doctors,because his brother and sisters will not back him..Get this he still drives too.Which is wrong..its like no one dares to stand up to him.I would,but my husband says stay away from him..He thinks he is always right.Talks about woman all the time.We all are tired of it..If I by chance run into him,I made up my mind,If I hear bads things again,I am going to ask him,if he is still a Christian,because the way he talks is terrible.I pray everyday all this bad behavior and negativety will stop and the good Lord will touch him..All the family just sits back and listens to him..I just can't ...When my dear mother-in-law was alive ,which past away 3 years ago this coming may,,he treated her terrible..downing her about her weight,always talking about woman and photos..She would get so upset by this.she would tell him stop,and he would be right back at it again the next day..God Bless Her..thank you so much for your words and kindness..This man makes my rsd flair..

Hi
 

If you can't take his behavior, leave the room and just don't talk to him or listen. Get him to the doctor. If your family doesn't support this, walk away, and just ignore him. go to another room, leave the house. He will get the point if no one listens. He should not drive in his mental state. He doesn't sound stable enough to..just my opinion. If he is like this in public he would be considered to be" not stable." I don't know if his Christian background would help at this point. I really do think his doctor should be involved. I am so sorry you have a difficult family member. I had issues with my mother that were hard to put up with as well, so I do understand. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers. ginnie