Have you ever wanted to tell people to shut up?
 

There are days when I can't tolerate hearing people talk...1. Have the time I am irritated by their voice, and more than not, I don't even know what the heck they are talking about. It isn't that I am not interested, it's like nails down a chalkboard.

It makes me agitated. To be honest, the information then comes off as useless, because I can't keep up with it.

I have experienced this too. I get zoned out trying to listen. I have learned to walk away rather than comment. I might make a statement such as "My brain is spinning right now and nothing is making sense." if the person(s) would even care. Or, 'I need to take a break from the conversation.'

Fast speech, multiple people talking, people talking with heavy accents, people with whiny voices and such can quickly over-burden my brain.

We each need to figure out our own system for responding to these situations based on our tolerance levels.

It does not help to speak up with attitude. Others will not understand, AT ALL and it only makes the situation more stressful. Quietly slipping away works best for me.

If someone asks what is going on, I sometimes use the term 'spaghetti brain.' I hear what everyone is saying but it is tangled up like a bowl of spaghetti.

Hope you can find a way to deal with this situation.

My best to you.

So Glad to know this is not me. My 18 year old daughter whom I love dearly, will corner me with these type of discussions. She gets upset because she thinks I am not listening....oh I hear her....it is just so darned nerve wracking and if I get one sentence that connects, I am lucky.

She needs to know that she needs to slow down with her speaking. She needs to make the sentences simple, no long complex sentences. If you are like me, it would work better if she texted or better, email her comments to you. I have almost not problem when I can read the comments. It also helps if others can reduce the emotion and angst in their speech.

I know this sounds convoluted but it is how our brains are processing verbal input. With just a bit of help from others, we can do much better.

It also helps to turn off any background voices, TV, radio, etc.

My best to you.

Oh I sure do!! If I am in a situation where I can get away from them, I usually just tell people I am really really noise sensitive and I am getting a bad headache. And then I just wander away - my family is used to me popping in and out of social events.

But if I am in a doctors office waiting room and cant get away I pop in my foam ear plugs or my noise cancelling earphones and try to calm myself down..

Its frustrating because I feel so socially isolated since my accident but now that I have a bit more energy and am trying to get out in the world again, the noise sensitivity makes me want to run for home again.

All the time. I have horrible response controls nowadays. I usually tell random people off at stores when I do get to go out. I do a lot of weird stuff nowadays and people notice it and make a comment or laugh at it. I have 0 tolerance for it and usually lay into someone good.

Im working on it slowly. At least Ive stopped swearing! :)

This definitely affects me, but not all the time (although I think I avoid a lot of situations like this, so maybe that's why it doesn't seem like such a problem at the moment?).

Recently I went to the pub with a group of people I know, but they aren't close friends. Only one of them knows about my head problems and they only know a little bit.

There were two other big tables, it's normally dead silent but it was loud and busy and I was getting really frustrated trying to filter so I could hear what my friends were saying.

At one point I asked a question and 3 people started answering it, I freaked out a bit and think I raised my voice louder than is appropriate to say something like 'I can't do that, can just one person speak!'
I felt really embarrassed when I thought about it later :(

Hi,

I have a sixteen year old daughter who was fourteen at the time of my accident/injury, and she would get so mad at me for not responding like I once did. She didn't realize I had to process all she had told me first, then try to speak with my word-finding, stuttering way that actually was what I meant to tell her.

2 years later, I can respond more timely and with more accuracy than before, but mostly she now understands my brain issues better. She now sees me struggling with words, and says, "it's okay, Mom. Just rest for now and we'll talk later." Thank God for my family, who are now accustomed to the new me! M-i-m

Yes. I have noticed that I have this issue as well. (I've been such a mess that many cognitive issues have eluded me). If I could walk away, I do. If I cannot, I try to end it asap. you are not alone...

I also should note, I know who to snap on and who not to snap on.

I dont snap really on anyone in my family. They know the situation, and when they see me get heated they know to back off.

Also, as someone who does snap all the time now since my injury, I should note that its a horrible idea, and makes you feel a lot worse.