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Xtine 09-12-2018 08:32 AM

Want my Mum back
 
Hi, I'm new here and found these forums while looking for a health question and found this group.
I lost my mum 3 months ago. She went in for keyhole surgery and was supposed to come home the next day and then she passed. I got a call asking me to come in and my Mum was gone..
Just like that and they cant even tell me how or what happened. The coroners are still investigating and they think it may be something about her care at the hospital.. and at this point cant say exactly.
I can't accept it ..I try to but I cant believe she is gone. Mum was with me and my son for so many years and she was our everything. I miss her every single moment and I really don't know if I can get through this. It hurts so much. I try hold it together for my son but i have not been well since ..
I know it will never be the same and I tell myself I have to learn to live with this pain but I honestly don't once how to. The pain is so much and I cant seem to accept that she is really gone .
I want her back so much.
Thanks for reading and I have been reading posts here and it's so true that you dont really know how bad it feels until you go through it.
Thanks again for reading

ger715 09-19-2018 10:03 AM

Xtine,
So sorry for your loss. Even more difficult because it appears she was very close with you and your son. Those beautiful memories will always be there.


Gerry

Xtine 09-22-2018 04:03 AM

Thank you Gerry . Yrs we were very close and miss her lots.
Appreciate your response .

6thCranialNerve 09-23-2018 05:47 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Xtine (Post 1267491)
Hi, I'm new here and found these forums while looking for a health question and found this group.
I lost my mum 3 months ago. She went in for keyhole surgery and was supposed to come home the next day and then she passed. I got a call asking me to come in and my Mum was gone..
Just like that and they cant even tell me how or what happened. The coroners are still investigating and they think it may be something about her care at the hospital.. and at this point cant say exactly.
I can't accept it ..I try to but I cant believe she is gone. Mum was with me and my son for so many years and she was our everything. I miss her every single moment and I really don't know if I can get through this. It hurts so much. I try hold it together for my son but i have not been well since ..
I know it will never be the same and I tell myself I have to learn to live with this pain but I honestly don't once how to. The pain is so much and I cant seem to accept that she is really gone .
I want her back so much.
Thanks for reading and I have been reading posts here and it's so true that you dont really know how bad it feels until you go through it.
Thanks again for reading

I hope you will follow up and follow through with the cause of your Mum's death. If it was malpractice, they will try and hide it from you for sure. You may want to obtain legal counsel. I would start by obtaining the medical records for your Mum's hospital stay. Find a medial malpractice attorney who will read your Mum's case. I am an OR nurse and I know you should have been made to understand exactly what happened and have no doubts if this was unavoidable. So sorry for your loss!

Saffy 10-15-2018 03:01 PM

Briefly,because I can’t type much at the moment due to pain.

Losing your Mum is life changing, I am so sorry.

If you want to chat please pm me.

My Mum passed elsewhere, on August 11 2017 and it’s still as raw as it eve was.

Don’t feel alone x

KCat 04-30-2022 01:06 PM

KC
 
So sorry for you both especially with Mothers Day around the corner. I lost my mom in 2020 to covid in a nursing home with iver 50 deaths. I am soo broken and not well because of it. Im on here because I got CRPS because of PTSD from loss so i know how sick you feel and your poor son as im soo close to my grandkids. I dont tjink i woukd havd made it without my family. But it is still just us that hurt every hour of the day please feel free to talk. If there is one think i learned is thst u cant talk to people unless yhey r going thru it. Im bitter and please pursue because what went on in that nursing home and eas no help.


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