a part of me has changed
 

I had this strong loyalty streak and would carry it to an extreme. there was a lot of self sacrifice. yesterday something changed. I really like alicia and she does minimal housework. One time she didn't even clean the bathroom. a lot of times she doesn't clean the bathroom sink. she doesn't vacuum and she is done in an hour maybe. she isn't allowed to come today because of something to do with paperwork. she is also an animal lover and feeds 10 feral cats and donates clothes to people. she is so pleasant. if her replacement does a good job of cleaning i will ask her if she wants to be my permanent aide. that would be a first. It goes against my nature.

I think I see what you are saying.


Are you feeling like you are sticking up for your own needs today?

We can still keep our nature and then make modifications as circumstances
unfold.


I hope things work out for you today and that you are pleased with her replacement.

M

I feel like I am sticking up for my own needs today but it is at a loss.I have been like this all my life in variations. when I got Pumpkins, my beloved kitty cat and introduced her to flora, it seemed that pumpkins fell in love with flora and couldn't get enough of her. I loved Pumpy but I asked flora if she wanted her. I don't think it was poor self image or I that I didn't feel I deserved her.
I do hope I like this woman. Now I feel I am sacrificing for Alicia. I forgot if I mentioned that I have given her a lot of nice things because I want to see her happy.

I hope that like your replacement, new house keeper/helper.
Will you still have contact with alicia? closure?
((((HUGS))))
bizi

it depends how it works out with the new one

Bobby
I personally think you are doing a good thing for you. You need
someone that will clean. I'm guessing this one will be friendly
if she thinks you want her to be.

Donna :hug::grouphug:

I so hope you are right

I really liked the woman who cleaned. she was a dynamo with strong worth ethic and a lot on her plate. all sorts of ailments.she is free on wednesday but she says she needs two permanent jobs or else she wouldn;t work for me. It would be a matter of luck if the agency found her another permanent job near me for wednesday. she even cleaned my feet that weren;t that dirty and put coconut oil on them and won with socks. I didn't even ask her.
I went to the doctor and my blood pressure wasn;t that bad and the nurse stuck my finger and the blood sugar wasn;t that bad. my bipolar was very bad and he said he knew I had been a psychologist but he could help me find a therapist/ I told him about this group. He repeated it a couple of more times and made sure I was going to the psychiatrist. the girl that went with me was lovely.

Wow! Your new cleaning lady washed your feet?????
coconut oil is good for many things!
We made the mistake of buying a jar of it that wasn't first cold pressed.
It did not have that coconut odor, nor taste....could not take it back.
sigh

Glad that your ride to the doctors office worked out well.

Glad that your blood sugar was ok.
hang in there Bobby.
Remember we are not professionals....but we do care and have shared our stories with each other.
I am very thankful for our little group here.
(((((HUGS)))))
bizi

Bobby,

I love that the cleaning lady was good to you.


M