Dear John Letter
 

I got a Dear John Letter from Doug today. In other words, he's not interested.

befuddled2

I'm sorry Barb...I know how painful this is. (((Barb)))

Aw Barb.....sorry to hear that. :grouphug:
Does he still want to be a friend of yours? Or does he want nothing to do with you at all?

Thanks you two.

I got a friend to take a letter I had wrote to Doug's nurse letting him know I will not bother him that he doesn't have to avoid me. And that I hope the card that had already gone out in today's mail does not offend him. The letter also had the information I had gathered about the cats I looked at today. Doug's nurse told my friend when my friend tried to give the letter to her that Doug wants for me to quit harrassing him. I have not rang Doug's doorbell but one time since last Wednesday when i gave him the poem letting him know I have a crush on him. Doug invited me over last Wednesday so how the world was I harrassing him. I'm so upset.

befuddled

I think that with all that is going on, his humor may not be the best. But for now, and maybe for good, its best to be neighborly and that is all. I feel bad that your feelings got all caught up in it though.
Well, take it as a lesson, lick your wounds for a while and move on. I know that sounds hard but at this point its all you can do. You can mourn a friendship, but not too long okay???;)
:grouphug:

He may have his own past, issues & baggage that you don't even know about - better to find out now before you got in too deep.

He may have been to scared, shy or chicken to talk about it in person.

You can always look at it this way- at least he didn't string you along and use or abuse your friendship and affections.

I'm sorry that he reacted that way Barbara, I wish we could comfort you in some way. I am really sorry he has done this 360 when you'd been getting signals indicating he was interested in at least friendship. :(

I think having cancer "on your plate" is about all a person can handle at one time. Just give him the space for now and see what happens down the road.
(((Barb)))

I am sorry that this is so hard for you....
(((HUGS)))
bizi

Hi BF, I am so sorry that it turned out this way for you. I think that Alffe is right though that the cancer probably has him scared and in pain. Give him some time and maybe you can have a friendship with him later on. I know you enjoyed talking to him so don't necessarily give up on him, just give him some space.

When my BIL was going through chemo he had a drastic personality change, but after he quit it he came back around to his lovable self. Remember we are all here to talk to and be your friend...Sue :hug: