Prayers for My Brother
 

hi everyone. my brother is struggling alot right now with his life both physically, emotionally and financially and any prayers for him to help him find his way back home would be greatly appreciated. thanks.

RSD ME,

Of course, you and your brother will be in my thoughts and prayers. It is very difficult when family are in Need.

Dave.

thank Englishdave. i really appreciate your kind thoughts and prayers.

Prayers and Healing Love are on the way.

:hug:

Praying your brother will soon find his way spiritually, physically, mentally and emotionally; bringing him back to his family and his way to a better life.


Gerry

Thoughts and prayers coming both your brother and you.

RSD ME. That's a difficult combination of suffering. Prayers:smileypray: BF:grouphug::hug::grouphug:

thank you all for your warm thoughts and prayers. your kindness and support mean alot. hugs.

RSD ME, sending your brother positive and caring thoughts.

thanks kiwi and everyone else for your prayers and caring thoughts. i'm still praying too that my brother will be okay. thanks again.

Just said a quick prayer for your brother.. I pray that his situation turns around soon. God Bless :)

Hi RSD ME,

Thoughts and prayers still coming from here for your brother. I know such a deep and complex situation will take a while to sort out, but hoping he can find the Path that leads to resolution.

Dave.

thank you all again for your kind words and prayers. i think my brother is starting to pick up the pieces of his life. i keep praying everyday that he will find his way back to health and happiness. thanks again to all for caring so much.

It is always rough when the people we love are suffering. It is good to be doing something constructive for your brother and asking folks here to reach out in prayer. Add me to the list....he is in my prayers. would you feel comfortable sharing his first name or initials? Thanks, Diandra
:grouphug:

thanks again to everyone for your prayers and support. my brothers name is russ and he is a great brother. he just fell into alot of bad luck lately and the depression has gotten the best of him. he also now has a serious illness that hopefully the drs can keep under control. i love him and all of you for all of your kindness. your prayers and caring thoughts have truly lifted my spirits. thank you again.

hi everyone. i was wondering if you could pray for my brother again. he is having a really hard time and though i've tried my best to help him he is still struggling. he has an addiction and for some unknown reason he won't let me help him to get better. i thought he was starting to find his way again but it was all just made up stories on his part. it breaks my heart to see him like this. i will never give up on him but in the meantime i would really appreciate all the prayers i can get to try to help him get better. thanks for listening to my heavy heart.

So sorry to hear your brother is still having problems. Addiction is so hard to let go of whatever it happens to be, drugs, alcohol. All too often they tell you what you want to hear. I'm glad you are not giving up on him. He needs to know, when he is ready, you will be there for him.

For years my daughter had a cocaine addiction/depression before she was able to admit she needed help. With the help of here sister, she went into a program. She did fail the first time. The second time/program was in 1997. She has been drug free since then. She has gotten certification and is now working with the addicted and their families.

Definitely will keep your brother in my prayers.


Gerry

thanks everyone for your kind thoughts. my brother was never one to ever take drugs or alcohol. he was very health conscious while we were growing up. but i believe he is bipolar and that it was undetected for a long time even from my parents and after a divorce he just snapped and said he turned to an addiction. he says he is not addicted anymore but his actions to me say otherwise. it is difficult to be sure because the symptoms of his addiction he said he had are similar to bipolar symptoms so i don't know if he is lying to me or not. i do know that he went from a well educated successful man with a beautiful home to an unemployed homeless man who is jumping from one friend to another and sleeping on their couch. i have begged him to go to a hospital with me to get help and then offered to help him get a place after he was better and he refused. i don't understand why he won't let me help him. he isn't happy right now but would rather be alone and homeless then have someone who loves him help him get his life back. i can only pray at this moment that he will find his way. and i always let him know i love him and will be there when he is ready to get the help he so desperately needs. i have never dealt with something like this before and am very sick with my own health problems with my rsd and i don't have alot of stamina or money to help him much. but i do my best. my mother and brothers have written him off and i don't want to be around them anymore because of this. they don't even want to deal with me because i am sick. it makes me very sad. i hope that he will find his way back to health and happiness. i pray for him everyday. thank you all so much for praying for him too. it means alot to me. you are really good friends.

Your brother is lucky to have a loving sister; but please take care of your health and try not to get too stressed.

I sent you a PM.


Gerry

RSD ME, I think that your brother is privileged to have a loving and caring sister like you.

I wish him all the best.

With care :hug:.

Rsd me
 

In my prayers
 

Just like Kiwi and Gerry said....you are a good sister and your brother is lucky to have someone like you by his side, when the rest of the family has turned away.

You are both in my prayers,
Diandra

i just wanted to thank all of you for all your prayers and kind words. you are all such awesome people and it means alot to know i have such caring friends. thanks again. i hope you all have a wonderful day today. take care.

there is a place where you can get...
 

dear friend

as a recovering addict myself
and after twenty year
and still the first thing i do
having my obsession lifted
does not mean i can entertain
anything that masked and took away
what i did not want to feel or address

what Gerry and others are correct in their assessment
you cannot be his save or anyone else
BUT, the most important thing I can offer as one
for your brother to know he can count on your
unconditional love
it is this kind of love needed
to know when he is ready to throw in the towel
YOU will be there for support
dear friend
operative word support
there isn't anything else you can do

i hope and pray
with what the real problems are
that take him to mask it
however insignificant it could be for one
it is so not the same for for those who do not suffer
addiction
so much bigger than the drug alcohol food sex gambling
and on and on
you are a precious sister
do not let go
do not stop giving him your unconditional love

you must take care of you before helping anyone else

i give you my love and a hug
to a very special woman
as things may be tough here
you can lean on me
love me

just wanted to say thanks again to all of you for your caring thoughts and kind words. my brother is still in denial of his addiction and won't go with me to see a dr. i don't understand why he can't see how much trouble he is in. his life is falling apart and he has lost everything and would prefer to be homeless then to come see me and go to a dr. its so frustrating and breaking my heart.

i will never give up on him though and will provide unconditional love and hope he gets the help he needs soon.

i also wanted to thank you eva for sharing your experience and advice on what to do for my brother. it made me feel better knowing that you got the help you needed and that you thought i was doing the right thing by sticking by him. i am so happy that you got help and got better. it takes a strong person to be able to do that and i am very proud of you.

i hope my brother can also find the strength he needs to get better too.
all i can do is be there for him and pray every day that he will.

thank you all again for being there to give me strength to deal with this. you are good friends indeed.

RSD ME,

Your commitment to your brother is admirable and should be held up to others as an example. Never stop loving him.

However, it is a fine line between being supportive and your brother feeling that you are pushing him. Always remember it is your purpose to hold up a light and lead the way. No-one can be forced in a direction they do not want, no matter how beneficial.

Never use the phrase 'You need to…' . Instead, show the benefits of what you are proposing, softly and calmly.

I do hope, for both your benefits, that this state of affairs does not continue too long.

Thinking of you.

Dave.

and so i would like to share
God
grant me the Serenity
to accept the things i Cannot change
the courage to change the things i Can
and the Wisdom to Understand the difference

Please apply to everyday life
but needed in your life now
more NOW than ever
step back
not to far
not to allow your life
to be all over the place
my dear
no doctor
except Dr. Bill
and his 12 step foundation
that all other fellowship follow
no doctor can save him
addiction
it IS
cunning and baffling
this i know for certain
your a great sister
no judging
just understanding
love
me

thanks eva for your helpful advice. and i love the serenity prayer. it is one of my favorite prayers! thank you for reminding me of it. i am trying to do the best i can with my brothers situation taking it a day at a time, but it's hard. and being chronically ill myself with rsd and fibro and eno doesn't help. but i'm taking your advice and trying to accept that i cannot be the one who helps my brother to get help. it has to be up to him. i will always have my hand out for him to hold when he is ready to get the much needed help he needs. i just hope he makes it to that point. i hope and i pray every day.

thank you englishdave for your great advice too. you're right too. i cannot push my brother into getting help. it has to be up to him. but i will hold a light for him when he is ready to get the help he needs. i hope he gets to the point that he will see he needs help before it's too late. i will keep praying for him and keep my promise to him that i will never give up on him.

You are doing all you can
All left in the end
Prayers the obsession be lifted
So the work ahead of him
Will hopefully be with persons
he has found in the rooms
NA NARCOTICS ANONYMOUS
AND A SAFE PLACE WITH YOU
at some point
When opportunity presents itself
You may want to express
When he is ready
YOU MAY WANT TO ACCOMPANY HIM TO HIS FIRST
NA MEETING
I must be a open meeting
You can search for this info in the blue pages of your
phone book
That is something you defiantly can do
As I had a friend hold my hand to my first meeting
It was a crisp sunny day
And it's been ongoing still
I am able to speak with my children about addiction

All over the place I went
Hope to have made sense
Love
Me

hi everyone. i was just wondering if you could pray for my brother again. he is in the very sick and is in the hospital. i am trying to help him but he is pushing me away and i don't know why. so i thought i could at least pray for him and ask my friends here at neurotalk if they would pray for him to get better too. thanks for all of your support. hugs to all.

Remember this
And also
Like myself
My daughter
My son
We had to get down on our knees
Addiction is just as painful as the physical pain we feel
Only
To have lost the privilege
To be a part of life on life's terms
I rather say
Life on Gods terms
We ARE given free will
I will pray for you and your brother
And for all the addicts out there
God bless
Here to lean on
Love
Me

RSD ME,

I am sure there will come a point where your brother turns to you and realises he needs the support you offer. It is hard, walking that self-destructive path, to admit you need help and harder to reach out to family.

You are doing everything you can and everything right. Just wait in hope and keep praying as we will with you.

Dave.

(((((( RSD ME and Brother )))))
 

Hi RSD ME,

You are an amazingly loving sibling to your brother.:)
Much love and ongoing prayer for you and for your brother!

Thanks for asking for support.
:hug:
DejaVu

Dear RSD ME
 

Hi,

I am praying for healing for your brother and strength for you in your support of him. It is so often when we are unwell that we fall into the arms of those who love us and realize how much we need them. I hope that the gift of clarity comes to your brother out of this, to see the wonderful support he has in you and to take solace in it. May he get well soon.

Sending healing love, :hug:

hi everyone. thank you all so much for caring so much about me and my brother. i'm sorry i haven't responded sooner but i've been pretty sick this past week. my rsd pain is flaring because of all the stress and weather changes that i am dealing with right now. but i'm trying to rest as much as i can so i can feel a little better. my brother seems to be doing a little better. he is out of the hospital after eight days there because of health problems due to his addiction and seems to be in good spirits. i am praying that he will continue to get better and i thank all of you for your kindness, support and prayers too. i couldn't handle all this without the help of all of you. i hope and pray that you are all doing well and that you have a wonderful day. hugs to all.

Continued Love and Prayers for both you and your brother, RSD ME. I hope you are feeling better.
:hug:
Deja

hi everyone. i was wondering if you could pray some more for my brother. he is still struggling with his addictions and has now distanced himself from me. i worry about him every day but know now that i cannot help him until he is ready to get the help he needs to get better and be happy again. i am praying for him too every day and leaving it in God's hands now. i know He will help him find his way back to the brother I used to know. thanks for listening. i just needed to talk.
p.s. i still feel so guilty and lost because i told my brother that even though i will always love him, i had to distance myself from him until he was ready to get help. the stress on trying to deal with him was affecting my already compromised health and making me more sick causing me stomach problems. i miss him so much and want to reach out to him and tell him i still love him and wish him a Merry Christmas but i am afraid that he will stress me out again because of his addiction and mental illness. it's so hard and so painful to be dealing with this, especially during the holidays. i am very sad and miss my brother. i hope he returns to me one day as the person i once knew before addiction came into his life.

I have been thinking about you and your brother over the past few days. Sorry things have taken this turn. Be patient, you do have to look after yourself first.

Dave.