i'm home
 

just letting you all know i am home. i can't go into all the details but there was an extremely inappropriate situation between my 11 yr. old nephew and my 3 year old daughter. my brother-in-law of course coddled his son and somehow turned it around to be my 3 year old's fault. he yelled and screamed at me in front of my children and told us that we were never welcome ever again and told us to get the hell out. my sister and 2 nieces are in florida and basically she stuck up for her husband and kid, too. mind you, this is a kid that is 11 years old and still sleeps with his parents and wets the bed. he is a known liar and troublemaker by all our family. his dad lets him get away with murder (he put a cat in the dryer and killed it when he was younger) and my sister is too chicken to stand up to his wrath.

i am crushed. i feel like a neglectful parent. i had such a bad flare last night that i had to drive with my arms thru the steering wheel because i couldn't feel my hands. they hurt so bad today and that crap the dr. gave me the other day isn't working but i feel like i can't go in with yet ANOTHER catastrophic story because it all sounds fake. only me. how can one person get dealt such a bad deck?

i am leaving for a few days. i'm having terrible thoughts and i don't feel safe. i appreciate any prayers you raise up for me and my family.

shalom

Good thing you left there - protecting your daughter is the best thing to do in that situation. I hope it wasn't too serious of a incident:( .
The other family will have to deal with their own problems, probably soon it sounds like. I hope they will see soon that their boy needs some boundaries or an evaluation even. Are his sisters older or younger?
Sometimes it can be innocent curiosity if kids are close in age, that was too much of an age difference for that excuse.

Hugs, you and your daughter are in my prayers. That 11 yr old needs help, be it mental or emotional. The action towards your daughter was inappropriate and his other actions have been inappropriate, I would call social services. They should investigate before he turns his anger onto a child or, like your daughter, becomes inappropriate again but worse.

It's not your fault!
 

You did nothing wrong and you are a terific mom, don't let anyone tell you diffrent.. Jo and Junk have it right you did the right thing now you have to make sure your daughter knows she did nothing wrong to make him yell.. that it is not her fault and that mommys not mad at her.

And big hugs for you mom bravo on you momma bear!

:hug:

You are a great mom..I know that because you did something about it. Just hold your head up and take care of yourself and your daughter. I do know that if it wasn't to horrible, just keeping your emotions under control will make it easier for her. Don't lose touch with us.
Mary

i have reached my destination. i'm in a good place for a couple of days. to let you know - it was oral " inappropriateness" that my 3 year old was asked to do (and did because she didn't know any better). i didn't want to go into details as i know that there are younger readers on here, but i want to let you know the severity of this and it isn't something that i am blowing out of proportion. it wasn't simple curiosity.

thank you all for your prayers and thoughts. i will be checking in.

i'm exhausted...

love & shalom

My Heart Go's Out To You...
 

Oh honey, we put our children in the hands of others we believe to be trustworthy. It is NOT your fault this happened, that boy has major issues. He has been abused somewhere down the line, his abuse might still be continuing. Your daughters will not and that makes you a GREAT mom. Stay strong, and should your daughter show the need for counseling at any time as she gets older, don't be alarmed just supportive.

You have my deepest love and hugs.

dear ang,

i am so so so so sorry that you and your kids are going through all of these tough times. sometimes it just seems like you can't catch a break. sometimes it seems like everybody else is going on with their life and everyting is perfect for them and why can't it be like that for us? i can't imagaine how tired, hurt, stressed, depressed, angry, etc. you must be. add all the physical pain you are enduring to all of the mental anguish you are suffering and i just know that things are going to get better for you. i wish there was something i could do for, is there? i feel so useless, i want to DO something to help you. i will definitely be praying for you and your kids and i hope something good comes your way very soon. hope you are having the best day possible, jen:hug: